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How do you build meaningful relationships? - 8/25/2008 9:08:07 PM
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SNOW_MAN
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How do you build meaningful relationships?
I've got a lot of problems spiritually and I have character flaws. I need godly relationships but I'm struggleing to build them. I need help but i'm kind of a loner.
Any Godly advice would be helpful.
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RE: How do you build meaningful relationships? - 8/25/2008 9:33:24 PM
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Wild-Rose
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Do you go to a good church? Get involved with groups such as prison ministry, the kitchen ministry (if you cook) the garden if you like that, the music, the teen age kids, whatever you can be useful. If you don't know, ask your paster. He's probably been praying about some position he needs filled. Joining groups is a natural way to meet people and make friends.
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RE: How do you build meaningful relationships? - 8/25/2008 10:27:13 PM
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deermousie
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God made us to be parts of the Body of Christ, and as such, we need each other. See the verses at 1 Cor 12:
14Now the body is not made up of one part but of many. 15If the foot should say, "Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body," it would not for that reason cease to be part of the body. 16And if the ear should say, "Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body," it would not for that reason cease to be part of the body. 17If the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be? 18But in fact God has arranged the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. 19If they were all one part, where would the body be? 20As it is, there are many parts, but one body.
21The eye cannot say to the hand, "I don't need you!" And the head cannot say to the feet, "I don't need you!" 22On the contrary, those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, 23and the parts that we think are less honorable we treat with special honor. And the parts that are unpresentable are treated with special modesty, 24while our presentable parts need no special treatment. But God has combined the members of the body and has given greater honor to the parts that lacked it, 25so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. 26If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.
27Now you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is a part of it.
That was longish, but God says we need each other. What that means to you, SNOW_MAN, is that you need all of us and (get this!) all of us need you. Wow! You are needed! The body of Christ is incomplete without you. So God says you are "in." Even if the sheep of God are too dense to figure that out. God knows it, and it's His will that we love one another. (1 Pet. 1:22)
How does this work itself out? We all help each other: we listen to each other, we open doors for people who have their arms full of stuff, we call someone who's been sick and ask how they are, we pray, we bring soup maybe to the sick person, we volunteer our help to the helpless (DD and I worked in a kitchen at a rescue mission 6 months, and I was amazed how much fun it was. We just went to help), we help on missions maybe, all kinds of things. We spend ourselves for others. Self-sacrifice (which reaches a high level in parents - we sacrifice a lot for years at a time, and for our kids' benefit, not our own).
The person who listens to others, anticipates their needs (like, seeing the lady with an armload headed for a door - jump up and open it for her without her asking. She'll think you're a nice person), and looks for ways to give and help, will grow meaningful relationships because:
We're all a bunch of helpless, hurting children.
We need kind words. We need someone to help us move (are you good with refrigerators? How about small boxes?). Sometimes we just need a smile to help us through the day. Someone who will give to us appropriately and unselfishly, especially when we are burdened down and aren't sure we can make it another five minutes. Scratch any person and under the smooth outer cover you'll find pain. We all need others to pray for us and to encourage us in our faith (which presupposes you know what the Bible says and can tell it to others. I know when I'm under the pile I can't remember a thing and need someone to remind me).
So look for ways to appropriately give to others. Think about what they need. Offer to pray for folks (there's a mentally retarded guy in my church who's never going to marry or have kids or be able to live by himself, but he's a prayer warrior and he is an important guy!).
You'll find that not everyone will appreciate you, but a few of them probably will, and there are your meaningful relationships. People can be takers or givers, so you be a giver and you'll find out who the other givers are because they will respond to you graciously. God bless you, dear one. Go be a blessing yourself, and you'll be blessed! I am praying for you tonight.
1 Peter 3:9
Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.
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RE: How do you build meaningful relationships? - 8/26/2008 11:05:42 AM
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gal220
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Amen!!!!!!!!!!
Very well said deermousie!!!! I got chills reading your post and hope it inspires many!
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RE: How do you build meaningful relationships? - 8/26/2008 1:09:10 PM
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deermousie
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Aw, God bless you, Gal220. Thanks for the encouragement!
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RE: How do you build meaningful relationships? - 8/26/2008 1:13:17 PM
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deermousie
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Basically, I just expanded on what Wild-Rose already said.
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RE: How do you build meaningful relationships? - 8/26/2008 8:30:28 PM
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ebony101
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quote:
ORIGINAL: Wild-Rose
Do you go to a good church? Get involved with groups such as prison ministry, the kitchen ministry (if you cook) the garden if you like that, the music, the teen age kids, whatever you can be useful. If you don't know, ask your paster. He's probably been praying about some position he needs filled. Joining groups is a natural way to meet people and make friends.
I second Wild-Rose. I began joining groups in my church and that's how I got to know a lot of folks. Now a lot of folks know me too.
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By the things that we do & the words that we say.'
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RE: How do you build meaningful relationships? - 9/3/2008 9:36:01 PM
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blueriver
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join a fellowship if there's one in church. my fellowship meet weekly and we have different things each week. we do bible study, prayer meeting, or sometimes just got together and watch christian movies. we also do devotion sharing, which really helps to build bonds between brothers and sisters.
i also do devotion sharing and prayer requests with a few of my close friends and my bf whenever needed. it helps bring us closer.
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