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Pursuing Confusion - 7/1/2008 12:58:27 PM
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ForgivenPrincess
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What is a girl supposed to do when a guy is pursuing her, but she doesn't know what to do with it? When she doesn't know whether her hesitation is from fear of the unknown, or if there is a more heavenly hinderance, or something else entirely?
I've also only known him for a little over a month. But I really enjoy being with him. One pressing question I've been asking myself is: do I like him because he likes me? or do I really want to pursue a deeper relationship?
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RE: Pursuing Confusion - 7/1/2008 1:26:06 PM
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Pray. Ask God. In my opinion, for now since you've only known him for a month, just take the time to get to know him but not in the terms of a dating relationship. Is it clear that he IS pursuing you?
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RE: Pursuing Confusion - 7/1/2008 1:29:02 PM
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do I like him because he likes me? or do I really want to pursue a deeper relationship?
Give yourself time to get to know this person and you will have enough information to answer this question. You will either find out in time that he's not someone you are interested in pursing a relationship with or you will become more drawn to a relationship with him as time passes. Right now, it's too soon to know either way so take you time and don't feel like you have to make a decision right away.
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RE: Pursuing Confusion - 7/1/2008 1:31:13 PM
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WhiteRoseBlessings
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Blessings, ForgivenPrincess!
The very first thing I thought of as soon as I read your thread's title was that Our Lord is not the author of confusion.
After reading your OP, I want to repeat my initial response - Our Lord is not the author of confusion.
I would encourage you to pray about the relationship and to do nothing (either way) until the confusion has been lifted.
HIS Peace and HIS Joy,
Sharon-Marie
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RE: Pursuing Confusion - 7/1/2008 2:11:56 PM
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ForgivenPrincess
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Is it clear that he IS pursuing you?
Quite clear. He's told me twice that he's falling in love with me.
I think I do like him, I'm just trying to figure out if now is a good time for me - I leave for school in less than two months...
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RE: Pursuing Confusion - 7/1/2008 2:13:36 PM
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ForgivenPrincess
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Also, is it possible to fall in love with someone after knowing them only a month? Just curious (I've never had any experience with this kind of thing... haha.. so I am deep into uncharted teritory)
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RE: Pursuing Confusion - 7/1/2008 2:17:02 PM
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Quite clear. He's told me twice that he's falling in love with me...Also, is it possible to fall in love with someone after knowing them only a month?
I would be very concerned about the emotionally stability of someone who says this to you only after one month. It's not normal because you guys hardly know each other. I'd start applying the breaks on this friendship about now if I were you.
Besides...you probably wont have time for a relaitonship if you are getting ready to go off to school in a couple of months (college I presume). You sound pretty young, and if this is the case, give yourself time to mature and get more settled in life before you get involved in a romantic relationship. There's really not much of an upside to it at this point.
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RE: Pursuing Confusion - 7/1/2008 4:57:24 PM
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You first need to pray to God for guidance. Your confusion is that this guy of whom you've only known for a little over a month is saying that he loves you??? A good reason to be hesitant...and to ask yourself if guy is for you at this time with you leaving for school soon...God will provide you with the answer...your confusion is not with God...it is with yourself...
Seek God first and He will lead you
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RE: Pursuing Confusion - 7/1/2008 7:36:28 PM
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slushie
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If you're leaving for school, then you probably shouldn't pursue a relationship just yet. I would be hesitant, especially in your case - with the guy telling you he's falling in love with you only after a month. And since you're leaving for school, you may have to focus on other stuff for now.
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RE: Pursuing Confusion - 7/1/2008 7:56:55 PM
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jaimestarcross
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Take the time to get to know him before getting into dating someone who likes you...
make it clear you aren't ready for a deeper relationship because of the short time frame of being acquainted with him.
*Just because a guy likes you doesn't mean you're obligated to getting involved/dating him... don't allow anyone to do a guilt-trip on you because you aren't interested in him (in a romantic way.)
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RE: Pursuing Confusion - 7/2/2008 7:47:05 AM
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Sadey
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I would go very slowly with him, he is pushing you into a relationship and my red flags are blowing in the wind.
Don't let him use "love" to manipulate you, if he is truely falling in love with you then he will wait and not push you into something you don't really want.
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