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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 3/12/2008 9:15:15 PM
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not_the_first
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ORIGINAL: LaurainAL
Ladies,
I need some tips on how to fit in exercise while working full time with two small children. Exercise vids are out because the kids would get hurt. I am very clumsy.
I do have a gym membership and try to go on my lunch hour, but I only make it 1 - 2 times a week. Something always interferes.
How do you do it?
I don't have kids, but I have to do it first thing in the morning otherwise it will never get done. Is your hubby home in the morning that he can watch them while you go work out?
I am trying to figure out how to fit in exercise and my quiet time in the morning. It's hard enough for me to get up at 5:45, I can't imagine getting up earlier to do quiet time, it will be so quiet I will be ASLEEP!
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 3/21/2008 11:49:24 AM
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daughter_of_faith
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Wow....my four year old son already pitches in around the house. He helps take out the trash & likes to help us cook dinner (usually it's throwing the tator tots on the cookie sheet or helping to roll out the biscuits). Um, he likes to help sweep too. My son takes his dirty clothes out to the laundry room (most of the time). Let's see...I guess he is a pretty good kid. I wouldn't expect him to be able to make a sandwich at his age (a bit hard to spread the mayo with a butter knife yet).
Hmmm...how did her son get to be 13 (almost 10 years older than my son) without learning some basic skills? Maybe it's today's generation...........
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 3/21/2008 12:02:22 PM
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My kids (12 & almost 14) pitch in on whatever I tell them to do. They don't cook much except for with the microwave, though. It's been in the 2 years or so that I've really pushed them doing things for themselves and helping around the house.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 3/22/2008 12:57:27 PM
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landabee
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I think that there is a good side and a bad side to the responsibilities and independence that is thrust upon my boys.
The good side: they are not held in an unnaturally extended childhood and immaturity.
The bad side: they are in many ways unlike some of their contemporaries and thus don't identify with them often.
Example:
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This morning while lazing about in the living room, my eldest in conversation told me that the cable had gone out for three hours yesterday while I was at work. He said that he had called the company, and they had fixed it.
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Last week the garbage disposal in the kitchen went on the blitz. As I tried to fix it..... younger one came in the kitchen. Then he said, "I can fix it"
He went and turned off the circuit breaker, tried to reset the disposal.... that didn't work, then he got HIS tool kit, got under the sink and fixed it. He removed the sweet potato peelings that turned fibrous and got stuck. He then re-aligned the blades, reset the disposal, turned back on the circuit breaker..... and Wah Lah! Fixed.
Granted they are 16 and 17. They at times act older than that.
I'm often very grateful.
They still hang with friends, play music and sports and video games. They still make mistakes and get grounded. But they never ask me to do something that they can do for themselves, unless they see that I'm up and doing something already.
My kids are not perfect......not by a long shot. But I'd like to think that they are equipped to manage a home and finances.
I'm not hung up on "gender specific" chores. I'm just not. I cannot afford that luxury.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 3/22/2008 1:12:01 PM
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Mrs.Wifey
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My mom was a SAHM until about 18 months ago, all of us kids were/are very self sufficient after all, at some point we had to move out and know how to cook, clean, etc... My mom used to tell us the story of her friend who got married and called her afterwards to ask how to hang a shower curtain  She said she never wanted us to be like that and thus we all learned the basics of running a household. There was no gender separation of chores and we all learned everything equally.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 3/22/2008 2:13:17 PM
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Mrs.Wifey
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Oh, I knew you weren't bashing 
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 3/22/2008 5:37:14 PM
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My college educated son doesn't know how to clean ( on purpose I suspect ). He played dumb when he kept behaving like he had no idea how to clean his room (we are selling the house so the "I can't see the carpet" look was inappropriate). I cleaned it... MY WAY. If he can't find his stuff, too bad.
My younger son is doing a little better. My daughter has her own place. She is so busy chores have gone undone. Her roommate tried to help her out with laundry but shrunk some of her things.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 3/22/2008 10:08:18 PM
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LaurainAL
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Our daughter will be that way if we let her. She already thinks she is the Queen.
She will help me unload the dish washer, she feeds the cats, and folds towels. I think that is pretty good for a 4 year old. Her room, on the other hand, is a pig pen. When we first moved into this house and had a few visitors, she asked them to come and see her "new pig pen".
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 3/24/2008 2:40:38 PM
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LaurainAL
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That is tough Erin. Did your Mom stay home when you were a kid? Maybe she thinks that is the only way to be. Sometimes people have a narrow view point of things and have no idea that things can be accomplished another way too.
Stick to your guns if that is what you feel is best for your family.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 3/24/2008 2:45:26 PM
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SweetLittleErin
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She didnt stay home with me at first, but she did later on when she decided to homeschool me and my brother. She stayed home with him the whole time, he NEVER left home, still doesnt....but thats a whole 'nother thing...we wont go there. For one, my mom has some issues and I wouldnt trust her to babysit, i know that sounds bad.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 3/31/2008 9:11:30 AM
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momma_bee
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My Mom was never the best choice for watching my kids. Not a bad choice, but not the best. And, being mom, never felt I made the best choices either. I just let it go like water on a ducks back. You know, it hits, but it rolls right off.
When do you ladies shop? Poppa feels I need clothes and told me to go shopping for myself and I just looked at him and said "WHEN???" I can't leave the hill without them because they might miss something fun and there is always 'someone' else pulling me away when I start looking for myself.
Same way with groceries themselves. If I go into the store and look at the health and beauty it is ok to be in the toothpaste and shampoo aisles, but I don't dare spend a second looking at hair barrettes without the son getting bored and wanting to go elsewhere. I needed to get a shirt for him last week and DeeDee complained the whole time.
I know why they are that way - I just don't know how to fix it. If we go one-on-one it avoids the problem, but that doesn't work with our schedule. Figure I need 45 min one way to get to the store. So, around 1.5 hr travel. 1 hr groceries. 1-2 hr little mall stores (depending on the needs-interests-area). 1/2 hour for food. I don't have 4-5 hours to devote to each person in the family so they aren't unhappy. And, quite honestly, I need to spend that time with the hubby without needing to shop. KWIM?
So, what works best for you?
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 3/31/2008 9:32:19 AM
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Kath
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but I don't dare spend a second looking at hair barrettes without the son getting bored and wanting to go elsewhere. I needed to get a shirt for him last week and DeeDee complained the whole time.
Linz is the same way, she says I never go shopping for myself and she wants to go with me, but she is bored and complains. Or that I never talk about myself, that she wants to talk about me, but then she ends up talking about herself. I feel like it's just a charade.
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I know why they are that way - I just don't know how to fix it. If we go one-on-one it avoids the problem, but that doesn't work with our schedule.
What would happen if you just said I'm going alone, deal with it and walk out?
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 3/31/2008 10:40:57 AM
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LaurainAL
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I do most all of my shopping online after I put the kiddos to bed.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 3/31/2008 10:41:42 AM
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momma_bee
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I'm at that point Kath. Just because.
I left a list of chores and went to the laundrymat on Saturday and some of them were done. BigBee wasn't dressed to go to the show because he wasn't ready to get ready ??? and when I came in I kicked him out of the bathroom.
I told him I was performing and he had all day to be in there. And, I did let him finish up making himself handsome for the ladies...
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