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RE: What do YOU truly want - 12/5/2007 6:58:17 PM
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PreserveWildlife
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You know, the more I think about this the more I think I may know one thing I truly want. A woman who truly wants to be with me. That may seem self evident in a relationship (where she has already evidenced a desire to be with me) but this is something more. A woman who is interested in me, wants to learn who I am, wants to be with me. This is one thing I truly want.
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 12/5/2007 8:48:27 PM
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ORIGINAL: D200
You know, the more I think about this the more I think I may know one thing I truly want. A woman who truly wants to be with me. That may seem self evident in a relationship (where she has already evidenced a desire to be with me) but this is something more. A woman who is interested in me, wants to learn who I am, wants to be with me. This is one thing I truly want.
I think we can all say we want this. One of our deepest desires is to be known, truly known, by another person.
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 12/5/2007 9:12:09 PM
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mutinywxgirl
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to be known, truly known, by another person.
Yeah, and have 'em still like us. Don't forget that part! 
Ya just had to add that part in there, didn't ya? LOLOL
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 12/5/2007 9:14:47 PM
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to be known, truly known, by another person.
Yeah, and have 'em still like us. Don't forget that part!
Ya just had to add that part in there, didn't ya? LOLOL
Well? I am the Mistress of Stating the Obvious. 
But, seriously, I think a lot of us go around feeling like we're imposters and that if *whomever* really, really, REALLY knew us, well, it wouldn't turn out so good.
Or am I the only one? 
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 12/5/2007 9:17:15 PM
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mutinywxgirl
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I HIGHLY doubt it! That might make an interesting thread???
Or, maybe not - I'm about to fall asleep, so am not thinking all too clearly at the moment. If it doesn't make sense, just ignore me  .
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Walls we couldn't move came crashing down.
We were free and made alive.
The day true love died. The day true love died.
Lisa is happy THE ROWDIES ARE BACK!
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 12/5/2007 9:56:25 PM
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I want someone who will accept me for who I am. I have liked so many indivudials but they all see me as being too nice of an indivudial. It really bothers me when that happens but I thank God for what the future holds. In a relationship I want someone who I know that I can confide in, we can be trustworthy, honest, and loyal to each other. I know that God has the perfect person in store for me. I am truly thankful for that and I want someone that I know will be an incredible mother to our kids...
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 12/6/2007 8:09:48 PM
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But, seriously, I think a lot of us go around feeling like we're imposters and that if *whomever* really, really, REALLY knew us, well, it wouldn't turn out so good.
Or am I the only one?
You're not the only one who feels this way - I know I do. A few years ago I was talking with a friend who shared a poignant quote from a book she had read and it hit me between the eyes when I heard it. I'll try not to mangle it too much:
"I'm afraid to tell you who I am, because if I tell you who I am, you might not like who I am - and that's all that I have."
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 12/7/2007 12:25:45 AM
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Patience, kindness, gentleness. Open communication. Friendship.
I guess I'd say, I'd like a relationship that wasn't rigid. We accommodated each other, believed in each other, and we're in the other's corner always. A relationship where we knew each other's faults and shortcomings but could find beauty in that. A relationship that is founded on Christ, where we could talk openly about what God was doing in our lives, share scriptures, new things we'd learned. A relationship where we could grow together. Great sex. Committment to Christ and to the vows we made on our wedding day. I'd like a relationship I could learn from and teach others. I think spending quality time together is very important--just doing silly stuff or unconventional stuff like waltzing in the backyard, or having a picknick in the kitchen. Lots of affection and touch--we understood the meaning of touching to comfort, affirm, arouse, or be playful. We won't let the other get too serious about life. Lots of laughter. We can cry together and know we have an aly. Trust each other to be faithful, not only in marrage but to Christ. Honesty and openess in matters of business, personal, and sexuality. That we would be comfortable with our bodies and free enough to enjoy, explore, and understand our bodies. That we would leave nothing edifying or comforting unsaid. That both I and He could come home to kindness. A relationship where home was defined, not as the house or a location--but being with the other person. That he would always know my shoulder was there for him, and I could find human solace in his arms.
I want our relationship to be a place. Something inviting for both of us to come home to. Something that we both work on, build, decorate, and dwell. A relationship that remained so true to God and His formula for marriage and love, that when one passes from this life into the next, the other can say in all truth, "There goes my friend."
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 12/7/2007 1:22:10 AM
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I want someone who can balance a check book.
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May the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God and, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirt, be with you all
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 12/7/2007 9:51:48 AM
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mutinywxgirl
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Ok, here's another one for me. I want someone whom I can can laugh and play with. I may as well say that that is what I have with JB. We tease each other a lot and have fun with it. Even when I get irritated, it's fun. lol. We are both "brats" to each other and enjoy it. To me, this kind of relationship is very important to me. For those of you who know JB well enough, you know how much of a "brat" he can be.
That is what I had with *him*. I miss that desperately and desire it again.
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When blood and water hit the ground.
Walls we couldn't move came crashing down.
We were free and made alive.
The day true love died. The day true love died.
Lisa is happy THE ROWDIES ARE BACK!
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 12/7/2007 10:08:51 AM
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That is what I had with *him*. I miss that desperately and desire it again.
I wonder what it is that holds us back ..... from wanting to open our hearts and share ..... to become vulnerable ..... to trust another person ..... to take down the barriers ..... to risk loving again ..... is it the fear of losing that closeness again ??
Is the risk worth it?
I would say yes ..... it's a teenie tiny taste of the love of God. We can use these relationships as stepping stones toward the goal He has for us.
................. I just wish I could see the Big Picture sometimes .................
((((Lisa)))) I'm praying for you
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 12/7/2007 3:13:15 PM
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NiceGuy
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The other day I was reading a book by Elisabeth Elliot, and in it she was discussing the way in which she had attempted to describe the lives of people in a couple of biographies she had written. She said that she tried to present them in the same sort of light as the authors presented the figures we read about in the Bible. "Men are shown there for what they are: far less than perfect, but far more than nothing." That's how I hope to be viewed by whomever I marry - "Far less than perfect, but far more than nothing." I believe a relationship firmly established with that sort of mindest of grace mixed with love and admiration will be a successful relationship.
I hope that we'll share a deep and abiding respect for one another, even though we won't view everything through the same prism. I hope we'll be close friends and companions - two peas in a pod, able to share and confide and discuss things without fear. I hope that we'll work together as a team, for the betterment of our marriage, our children, and everyone we meet along the way. With all of that in place, the most important thing can be possible.. I hope that we'll be living in such a way that God can use us either individually with one or the other supporting the other, or together as a team, to help others in whatever way He so desires.
I want our marriage to be fun, loving, filled with grace and respect, God-honoring, God-aware, and God-prepared. Is that too much to ask? 
NiceGuy
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 12/7/2007 3:30:54 PM
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needstrength
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Someone who walks in Gods will for them
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May the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God and, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirt, be with you all
2 Corinthians 13:14
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 12/7/2007 3:40:50 PM
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SaranadeMe
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Incredible answers! So how about the second part to the question, what, in those areas do you feel you need growth in? What would help you to be in the kind of relationship you want?
I'm going to do a blind posting backtracking to the last time I logged on, to answer Trishy's question.
I think I need growth in learning to accept being loved. Men expressing great amounts of affection towards me has a tendency to make me a little skittish. I just don't know how to handle it. I don't think I know how to handle having someone actively pursuing/interested in me. Especially if it's something unexpected.
I think the only thing that can help me to be in the kind of relationship I want is a continued strengthening of my relationship with the Lord, and a relationship built over time. Learning to trust by seeing a man's actions back up his words makes me feel like I can trust him more. And that trust will make me more comfortable with the affection.
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 
I can tell you with 100% honesty those things that I had desired within my heart where not necessarily that which God knew I needed... more than likely it more boiled down to, not really being prepared to receieve my hearts desire. kwim? 
