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Deal or No deal - 4/13/2007 2:15:19 PM
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John_O
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This thread is a discussion of what would break the deal for you.
Assume your intended is perfect EXCEPT for the questioned characteristic, would that break the deal for you. Please also explain why. This will help us to know each other better as well to have a better understanding of what we are looking for in a mate.
I took the last question from the closed thread as a logical starting point.
DOND: Has to deal with the impending deaths of immediate family within the upcoming year.
Moderator's note: this thread has administrative approval. 
< Message edited by ladioffaith -- 4/13/2007 2:40:04 PM >
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RE: Deal or No deal - 4/13/2007 2:40:26 PM
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DOND: Someone who places God before you, in church every time the door is open.
Isn't that how it's supposed to be? The hard word is Every. If you can change that to 99% of the time then that's me and we'd be together there.
DOND: They work as a forums administrator and somehow manage to irritate 1/2 of the population no matter what they do
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RE: Deal or No deal - 4/13/2007 2:42:26 PM
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DOND: Someone who places God before you, in church every time the door is open.
Someone who places God before me? It would be a dealbreaker for me if I did come before God in his life.
Now, the whole at church every time the door is open thing might be an area that needs discussion, but it would not be a dealbreaker for me.
DOND: Did not want biological children.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 4/13/2007 3:11:48 PM
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DOND: Did not want biological children.
Not a deal-breaker for me. I'd love to have one or two more children, but if he doesn't want more children, or if we're unable, it wouldn't bother me, as I already am a parent.
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DOND: Hates to do laundry.
No problem, I actually enjoy doing laundry. Though, he needs to be trainable if he has really dirty laundry (like after a Saturday morning of yard work.  )
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DOND: Wanted to adopt children.
No deal. If I'm going to have children, I'd rather have my own, or I will adopt his as my own. But adopting someone else's children, if there's little background, has never been very appealing to me.
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Purchase or Keep Lookin'?: Only wants to live in one geographic region.
As long as it's in my geographic region, Deal! For me to move, I'd have to leave my child, my future grandchildren, my aging parents, my extended family, my church family, and my home town. Other than that, I wouldn't mind moving to another area of the country.
DOND: He/She is healthy, but has a family gene that means they would very likely produce children with a major disability (i.e. Downs Syndrome, Sickle Cell Anemia, etc.) (This came up in a conversation with a co-worker today and I immediately thought "what a perfect DOND question. )
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RE: Deal or No deal - 4/13/2007 3:22:17 PM
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DOND: Did not want biological children.
no deal. I'm the last of my line and feel a strong desire to have more kids
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DOND: Hates to do laundry.
If she doesn't mind all her whites being pink then I'll do the laundry. Deal
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DOND: Wanted to adopt children.
depends. After we have a couple kids of our own. Deal. Instead of having kids of our own, no deal.
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Purchase or Keep Lookin'?: Only wants to live in one geographic region.
As long as it's my region. Deal
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DOND: He/She is healthy, but has a family gene that means they would very likely produce children with a major disability (i.e. Downs Syndrome, Sickle Cell Anemia, etc.) (This came up in a conversation with a co-worker today and I immediately thought "what a perfect DOND question. )
Wow. that's tough. I want to say that I'd say deal but I just can't. After dealing with Michele's illness i'm just not strong enough to go there yet.
DOND: has an uncanny ability to start threads that are all but instantly closed.
(Hey, Maybe we can talk about women having long hair! )
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RE: Deal or No deal - 4/13/2007 3:52:25 PM
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He and his friends had Lan parties on a regular basis... DOND?
Deal as long as those parties are not taking so much time from the relationship that it is hurting because of it.
DOND: Has a need to watch as many Orioles and Ravens games as possible???
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RE: Deal or No deal - 4/13/2007 4:01:39 PM
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DOND: Hates to do laundry.
If she doesn't mind all her whites being pink then I'll do the laundry. Deal
Haha. I had to laugh. All my friends tell me I do laundry "like a man" because I just put everything in one load and turn it on. So... most of my whites are a little "blue" or "pink", etc.
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DOND: He/she issues empty threats on occasion.
Um, I don't really want to be threatened at all! Real or empty! So no deal!
DOND: He/She is addicted to a TV show you hate.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 4/13/2007 4:10:15 PM
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DOND.....only wants a spouce with long hair?
I'd have to say no deal. being a guy I look absolutely wretched in long hair.
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He and his friends had Lan parties on a regular basis... DOND?
NO deal. I'm not interested in guys. If it was a girl though then I'd have to ask what a LAN party is.
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DOND: Has a need to watch as many Orioles and Ravens games as possible???
Skip the Orioles games and if the ravens aren't playing the Packers why bother watching? Probably still deal though. I'll let her watch her games as long as I get to watch mine. and she doesn't make me sit through the baseball games.
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DOND: They have 5 checking accounts and 5 savings accounts, at 5 different banks.
If there's money in each account. Deal. If the accounts are overdrawn, no deal. (I bank at three banks (and one mortage company) so far)
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Hmmmm, I'd have to think about that one. (And if you start another thread on long hair, I'll cut my hair, which has, incidently, grown two inches since that thread.
Well then I won't start it. Besides, the'd close it on me.
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DOND: He/she issues empty threats on occasion.
Absolutely no deal. There are no such things as empty threats. (I'm assuming you don't mean the joking "I'll bite your nose" type of thing)
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DOND: He/She is addicted to a TV show you hate.
deal. reading or computer time. As long as it's just one show.
DOND: They are unsatisfied (but very secure) at their job
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RE: Deal or No deal - 4/13/2007 4:42:01 PM
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DOND: Silly Putty is something they keep in large quantities.
deal. Oddly enough human skin has almost the exact specific density of silly putty (or so I've been told)
DOND: they are a wealth of trivial knowledge. (Picture Cliff Claven on Cheers but better looking)
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RE: Deal or No deal - 4/13/2007 5:55:31 PM
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DOND: Has to deal with the impending deaths of immediate family within the upcoming year. Death is a part of life . . . I would want to be there to provide prayer and emotional support.
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DOND: Someone who places God before you, in church every time the door is open.
Deal on placing God before me, very most definitely. However, I don't necessarily think that is synonymous with being in church every time the door is open (nor do I think such behaivor is necessary; nor do I automatically consider this behaivor to necessarily reflect a deep Spiritual life and relationship with Our Lord).
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DOND: They work as a forums administrator and somehow manage to irritate 1/2 of the population no matter what they do LOL. Deal. Again, uplifting him in prayer and providing emotional support would be one way I could be there for him.
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DOND: Did not want biological children. It's a moot point with me at this point in my life, so my answer would be N/A.
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DOND: Hates to do laundry. No biggie; I don't hate it. I could do the laundry and he could put fresh sheets on the bed (which I DO hate to do . . . I love fresh sheets; just hate putting them on the bed).
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DOND: Wanted to adopt children. I would consider it.
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Purchase or Keep Lookin'?: Only wants to live in one geographic region. I would want to discuss his reasonings and his desires in this regard.
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DOND: He/She is healthy, but has a family gene that means they would very likely produce children with a major disability (i.e. Downs Syndrome, Sickle Cell Anemia, etc.) (This came up in a conversation with a co-worker today and I immediately thought "what a perfect DOND question. )
Again, a moot point with me; N/A
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DOND: has an uncanny ability to start threads that are all but instantly closed. LOL! John, perhaps your siggy is a bit, uhm, too prophetic.
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DOND.....only wants a spouce with long hair? 
Truthfully . . . at this point in my life, NO Deal. I have been playing with my hair for a few months now, and I am really REALLY loving it. In December, I had 12" of long straight hair cut off and the rest (which is about 1/2" past the lobes of my ears) put in a spiral perm. A month ago, I had it colored auburn red. I'm having a LOT of fun doing this . . . and it has lifted my spirits and has given me some extra confidence that I didn't even know I needed. And quite frankly, I'm really enjoying the compliments I'm getting. And depending on what I "do" with my hair in the mornings . . . I can have fluffy hair or tight curly hair; a "do" for all moods. LOL
I realize that not all of my answer deals specifically with long hair . . . but for me, it's the idea behind the philosophy that I'm addressing . . . that a wife cannot change her looks unless her husband approves. There is more to me than my beauty; and while I will want my husband to notice and appreciate my beauty, I will also desire that he appreciate ALL aspects of me; not just the externals. Placing emphasis on my keeping my hair long negates this.
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He and his friends had Lan parties on a regular basis... DOND? I have no idea . . . WHAT are Lan parties?
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DOND: Has a need to watch as many Orioles and Ravens games as possible???
Or as many Jayhawks games as possible? Deal. He can teach me about the games he watches (or are we talking birding here . . . orioles, ravens, jayhawks? heehee; I have binoculars - deal).
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DOND: They have 5 checking accounts and 5 savings accounts, at 5 different banks.
This would only be an issue if he refused to put me on all his accounts after we get married. Money should not be a separate thing between a husband and wife.
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DOND: He/she issues empty threats on occasion. Depends on the motive behind them. LOL. Are they really "empty" or is it covering up something that needs to be discussed.
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DOND: He/She is addicted to a TV show you hate.
Depends. Is my attitude toward such show because I consider it inane or because it is unGodly in some way? If it's inane - I can always go do something else during that time. If it's unGodly, no deal.
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DOND: They are unsatisfied (but very secure) at their job This is a toughie. Lots of conversation would have to take place before I would make a DOND decision either way.
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DOND: Silly Putty is something they keep in large quantities. While I would consider "large quantities" of silly putty to be quite bizarre for and adult to have on hand, I don't think I would run screaming for the hills because of this.
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DOND: they are a wealth of trivial knowledge. (Picture Cliff Claven on Cheers but better looking) Deal; trivia is fun and interesting and, even sometimes, actually educational (although Cliff Claven, in his totality, is definitley not for me).
YES OR NO: Outside of the basic precept of WHO God is, they don't have a lot of black and white areas in their life (including all aspects . . . Spiritual, Political, etc.)
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RE: Deal or No deal - 4/13/2007 6:16:08 PM
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Boy, do I have alot of catching up to do. But you did say the purpose was to get to know each other better. So here goes...
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DOND: Did not want biological children.
Deal cause I'm old anyway. But seriously, I'm in my 40's and as this is a real issue to younger people, I do not want to have more children. I suppose this means John will not talk to me now. But anyway, I'd enjoy stepchildren or grandchildren.
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DOND: Hates to do laundry.
Deal. I don't mind laundry at all. He can do the yard work on Saturday mornings and I'll do the laundry.
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Purchase or Keep Lookin'?: Only wants to live in one geographic region
Deal: Most guys in their 40's are settled in.
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DOND: Has a need to watch as many Orioles and Ravens games as possible???
Deal. I grew up near Baltimore and still love those O's.
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DOND: They have 5 checking accounts and 5 savings accounts, at 5 different banks
Deal: This may mean that there is an abundance of moola. Banks only insure up to 100k don't they? Maybe he has $500,000.
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DOND: He/She is addicted to a TV show you hate.
Deal. TV shows are temporary. There are plenty of other stuff to do...like laundry and being in church every time the doors are open.
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DOND: they are a wealth of trivial knowledge. (Picture Cliff Claven on Cheers but better looking)
Deal. I've been looking for a guy with just this quality. I love witty conversation.
DOND: Is trying to pay off an extremely large debt
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RE: Deal or No deal - 4/13/2007 7:19:17 PM
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DOND: Is trying to pay off an extremely large debt
I think it would depend on what the debt is from.. school loans, no problem. Gambling? Definitely no deal.
DOND: He/She has a job where they put their life on the line every day.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 4/13/2007 7:53:08 PM
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YES OR NO: Outside of the basic precept of WHO God is, they don't have a lot of black and white areas in their life (including all aspects . . . Spiritual, Political, etc.)
No deal. I once dated someone like that. Totally pliable and puttyin my hands (not silly putty however). That can be entertaining for about 10 minutes and then it becomes a nightmare. I prefer someone with set opinions (even if some of them don't agree with mine)
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DOND: Did not want biological children.
Deal cause I'm old anyway. But seriously, I'm in my 40's and as this is a real issue to younger people, I do not want to have more children. I suppose this means John will not talk to me now.
Now that makes me sad. Have I ever snubbed anyone on this board just because we have different goals in life?
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DOND: Is trying to pay off an extremely large debt
Probably no deal depending onthe circumstances. If it's a legitimate unavoidable thing (medical bills maybe?) then it's a deal. else no deal
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DOND: He/She has a job where they put their life on the line every day.
probably no deal. I've already lost one wife. Couldn't bear to lose another.
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DOND: Someone who is critical.
No deal. I can take constructive critiscism with the best of them but I will not put up with someone who has a critical spirit.
DOND: Has an occasional rebell against authority streak.
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