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How to handle a situation at school - 8/25/2008 2:31:37 AM
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jay_rad9
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I am a Bible college student studying to be a pastor and live on campus. Being a Bible college, my school has many students attending to be pastors, music ministers and missionaries. All of the students try to keep each other in check and we keep each other accountable to one another. There have been times when fellow classmates and friends have had to confront another friend about something we know he/she has done wrong (ie- we caught them with gf or about a drinking problem). However, how do you deal with someone who seems to tell everyone what they are doing wrong? There is actually a couple on campus who has started to confront everyone about any little thing they do and the situation is starting to get out of hand.
For example, when the couple started dating, the guy told me that his relationship with his girlfriend was going to be the example for the rest of the school of how to have a proper Christian dating relationship. The guy has confronted a friend of mine about the shirt she was wearing ( it was a shirt from the play "wicked" and that is all it said) and told her that she should not wear it because the book is not Christian-like and it is promoting a bad thing. The girl has walked into the dorms when a group of us has been watching a movie and told us to make sure that we were honoring God with our choice of movie. It is rather offensive for someone to make assumtions that we are sinning. There have been other cases on campus with this couple, but I only wrote the ones that I know about because I was there. There is a considerable amount of people on campus that are upset with them and I am hoping that something does not happen. Please advise.
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RE: How to handle a situation at school - 8/25/2008 7:02:13 AM
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RJR_fan
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quote:
. It is rather offensive for someone to make assumptions that we are sinning.
- "Never trust a man who doesn't drink." (wise pagan friend)
- Q: How many Baptists should you take fishing with you?
A: Two. If you take one, he'll drink all your beer. If you take two, they won't drink any!"
- Spurgeon, the great Baptist preacher, encountered a young parishioner who was smoking a cigar. "Can you smoke that thing to the glory of God?" the preacher asked. "No," the young man replied, blushing. "Well, then, give it to me. I can!" Spurgeon concluded.
"God's little helpers" are setting themselves up for a lifetime of hurtin' -- themselves, others, the cause of Christ.
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RE: How to handle a situation at school - 8/25/2008 7:15:50 AM
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mvic
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You will meet people like those you describe everywhere. There's only one way of dealing with them.
Pray for them.
Welcome to the Forum. I hope you do well in your studies and become a good pastor.
God bless.
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RE: How to handle a situation at school - 8/25/2008 7:19:21 AM
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bzirk
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ORIGINAL: jay_rad9
I am a Bible college student studying to be a pastor and live on campus. Being a Bible college, my school has many students attending to be pastors, music ministers and missionaries. All of the students try to keep each other in check and we keep each other accountable to one another. There have been times when fellow classmates and friends have had to confront another friend about something we know he/she has done wrong (ie- we caught them with gf or about a drinking problem). However, how do you deal with someone who seems to tell everyone what they are doing wrong? There is actually a couple on campus who has started to confront everyone about any little thing they do and the situation is starting to get out of hand.
For example, when the couple started dating, the guy told me that his relationship with his girlfriend was going to be the example for the rest of the school of how to have a proper Christian dating relationship. The guy has confronted a friend of mine about the shirt she was wearing ( it was a shirt from the play "wicked" and that is all it said) and told her that she should not wear it because the book is not Christian-like and it is promoting a bad thing. The girl has walked into the dorms when a group of us has been watching a movie and told us to make sure that we were honoring God with our choice of movie. It is rather offensive for someone to make assumtions that we are sinning. There have been other cases on campus with this couple, but I only wrote the ones that I know about because I was there. There is a considerable amount of people on campus that are upset with them and I am hoping that something does not happen. Please advise.
You need to do what they're doing. Confront them, and of course in love. Matthew 18 makes this plain, and frankly, it would be good to confront them just so they can examine why they're doing what they're doing. Even if their motives are good and they are truly being led by the Lord, there is no harm in confronting them.
But when you confront them, it cannot be done in your irritation. You should do it because you love the Lord and these people. If you're not at a place to do it for that reason, you need to ask the Lord to equip you.
Another passage on accountability to read and/or review would be Romans 14. Before you read it, ask the Lord to help you gain more wisdom about what you are to be about.
And what a wonderful experience for you in learning to be a pastor! My friend, this is what it's all about.
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RE: How to handle a situation at school - 8/26/2008 8:51:11 PM
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Romans 14 is a relevant chapter. If one of these people confronts you about something trivial, like a T-shirt or a movie, you might reply with something like, "Because my faith is strong, I can watch this movie in good conscience. Perhaps your faith is not as strong. I don't want my strong faith and Christian freedom to cause you to stumble, so for your sake I will turn off the movie."
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RE: How to handle a situation at school - 8/26/2008 9:38:56 PM
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RJR_fan, You have my vote and you made me really laugh. Thanks for the humor. And what you said is not only funny but true. Thanks, LL
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RE: How to handle a situation at school - 8/28/2008 1:20:27 PM
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hjemerson
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Very good advice . I just left a Bible College few yrs ago so I understand you have several good ways to cover this issue . But It is a reason this couple has desided to confront the issue.Sound like they may be hiding somthing them selfs. I would pray and then let then know in a loving way this is getting out of hand. If it keep on I then would seek out some advice of a school personal maybe the campus chaplin or pastoral staff! God Bless on your study and know this is just one of the many issues you will face on christain campus! Be strong and share your faith as you go!quote:
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