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What is your opinion of women-only events? - 7/14/2008 12:35:35 PM
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Consecrated2God
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Do you enjoy women-only events? Do you feel it is important for women to have girls nights out, and to spend time away from the men and children?
Or do you think that it separates the family and causes more problems than it solves?
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RE: What is your opinion of women-only events? - 7/14/2008 12:56:50 PM
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Do you feel it is important for women to have girls nights out, and to spend time away from the men and children?
For me, yes.
I like to have time alone with sisters and friends.
It is during those times that I can be silly, serious and everything in between! I come back : refreshed, edified and with knowledge. There is an older woman at our church that is a hoot. She shares her lived experiences as a Christian mother and wife throughout her life...and some of the things she has learned.
There are things discussed that I would never want discussed in mixed company or my sons around. If I were married, I wouldn't want a hubby there either. 
If you are talking about big women's events like the ones that come around a few times a year with big names... I went to one about six years ago. (Renewing the Heart) It was good.....but I don't know if I'd do it again. It was right for the time and where I was spiritually then.
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Do you enjoy women-only events?
I enjoy women's bible study, baby showers and get togethers. I also go with girlfriends out to lunch/brunch dates, shopping, etc.
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Or do you think that it separates the family and causes more problems than it solves?
I don't see it causing problems, unless there are underlying issues.
Within our family, we are joined at our hearts.......not our hips. 
We always know where each other are, for saftey reasons, though.
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RE: What is your opinion of women-only events? - 7/14/2008 12:57:27 PM
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I like to have a girls night out once in a while. My mom, her sisters, my cousins and my Mema all get together and have slumber parties once or twice a year. They are a blast and I wouldn't miss them for the world.
My Bible study group has an evening outing/get together once in a while. They're fun, but we go home at the end of the night, don't stay overnight.
Women's conferences -- I haven't been to any, so I have no opinion.
Ladies Retreats -- I've been on a few. They are fun, but I don't like foo-foo emotional stuff.
I only do these things a couple times per year, we like to do things as a family, but hubby is happy to have a night with the kids once in a while and let me go have some fun. He and the kids will eat popcorn and watch movies or something, they have a good time, too.
As for separating family and causing problems, I guess that just depends on the family and how much time an individual spends doing these things.
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RE: What is your opinion of women-only events? - 7/14/2008 1:39:28 PM
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I think there a great idea women understand women. Any problems that Women's Conferance's 'cause' were already there in the fist place..
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RE: What is your opinion of women-only events? - 7/14/2008 2:11:48 PM
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Do you enjoy women-only events?
No.
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Do you feel it is important for women to have girls nights out, and to spend time away from the men and children?
For some it is, yes.
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Or do you think that it separates the family and causes more problems than it solves?
No, I don't think so.
It is just my own personal thing that I tend not to enjoy women-only meetings. I force myself to go sometimes, and have on occasions found it to be all right, but it's never something where I'd think "oh yes I'd love to do that". Nothing personal against other women, it's just me.
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RE: What is your opinion of women-only events? - 7/14/2008 2:17:11 PM
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Are you talking about women only events within the church context, or in general? I'm going to address my answer in the church context.
Women only church events are fine and have their place, but I don't always find myself enjoying them too much. Most of the discussion tends to be centered around husbands and children, and since God hasn't blessed me with either (yet), I don't often have a whole lot to add. But, they are really helpful for some women, and it's not like anybody is forcing me to be there. :) I don't really see them causing separation or problems within our church body.
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RE: What is your opinion of women-only events? - 7/14/2008 2:24:19 PM
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there is a time and a place for them.
Women going out to the bar or club on a weekly basis just to "get a break" from the kids isn't healthy. I've known more than one woman to destroy her relationship with her husband and children that way.
But a girls night to dinner once/month or every couple weeks is fun. A girls day at the spa or shopping can be refreshing.
Women's only events for church are important, I believe. Not every woman has to feel the need to participate, but there are some women who NEED those events. They are crucial for female fellowship, companionship, relationship building, edifying, building up, etc. I definitely see a larger response from the married and/or with children crowd, but they don't need to be the only women who attend.
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RE: What is your opinion of women-only events? - 7/14/2008 3:24:46 PM
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My husband and I naturally do occasional girl-only and guy-only stuff mainly because of the subject matter involved. If he wants to go to a baseball game with his buds, he wouldn't mind if I went, but I'd rather just let them have guy-time and do something I'd prefer. If I want to go see a chick flick with my friends, he'd rather not go anyway. We each do stuff with our separate friends maybe once a month, and most everything else is together.
Honestly, he's the one person whose company never grows old - I love being with my husband. But sometimes it's just fun to have time with just the girls.
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RE: What is your opinion of women-only events? - 7/14/2008 4:29:56 PM
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Are you talking about women only events within the church context, or in general? I'm going to address my answer in the church context.
Oh, everything. I thought of this question when someone mentioned baby showers in another thread.
I love the ladies group at our church. Most of them are retired, but they are so much fun to be with. We went miniature golfing last time we went out, and then to Dairy Queen, and we laughed so hard and had so much fun that I dreamed that night that someone called the police on us for harrassing customers. 
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RE: What is your opinion of women-only events? - 7/14/2008 10:32:52 PM
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Do you enjoy women-only events?
Yes, absolutely. Most of mine are with church ladies, with a couple times a year of my mom, sister, and I.
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Do you feel it is important for women to have girls nights out, and to spend time away from the men and children?
I can't answer for anyone else, but for me...yes, it is important to my emotional and spiritual well-being. I'm home with the kids all the time and my husband works long hours. I also think it's good for our kids to spend time with Daddy...it's just good all around. When I have a new baby, they come with me until they are at least 8-9 months old because they are nursing, but that doesn't bother me at all.
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Or do you think that it separates the family and causes more problems than it solves?
Not at all. I usually come back refreshed, ready to take on the daily tasks again, and with a refocused vision. I also encourage my husband to go to every men's event or retreat, because I know from experience that the growth I see in him after that time with his Christian friends/mentors is well worth more of my time alone with the kids.
I would like more family time, but for our family, right now...it is good for us to have separate times of refreshing too.
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RE: What is your opinion of women-only events? - 7/15/2008 3:41:58 AM
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Women only events are cool and good, except when they turn into husband bashing sessions.
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RE: What is your opinion of women-only events? - 7/15/2008 9:27:03 AM
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Women only events are cool and good, except when they turn into husband bashing sessions.
As a Christian woman, this has RARELY been my experience. The one time that a young married woman began to talk too indepth about struggles... she was re-directed by an older sister. It was suggested that she share that info with her prayer partner, husband and pastor.
Everyone knows that marriages aren't perfect. But much like the ladies on this board......my married friends keep the "not so great" things to themselves out of respect for their mate and marriage.
If you wonder why I took the time to respond to this:
Some men can and will use that excuse for a reason to keep their mate home and away from fellowship. And yes, I'm sensitive about it.
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RE: What is your opinion of women-only events? - 7/15/2008 9:35:29 AM
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I do think they are good and like them...especially now as a single mom. I love my home fellowship group too. I am essentially the only single person in the group though. There is one older single guy but he rarely comes because he travels for work a lot. Also, my kids are always with me (except for the occasional times we have adults only events).
I am usually fine in that small group setting with men and women if my kids will stay away long enough to have adult conversatioins. HOwever, occasionally I feel the odd one out because I don't have a husband with me. Our church has a ladies event about every 6 weeks. I do my best to get to those things. Fortunately my parents understand my need to get out and do their best to be available to watch the kids fo those events.
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RE: What is your opinion of women-only events? - 7/15/2008 10:24:43 AM
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I see nothing wrong with Women only events that are for church or anything like a dinner or shopping togther... I believe its another story when Women go to bars or clubs and if Women go out every other night...I would say thats unhealthy. Sometimes you need to bond with other ladies, friends and family are important.
Every year we have a Womens banquet and their will be many different tables and lady who had the table will decorate it and such so its always interesting to see that... and then you have nice meal and all the men have to waiter it to us lol and then they leave the room and we have a little funny performance that pertains to women and its always funny and good. Then we have a guest speaker who is funny but serious and have nice fellowship time.
They also have a womens retreat every year but its only once a year for the weekend.
I love my sweetie and I like going shopping with him but sometimes its just nice to go shopping with my sisters :)
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RE: What is your opinion of women-only events? - 7/15/2008 10:58:29 AM
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Some men can and will use that excuse for a reason to keep their mate home and away from fellowship. And yes, I'm sensitive about it.
Yes, I've seen that. I've heard men before claim that all that women do is complain about their husbands, and then they all sympathize with each other to the point that the women feel that they are abused and that their husbands are all jerks. Then they all band together and rebel against their husbands.
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RE: What is your opinion of women-only events? - 7/15/2008 11:15:05 AM
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Some men can and will use that excuse for a reason to keep their mate home and away from fellowship. And yes, I'm sensitive about it.
Yes, I've seen that. I've heard men before claim that all that women do is complain about their husbands, and then they all sympathize with each other to the point that the women feel that they are abused and that their husbands are all jerks. Then they all band together and rebel against their husbands.
Right, Lisa. Which is why I was quick to give my personal experiences and glad to see PrincessDonna's.
Women are not the only ones that read in this folder. And all we need is for the wrong/insecure husband to read what only ONE woman has posted to take it as "proof" that his suspicions are confirmed as the norm for those meetings.
And "poof" we have isolated another sister... and likely one that could benefit highly from the edification and fellowship.
I am very careful what I repeat that others say. Especially when it has to do with the Christian life/lifestyle/family/marriage dynamic. Simply repeating an inflammatory viewpoint gives wings to it.
I think women-only events are uplifting and help to reinforce and bless marriages and families. Some women need/like them...others not so much... but I pray the option is available for those that wish to participate.
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RE: What is your opinion of women-only events? - 7/15/2008 11:26:01 AM
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I think women-only events are uplifting and help to reinforce and bless marriages and families.
That's been my experience. The women's groups that I have been a part of have been a wonderful blessing. I've always thought that the men who object to their wives going are really just irritated that they have to stay home with the kids.
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RE: What is your opinion of women-only events? - 7/15/2008 11:58:53 AM
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Women only events are cool and good, except when they turn into husband bashing sessions.
I've seldom found that to be true.
What context are you talking about? Do you mean as in a conference or church setting or just women hanging out together?
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RE: What is your opinion of women-only events? - 7/15/2008 5:31:06 PM
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I find the women's only events that I've been to absolutely wonderful, and refreshing. Even the ones I was hesitant about going to (because I didn't know that many people) were great, and I remember fondly. =)
All of mine have been in a christian setting though, or with christian friends.
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RE: What is your opinion of women-only events? - 7/15/2008 10:19:25 PM
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My answer is in the context of Christian Women's events, as those are the main ones I've attended, but I would include innocent events, too, like having dinner with a group of female friends from high school or attending a crop or knitting circle. I am not speaking of going clubbing.
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Do you enjoy women-only events?
I depends on the event. Mostly, I enjoy them and have attended many varieties, from seminars to crafting socials. I also get a lot out of my true Bible study group... a place where we can actually study our Bibles ourselves (not commentary and interpretation based topical jobers) and meet to pray together and share what God is doing in our lives.
I don't like to be lied to about attending a Bible Study only to have a quick "devotion" and then have fellowship time as the main plan. Don't get me wrong, I love fellowship and crave more of it than what I have in my life... but let's not call something Bible Study that is actually a short lecture on how someone else interprets the Bible. Let's call it a social.
I also don't enjoy events that are "mom" oriented. I don't have children and don't want to attend a speaking event where the focus is motherhood. I think those are necessary events for mothers and don't begrudge them to women who do get refreshment out of it.
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Do you feel it is important for women to have girls nights out, and to spend time away from the men and children? Or do you think that it separates the family and causes more problems than it solves?
I do think it's important to get away from the men some. There are some things we want to discuss amongst ourselves that men aren't interested in and sometimes we're not comfy discussing them with men (like mom seminars, female health issues, marriage issues, feelings.) I also think it's important to intentionally get together with other females to mentor each other and be mentored. I believe that if there are problems in a marriage/family that they go deeper than being separated from each other occasionally. A woman having problems in her family needs to work on her integrity, her morality, her respect for others, her love for others, her work ethic, her character, her wisdom, her understanding, etc... all of which can only be helped by attending uplifting women's events, becoming closer to mature Christian women, and learning through the Bible Study that can take place. There may be a time when a woman needs to suspend attending a women's ministry event while she is working something out, but in general, I think it only helps us as long as the event is not discouraging us from doing good (gossiping, slandering, perpetuating false teachings, etc.)
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RE: What is your opinion of women-only events? - 7/16/2008 7:12:05 PM
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Whether it's a ladies' retreat, Bible study, or just coffee - I love 'em! And I kinda think I need them. My family is one that tends to be around each other 24/7. I home school and my husband is self-employed. I love being with my family, but sometimes I need to be with my girlfriends. Thank goodness they understand that.
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RE: What is your opinion of women-only events? - 7/16/2008 8:51:02 PM
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For me - it is VERY VERY important!!!!! It's refreshing.
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