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Has Being Single Affected Your Career Choice? - 9/25/2008 8:54:32 AM
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rgod
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Has your marital status ever influenced your career decision? I ask this because I know someone who, a few years ago, turned down her dream job, which involved her relocating to a new country every 2 or 3 years. It was a job that she fought hard for. Lots of people want this job and very very few are chosen from the tens of thousands of candidates each year. She was offered the position, but when she really contemplated the moving - and when she started speaking to others who were in that similar position, she thought that if she took it, she would never get married. I'm making no judgement about her decision - I understand it - and given the pressures of that particular type of position, I can see how it would be difficult for marriages to survive and relationships to flourish. I was thinking about this the other day. Often people will give up certain careers or take certain careers because they need to support a family or want to be stable.
I have sought God's will for my career and know basically what I am called to do. But, I have also deliberately been working on developing certain types of skills within that field so that when I am married and have small children, I will have the flexibility to work from home.
So what about you? Has singleness - or a possible marriage/family - or being a single parent - affected your career choice?
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RE: Has Being Single Affected Your Career Choice? - 9/25/2008 10:08:07 AM
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John_O
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I chose this career well before I was married so it really hasn't affected my decision much.
I would like to exapnd into Law but my current obligations (bad habits like eating, and sleeping indoors, and taking care of my daughter) preclude that at the moment.
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RE: Has Being Single Affected Your Career Choice? - 9/25/2008 11:32:21 AM
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Yeah, like, I had to choose to have a career OTHER than WIFE and IN ADDITION TO sahm.
I do not yet know what my "career" will be, but I will say I am enjoying school.
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RE: Has Being Single Affected Your Career Choice? - 9/25/2008 11:34:20 AM
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I'm not sure if being single has anything to do with it; maybe it's the money issue that made me into a bean counter.....
However, if money is no concerned, I'll probably be in SAR. It would also be cool to be a chicken sexer for a few months, lol. (don't you guys watch Dirty Jobs?)
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RE: Has Being Single Affected Your Career Choice? - 9/25/2008 11:34:38 AM
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Being never married/no kids has allowed me to relocate throughout the country for a variety of schooling/work opportunities. I have LOVED it!
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RE: Has Being Single Affected Your Career Choice? - 9/25/2008 11:41:17 AM
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WaitingforBoaz
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Being single again has changed my career choice.
I chose SAHHM (Stay at Home Homeschooling Mom) But God chose differently when he took my husband home to be with Him, so, I will be starting school in just a few weeks.
I am just getting my feet wet with a few computer classes, but, I will start full time next fall, in order to pursue my paralegal certificate. It is a 2 year program. Starting pay is what I make now on average and goes up from there, I enjoy law and always have but the reason I chose it is because of the start pay and the fact that I can get the certificate in 2 years. I am not at all excited about it. Can you tell? I am hoping that will change once I get started. [/eeyore]
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RE: Has Being Single Affected Your Career Choice? - 9/25/2008 5:47:59 PM
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Where I work I could be moving to a different country every 2-4 years. I've been in the UK since 2004 precisely because I thought I'd be more likely to meet someone at home. I don't want to go to some country being over 30 and single. My worst nightmare would be to get there and everyone's in couples. I'd rather live with my mother than face pity/derision/ridicule. And I still haven't met anyone. Can't even get a date.
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RE: Has Being Single Affected Your Career Choice? - 9/25/2008 6:12:00 PM
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So what about you? Has singleness - or a possible marriage/family - or being a single parent - affected your career choice? Being single has effected mine in that it freed me up to be the one to move home and take care of my father. The job I currently do I took when I moved home to take care of my father. It is not a career it is a job, which at the time was a blessing because it is very flexible and since I don't have immediate supervision, sometimes not seeing my boss for months, it gave me the freedom to pick him up for the doctor, run home when he was having low sugar or his heart was acting up, and also to have the girls come to work with me when it was needed.
I don't really have much ambition to find a career..........the things I love to do are more non paying type things........or don't pay enough for me to do full time.
Except for the people I work for my joy really isn't very enjoyable nor rewarding........I actually found more enjoyment in taking care of my father, cooking, grocery shopping and running his errands.........silly I know LOL
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RE: Has Being Single Affected Your Career Choice? - 9/25/2008 6:51:30 PM
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I honestly don't know if I would do a job with so many night shifts if I were married.
Looking around my office, five of my collegues are married ...the other five of us are single ... and of those, two are dating each other.
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RE: Has Being Single Affected Your Career Choice? - 9/25/2008 7:18:14 PM
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She was offered the position, but when she really contemplated the moving - and when she started speaking to others who were in that similar position, she thought that if she took it, she would never get married.
Unfortunately, some people do make decisions based on something that may happen in the future. The problem with that is we do not know what will happen.  If you do meet someone and plan to marry ... you can always change jobs at that point ... but I am not sure why placing the limits on job choices before your married as if you already were married is wise.
It's good to have skills that transfer to a different lifestyle should God call you to that lifestyle (meaning from single life to married life) but to place limits that God is not placing at the time ... well ... not so good.
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RE: Has Being Single Affected Your Career Choice? - 9/25/2008 8:10:28 PM
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joy2give2u
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Hey Karen how are the spider bites?
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RE: Has Being Single Affected Your Career Choice? - 9/27/2008 12:37:13 AM
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My career lends itself well to being single or married. Being single didn't influence my decision, and getting married won't affect my career choice unless I decide to stay home.
Hey, Kuku! I've got an idea for your signature:
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RE: Has Being Single Affected Your Career Choice? - 9/28/2008 5:43:55 PM
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No, and I'll tell you why. The opportunity to have a career in one work discipline has been a real joke to me. All I've been able to do is locate jobs that I could clearly apply my spiritual gifts to (maybe they are not that difficult to find), and then go along for the ride, as it were. Granted, there have been some really attractive folks in my work history, yet all were spoken for datewise, or had been married and were recently divorced and already dating again, etc..
I think it's also been a blessing to me, because I know of too many people who exit college looking around for a job that matches their diploma, and it isn't there. So, all I need is a job that pays me a lot of money to be nice to people, and I'll have it made, unless I go grumpy on the whole thing. 
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RE: Has Being Single Affected Your Career Choice? - 10/1/2008 5:50:21 PM
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Yes, because I never wanted a career in the first place. The original plan was to be married right out of college, make babies, and be a SAHM. Not the plan that occurred.
This year I celebrated my 10-year anniversary in my job. The position title has changed (and will change next year). My work team has changed several times (and will change next year). But I'm pretty much doing the same kind of work I've done since 1998.
Being single should have afforded me more opportunities to do lots of things careerwise. But being ME has not. Why? Because I am so hesitant to seek change. I almost went to seminary. Didn't follow through on that. (I decided I didn't really need it.) Almost went to grad school. Didn't do that. (Decided it was too expensive an endeavor just to merely study literature or writing more deeply.)
But I have done a lot of things that when I was a young gal I didn't think I'd end up doing (or choosing to do). Been on three mission trips. Taught classes. Tutored people. Performed in musical theater shows. Lots of small-time stuff. But the "bigness" really doesn't matter to me anymore. (And this is from the gal who used to dream of being a Broadway diva.)
I have realized that I am more artistically bent than I had originally thought, and now it matters more to me to be creative throughout the week than it does to have a particular job/career/vocation that fits me perfectly. So many avenues lend themselves to flexing my creative and intellectual muscles.
I think life, jobs, and such are really more about what you do with the opportunities presented to you... and with the opportunities to go find out about further opportunities! =D Stewardship... it's about stewardship.
So... singleness hasn't limited me or freed me. (Well, maybe it's given me more flexibility than I realize. But singlehood is all I've known so far.) What has limited me is fear. I have limited myself. (Well, yes, there are limitations in life, just taking into consideration that we are human and therefore limited.) I don't think I've explored the wide swath of the open space God has put me in. But He continues to teach me to trust Him, so I know that more adventures await me.
I'm hoping those adventures include a husband and children joining me on them... and laughing and crying and smiling a lot together!
Joy in the journey.......... joy in the journey.
And may we reach the final Destination with as many people holding our hands as we possible can! =D
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RE: Has Being Single Affected Your Career Choice? - 10/4/2008 10:31:38 PM
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Odile
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yes. I did not want a career. Nor do I want one now. Not that I was looking for a man to support me financially, but I always dreamed of caring for a husband, house, and children. I even hoped to work part time as well as do a lot of volunteering. But alas, that is not the case.
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RE: Has Being Single Affected Your Career Choice? - 10/5/2008 10:37:16 AM
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agapemami
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If I were married, I would not have been able to move from east to west coast the way that I did. Pick up and go.
and now looking for employment in other states just because I can! Id even take a job in another country if I knew how to get one...I hope to get employment in a global company, just so I can relocate or work in another country once in awhile!
If I were married with several kids, my dream would be to stay home. No sign of that anywhere.
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RE: Has Being Single Affected Your Career Choice? - 10/5/2008 11:07:36 AM
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agapemami
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Prairie,
What is a bean counter? do you work in a bean factory or in a farm? Curious.
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I'm not sure if being single has anything to do with it; maybe it's the money issue that made me into a bean counter.....
However, if money is no concerned, I'll probably be in SAR. It would also be cool to be a chicken sexer for a few months, lol. (don't you guys watch Dirty Jobs?)
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