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Leslie_JnJs_mom -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/10/2008 11:34:36 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SteelMagnolia

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ORIGINAL: manda59

A resounding NO!

I honestly don't get the whole notion of raising our little girls with the notion that they have to look "cute" or "pretty" for other people's benefit/approval.

Then, why would we ever dress them in pink or bows and ruffles?


I don't. She has dresses but most of them are not pink or have ruffles. She also does not like stuff in her hair.



buckifn -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/10/2008 4:44:10 PM)

Dress ruffles, lace, colors such as pink, white, red, or whatever, are not things that pentrate the body in a way that can cause harm. Physical pain, infection, pulling an earring out of ear and swallowing it are just some of the things which can happen as a direct result of any type of body piercing. That is a huge difference to me.

I don't go with the idea of always dressing girls in ruffles and lace, or boys in jeans and a t-shirt but I do dress them in a way that looks nice and suitable for the situation.

I do think it's great to add things to a little girl's hair to match an outfit, but only if it isn't painful. It doesn't have to be frilly to be cute either.



stellaluna -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/10/2008 9:05:00 PM)

Piercing an earlobe isn't very painful, so I wouldn't worry about that if I were going to pierce a baby girl's ears. I guarantee it's less painful than circumcision. [8|]

However, something to think about is that the piercing guns typically used for that sort of thing--because most parents take their kids to the mall--cannot be autoclaved. Even sterile, the piercing guns actually cause more trauma than a piercing needle, because they force tissue out of the way to make room for the jewelry. It is far more sterile and your earlobes will heal much easier if you go to a reputable tattoo shop/piercing studio. Some will pierce kids' ears, it just depends on the shop. But that in itself is one reason to wait until they are older. (This from someone who had her ears pierced at age 3 and remembers no pain. My niece begged to have hers done when she was 4 and didn't even whimper.)



Mrs.Wifey -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/10/2008 9:07:04 PM)

We had DD's ears pierced with a needle, not a gun. It's the same way I've had my various piercings done. Honestly, she cried less then when she gets her shots[8|]



Sideways -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/10/2008 9:12:46 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Brandy

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ORIGINAL: SteelMagnolia

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ORIGINAL: manda59

A resounding NO!

I honestly don't get the whole notion of raising our little girls with the notion that they have to look "cute" or "pretty" for other people's benefit/approval.

Then, why would we ever dress them in pink or bows and ruffles?

[:'(] to bows and ruffles. I've already had to fend off relatives wanting to send the 'cutest' dress to us or some other 'cutest' thing. I explained that she can choose bows and ruffles when she's older but I will NOT be buying or dressing her in bows and ruffles myself as her parent. bleh.

I am not a bows and ruffles girl myself and cannot torture myself or my children with them until they can choose their wardrobe themself. [8D]


I agree. May I never inflict bows and ruffles on any future daughters! [:'(]



peculiar_lady2 -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/10/2008 10:07:04 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Mrs.Wifey

We had DD's ears pierced with a needle, not a gun. It's the same way I've had my various piercings done. Honestly, she cried less then when she gets her shots[8|]

we had our first girls done on her eigth day of life (right after the required vit K shot) and she didn't even wake up...slept right through it. Her earrings never came out...she never pulled them out....she never had a problem at all with them. We had the kind that snap together and have a protective backing so they don't poke through the back of the earring back. When they got to be a little too small for her ears and I had to loosen them I had to go back to the jewelry7 shop to get them to do it because that back would not come off.



VincentGrayson -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/11/2008 9:28:09 AM)

My oldest got her eyes pierced because she wanted to back when she was about 2, but she wouldn't put up with the medicine necessary to prevent infections and such, so we took them out.

However, the other day both of my daughters got them pierced (apparently they'd talked about it for a while and I was just left out of the loop), and they seem to be cooperating with the medicine every night, and they *do* look cute, so I don't mind.

I wouldn't do it with a baby though, both because I like the idea of it being their own decision, and because I'd be worried about pulling on ears and other such recklessness as younger children are prone to.



mom_of_a_soldier -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/11/2008 10:35:07 AM)

I have 2 girls. Ages, 6 & 5. I have always said that I would wait until they wanted it. My 6 yr. old wanted it at age 2. She is very mature for her age. So, we did it. I explained to her that it would hurt, but only for a second. She cried only a little. As I was consoling her, I reminded her of what I said about it hurting. She said it didn't hurt, it was the noise that scared her. I forgot all about that...lol But she was glad she did it, & wears earrings everyday.

My 5 yr. old, wanted it done at 2. I think because her sister had them. We talked about it & explained about the pain, the noise, ect... She still wanted them done. So, we did it. She never cried or anything, but a yr. ago decided she didn't want to wear earrings. The hole grew up, & she's fine with that. She says 1 day she'll get them done again.

I have seen babies get them pierced. It breaks my heart to watch them cry like that out of unnecessary pain. I would never choose unnecessary pain for my kids. I know of some ppl who chose to do it, because thier lil girl had no hair, & they were being called a "him." I still couldn't do it myself. But its everyone's personal choice, just not for me.



peculiar_lady2 -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/11/2008 10:38:49 AM)

our first had a little hair, would be dressed in a frilly pink or purple dress, with pink blanket, and earrings and STILL get called a boy. Not because she looked like a boy, just because people didn't really pay attention to the clues. She was very girlie. In fact you could put her in boy clothes and she would still look girlie.



Auben -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/11/2008 11:01:38 AM)

No.

It's painful (more for some than others).
It's itchy.
It's easy to infect.
They're relatively easy to remove.
The child can't talk and tell you if there is a problem (not all problems are easy to pick up visually).

Not every person's ears react well to the foreign invader. My ears itch like crazy for even pure gold. Eventually I had to take mine out permanently. A baby in that position couldn't vocalize the problem.


I don't have a problem with pierced ears on grade school girls who are verbal and responsible. I just can't see why I would want to take a chance on an infant just because I like the look. Buying and outfit, hair ribbon, hat, shoes, bracelet does the same thing without physically modifying a child who has no choice in the matter.

Just my opinion. I know several hispanic families who do it as a cultural thing.



miasma -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/11/2008 11:03:20 AM)

Absolutely not. That is a personal choice they can make when they're old enough. I also think it's tacky; infants are dolls to be dressed up and adorned.



IonMoon -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/11/2008 11:37:12 AM)

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ORIGINAL: VincentGrayson
My oldest got her eyes pierced because she wanted to back when she was about 2


I hope this was a typo! [;)]... As for ears...

We didn't and wouldn't for a lot of the reasons posted, but it doesn't bother me that others do it. A lot of good parents do it, it is really a cultural thing and doesn't cause horrible, lasting damage.

My dd had to wait until 13 or so for her first piercing. She'd like another, but I have said no thus far (she is 16).

Tara P



violetlight -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/11/2008 1:53:08 PM)

My daughter just got her ears pierced in late November. She is 10 yrs old. It was her decision. I feel that it's a decision every child should make for themselves. That, and I also view it as a "rite of passage"..

Another reason I didn't want to pierce my daughter's earrings as an infant. is I have been saddled with very sensitive ears, and can only wear certain types of earrings. I found this out the hard way after wearing cheap earrings after my ears were pierced when I was 8 (my own decision) I wasn't sure if she would have the same problem and I didn't want to find out then and have to deal with infections when she was an infant. Thankfully, her ears don't seem to have the same problems.



Yachaddm -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/14/2008 10:25:19 AM)

My mom had mine pierced when I was under 2, but if we have a girl, we will wait until she's much older. I don't see it as a moral issue, but dh and I have already talked about it and decided against it.



Mrs.Wifey -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/14/2008 10:59:03 AM)

When you pierce an infants ears you can only use 24k Gold or Titanium, so there is no "cheap" earing option.



paulsbride -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/14/2008 12:27:14 PM)

When I was in Nigeria it was standard to pierce baby girls ears - they waited till they were either 3 weeks or 3 months (I know that's a big difference! I just can't remember if it was weeks or months, and what the reasoning was!) but almost every baby girl had them done.

I would do our daughters as an infant if it were up to me. My husband hasn't decided if he likes the idea or not.



Georgia-Peach -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/14/2008 12:32:57 PM)

If we have a little girl most likely her ears will get pierced as a baby. I think its a personal decision, but I see nothing wrong with having it done. But, the only reason I might wait till she was older is because of the problems had with my ears when I got them done at age 7. I had to let me grow up and I didn't get the nerve to do it again till 13. I can only wear really gold in my ears or they start to get irritated.



EmilyAnn -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/14/2008 1:00:17 PM)

If we have a daughter one day we will get her ears pierced when she is a baby.



dance4joy -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/14/2008 1:06:51 PM)

Nope, we wont be getting our baby girl's ears pierced as my husband is rather opposed to the idea of people putting "unecessary holes" in their bodies. LOL! Me personally?. . .I think it would be pretty cute, but I'd worry about keeping them clean and the possibility of infections and stuff so I probably wouldn't do it anyway.



VincentGrayson -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/14/2008 2:52:29 PM)

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ORIGINAL: rainbowtvp

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ORIGINAL: VincentGrayson
My oldest got her eyes pierced because she wanted to back when she was about 2


I hope this was a typo! [;)]... As for ears...

We didn't and wouldn't for a lot of the reasons posted, but it doesn't bother me that others do it. A lot of good parents do it, it is really a cultural thing and doesn't cause horrible, lasting damage.

My dd had to wait until 13 or so for her first piercing. She'd like another, but I have said no thus far (she is 16).

Tara P


Haha...oops. Yes, her *ears* not her eyes.



Mrs.Wifey -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/14/2008 3:52:14 PM)

We haven't had any trouble with Gabby's getting infected, I just cleaned them as they directed and they also obviously got washed when we bathed her. They didn't even really get "crusty" like my piercings did.



peculiar_lady2 -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/14/2008 3:55:53 PM)

yeah we never had trouble either...just turn them every diaper change and every night wash them with the solution. One of our daughters got infected when she was nearly a year old, but it was because of another reason...we let them grow back up and will soon get them done again.



reach -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/15/2008 2:05:07 AM)

No. I still don't have my ears pierced.

I don't know how my husband feels. I think I would wait and let her make the choice when she gets older. Especially since I don't have it, I think a kid would want to match me, for a while anyway.



Roberta_ -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/15/2008 4:27:38 PM)

no.

Both of my girls had to wait until they were about 13 to get theirs done.

They had a choice in the matter of whether or not to have holes in their ears.

My 20 yo dd has never wanted it done. My 15 yo couldn't wait to have it done and she loves to wear earrings.



Jolie -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/17/2008 7:19:29 PM)

Definately. I do not have daughters, however when each of my grand-daughters were 4 months old (that being necessary so they have the shots they need from the doctor)I had each of their ears pierced - they are now 3 and 2 respectively. I love the way the earrings look, and I am very fond of "girly girls" as we basically have mainly boys in the family. I also put them in dresses much of the time, with frilly socks and Mary Jane patent leather shoes - especially for church. One of my grand-daughter's - the one I am raising also wears a gold necklace with a cross and a star of David, as I was born jewish, and a little gold bracelet on her wrist. She loves her jewelry.

Shalom, Jolie



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