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Melitac -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/18/2008 1:32:08 AM)

I posted earlier that I believe that it is a cultural thing....I now change my mind.

I am now inclined to believe it is a worldly thing.
A thing that might incline me to place "bling" in my infants ears.

In this case, I disagree with it.

Purity and innocence doesn't need that.

JMHO



peculiar_lady2 -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/18/2008 11:04:13 AM)

it's not a worldly thing...it's a personal preference...that's all. It's not something that is a sin...it isn't going to hurt the ethical nature of a child who does have it. It isn't raising them to be self centered. It is simply earrings. Some people like them, some people don't. It has NOTHING to do with someone's "worldliness" or lack thereof.



PrincessDonna -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/18/2008 11:05:53 AM)

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it's not a worldly thing...it's a personal preference...that's all. It's not something that is a sin...it isn't going to hurt the ethical nature of a child who does have it. It isn't raising them to be self centered. It is simply earrings. Some people like them, some people don't. It has NOTHING to do with someone's "worldliness" or lack thereof.


I agree. I don't care for them on my baby girl(s), but I don't care what anyone else does. I don't think it's a moral issue at all.



MrsTracy72 -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/18/2008 8:23:47 PM)

My girls both had their ears pierced when they said they wanted them. I didn't think it would be right to put holes in their ears without them having a say in it. While they were young, they did ask, then we went and they picked out their earrings, and sat in the chair.

As for me, my mom made me wait until I was 12 before I could have earrings and wear nylons instead of tights.



TammyIsBlessed -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/23/2008 12:27:02 PM)

I personally think it contributes to the whole making little girls look older than they are trend that is going around that I can't stand - so NO, we do not pierce our little girls ears. It reminds me of little girls pageants and all that stuff. [:'(]

We will either let them get it done at age 13 or as a rite of passage when they begin menstruating (just read that idea here and I do like that!).

And I personally do not think ear piercing and circumcision can be compared in any way. People normally decide to circumcise based on more than just how it looks.

Again, these are my personal opinions, and to each their own!



peculiar_lady2 -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/23/2008 1:30:03 PM)

we chose to pierce our girls ears as a baby because I didn't want them to have to remember the pain that I went through when getting mine done (long story...someone did it wrong and I had to get it done twice, but one of my holes didn't match up the second time with the first hole, so it's a little crooked...hard to explain). We do not allow them to wear inappropriate earrings...in fact they don't wear them except for pics and to church when they get dressed up anyway. Everyday use we don't do....probably mostly because I only wear them to church and going out like that, not every day. I think there is a way to have them and NOT buy into that mentality of the pageant queen persona...and I think we have struck a very good balance for it in our house.



MrsTracy72 -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/23/2008 2:18:10 PM)

LOL, I am thinking back to last year when my younges wanted her ears pierced. My son actually came up and told me that she wanted earrings. So I asked her if she wanted earrings, and I told her what they do and she still said yes. I know she was only three at the time, but still, she reasons things very well and, well, you would just have to know her to understand. Anyway, we took her and she picked out her own earrings. They are cute little flowers made of pink stones.

It has been almost a year, and during that time, she has not allowed me to take them out. After her 6 weeks were up, we had to take them out at night to clean her ears and clean the earrings. I actually did get them changed once, but that was not an easy task. She doesn't like us touching them.

When she had her surgery in October, we had to take them out, but they gave her the "happy juice" first and let us wait until that started to affect her before we did it. Then we put them back in when she was still waking up.

I think it is a personal choice. My mom chose the age of 12, I chose to let them do it when they asked, and Sarah chose to do it as infants. I don't have a problem with infants having earrings, I just didn't want to do it for mine.

But it was fun taking them and then going out to lunch after. We made a day out of it.



Mrs.X -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/23/2008 2:44:56 PM)

I don't remember if I asked my mom or if she just did it when I was 5. I remember wearing my grandma's clip-ons during dress-up, so maybe I expressed that I wanted them. I do remember it stinging and crying, but it's really not that bad if you get them done with a gun. It's a fast stinging pain. Not some traumatic extremely painfull process. So, I really don't think that would play a part in my decisions of when to get them done. I think it looks cute on baby girls is all.



MrsTracy72 -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/23/2008 3:02:06 PM)

My mom and her sisters did it to eachother. They used ice cubes to freeze it, then held a potato behind their earlobe (I think to keep it steady but I don't know why a potato) and then they used a sewing needle and thread and did it that way. OUCH![sm=icon_smile_dead.gif]



OneOfHisJewels -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/23/2008 3:22:20 PM)

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or as a rite of passage when they begin menstruating (just read that idea here and I do like that!).


Actually, that was my parents' method, and my sisters and I hated it, because it was so embarrasing when people would ask us when we could get our ears pierced. Plus, I felt bad for my older sister cause she didn't start til age 14, so she had to wait a long time.



Roberta_ -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/23/2008 3:24:52 PM)

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or as a rite of passage when they begin menstruating (just read that idea here and I do like that!).


Actually, that was my parents' method, and my sisters and I hated it, because it was SO embaressing when people would ask us when we could get our ears pierce. Plus, I felt bad for my older sister cause she didn't start til age 14, so she had to wait a long time.


One of my aunts did that. One out of four of her girls didn't start until she was 16. The others were about 14. They just told people that they would get them pierced sometime in their teens.



timzagain -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/26/2008 10:39:47 AM)

A childhood friend had her earlobe torn in rough play with my younger brother - it was painful, traumatic, and left a little split in her ear never went away! I vowed then that I would never let my young daughters wear pierced earrings. However ...

With first DD, I allowed her to pierce her ears when she was about 8 or 9. She has never been a rough and tumble child, so I figured she'd be OK. Thankfully, there were no injuries or mishaps! I took care of them until they healed - I wouldn't have trusted that job to a child of that age! She's worn earrings consistently since then (she's now 15) and wears earrings constantly. She's now nagging me about another ear piercing but her dad is totally against it!

Younger DD totally looked like a boy as a baby. Even in a dress, she looked like a baby boy in drag! I had her ears pierced when she was months old, in the hope that she'd actually look more like a girl! Now 10 years old, youngest rarely wears earrings and when she does, it doesn't last much longer than an hour! What's really funny/ odd about her earring aversion is the fact that her hobby is jewelry making! As I type this, she's completing yet another pair of earrings - to give to a friend of mine!

When I was 13, I had my ears pierced by my aunt, a nurse. Talk about anguish! If I had had any idea that my ears would have caused me so much pain, I would NEVER have done it! In spite of my diligence in cleaning them etc, they took a long time to heal. As a matter of fact, my aunt decided to re-pierce them at some stage because the holes were blocked/ not healing quickly! Ouch!

Somewhere in my late teens or early 20's I had the idea that I'd get a second set of holes done - stood in line for about 30 minutes; the baby ahead of me in line screamed her head off when hers were done. I chickened out and left!



TammyIsBlessed -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (2/26/2008 5:32:10 PM)

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ORIGINAL: OneOfHisJewels

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or as a rite of passage when they begin menstruating (just read that idea here and I do like that!).


Actually, that was my parents' method, and my sisters and I hated it, because it was so embarrasing when people would ask us when we could get our ears pierced. Plus, I felt bad for my older sister cause she didn't start til age 14, so she had to wait a long time.

Didn't think of that.
Ok - I think we'll stick with an age then![:)]



faroukfarouk -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (4/16/2008 2:57:11 AM)

I'm harldy an expert but, my one and a half cent observation:

In Latin American countries, maternity nurses go and do it automatically to girls (unless the parents specifically opt out).

The 'should we', 'shouldn't we' moralizing which one sometimes hears on the subject misses the point really in the sense that it ignores the actual practice, which isn't going to change.



legalnicki -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (4/16/2008 10:45:58 AM)

I wish I would have. Last summer when DD was 6, she asked to have them pierced. I specifically asked the lady if she'd get a second person and pierce both ears simultaneously, but she said they don't do that because they never end up even (Grrrr...). The first ear was pierced, then DD refused to have the second one done because it hurt.

So now my 7 year old just wears one aqua blue stud earring. I think she kind of likes being different in that way, and she doesn't really care that I won't buy her any more earrings until she gets the second ear done. She's quite independent!



legalnicki -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (4/16/2008 10:55:51 AM)

I don't understand the whole "right of passage" for menstruating thing, and what that has to do with getting ears pierced. I would have been mortified if a big deal had been made out of me getting my period when I was 12. I was embarrassed enough to ask my Mom for pads, but then she had to tell my Dad that we needed to go out and buy some for me. [:@] I don't mind celebrating womanhood, but to me, a period is not a happy occasion, and I don't think getting pierced ears would have made up for the cramps.
[;)]



faroukfarouk -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (4/16/2008 11:37:15 AM)

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I wish I would have. Last summer when DD was 6, she asked to have them pierced. I specifically asked the lady if she'd get a second person and pierce both ears simultaneously, but she said they don't do that because they never end up even (Grrrr...). The first ear was pierced, then DD refused to have the second one done because it hurt.

So now my 7 year old just wears one aqua blue stud earring. I think she kind of likes being different in that way, and she doesn't really care that I won't buy her any more earrings until she gets the second ear done. She's quite independent!


Only one ear? It's often boys that have that done, isn't, though they're doing both ears usually now, aren't they



legalnicki -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (4/16/2008 1:26:52 PM)

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I wish I would have. Last summer when DD was 6, she asked to have them pierced. I specifically asked the lady if she'd get a second person and pierce both ears simultaneously, but she said they don't do that because they never end up even (Grrrr...). The first ear was pierced, then DD refused to have the second one done because it hurt.

So now my 7 year old just wears one aqua blue stud earring. I think she kind of likes being different in that way, and she doesn't really care that I won't buy her any more earrings until she gets the second ear done. She's quite independent!


Only one ear? It's often boys that have that done, isn't, though they're doing both ears usually now, aren't they

LOL... Yep, she only has one ear pierced.
I think boys to get just one pierced (i.e. in the '80's, a left earring for a boy was the in thing), but the current trend now is both.



faroukfarouk -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (4/16/2008 3:22:01 PM)

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Only one ear? It's often boys that have that done, isn't, though they're doing both ears usually now, aren't they

LOL... Yep, she only has one ear pierced.
I think boys to get just one pierced (i.e. in the '80's, a left earring for a boy was the in thing), but the current trend now is both.


So I guess you would let a son do both (and presumably expect that your daughter will get both done eventually as well)?



TammyIsBlessed -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (4/16/2008 8:41:02 PM)

That's a whole nother thread - would you let your son pierce his ears?[:D]



faroukfarouk -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (4/16/2008 9:47:59 PM)

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ORIGINAL: TammyIsBlessed

That's a whole nother thread - would you let your son pierce his ears?[:D]


Well, would you?

(or another thread...)

Take care.



karlie -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (4/16/2008 10:32:18 PM)

No. I had two daughters and people told me all the time how adorable they would look with pierced ears. But, I saw nothing necessary about subjecting them to even a minor bit of pain, soreness, healing, and the possibility of infection for nothing more than parental vanity. They (the babies)don't care how cute it looks, so I chose not to put them through that just to please myself.

Then other reason is little girls grow up way too fast as it is. People seem to like seeing them as miniature adults, and I didn't. There was plenty of time for them to do the jewelery, make-up and all that. I didn't want to start it off as infants.



Ps103 -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (4/16/2008 10:42:57 PM)

No, I wouldn't. Not because I think would hurt her or anything, and she would probably get her own ears pierced later anyway, but I just don't see the point.

Babies, like brides, are beautiful by definition. There is simply no need to do it, IMO.



legalnicki -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (4/17/2008 10:24:37 AM)

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Only one ear? It's often boys that have that done, isn't, though they're doing both ears usually now, aren't they

LOL... Yep, she only has one ear pierced.
I think boys to get just one pierced (i.e. in the '80's, a left earring for a boy was the in thing), but the current trend now is both.


So I guess you would let a son do both (and presumably expect that your daughter will get both done eventually as well)?

My son (11) doesn't want to get his pierced, but if he changed his mind in the future, I'd have to think about it - I think it would only be a matter of what age. His dad has a pierced ear (one, from the 80's!) but doesn't wear an earring anymore. Pierced ears are at the very bottom of my list of things to worry about during my son's jr. high/high school years. So yes, I guess I'd let him get them done! :-)



faroukfarouk -> RE: Would you pierce your baby girl's ears? (4/17/2008 11:12:25 AM)

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ORIGINAL: faroukfarouk

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Only one ear? It's often boys that have that done, isn't, though they're doing both ears usually now, aren't they

LOL... Yep, she only has one ear pierced.
I think boys to get just one pierced (i.e. in the '80's, a left earring for a boy was the in thing), but the current trend now is both.


So I guess you would let a son do both (and presumably expect that your daughter will get both done eventually as well)?

My son (11) doesn't want to get his pierced, but if he changed his mind in the future, I'd have to think about it - I think it would only be a matter of what age. His dad has a pierced ear (one, from the 80's!) but doesn't wear an earring anymore. Pierced ears are at the very bottom of my list of things to worry about during my son's jr. high/high school years.


Nicki,

Boys often do want it done, don't they. It wouldn't be at all unusual, anyway, so don't be suprised if he does decide he wants it, whether or not he admits it at first. The fact that his father had it done might prove to be a factor, as well.

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So yes, I guess I'd let him get them done! :-)


Well, if so, I'm sure he would appreciate you letting him get them done, wouldn't he, but remember if you change your mind about being willing to let him have his ears pierced, don't tell him now that you'd be willing to let him do it.

Because he is more likely to ask, if he knows that you'd let him.

(Unless it doesn't bother you at all, of course, then there's no harm in telling him straight that you'd be willing to let him do it.)

Take care, Nicki.



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