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Room2Grow -> RE: Trying to Concieve (TTC) Round 3 (2/22/2008 12:12:22 PM)

Well, I finally made an appointment for early March. I have two girls, but since my last one (16 months ago), I have not had a period, and though I joked that it would be nice to just get pg and skip the cycle like some of my favorite cw ladies, that has not happened, and I'm starting to think something is up. I'm still nursing, but just at sleepy times- she's ever increasing her intake of solids, so I don't know why I'm 8 months behind schedule getting it back (it came back 10 months pp with my first who was still exclusively bf at that point). I am hoping that I will just get pg before then, but I also thought it would be nice to have a September baby, and now November is my earliest hope... I was hoping to get the next one further away from Christmas!

My first was 10 months ttc, the second was 9 months but was a m/c, then one month later, I got pg again, so with no cycle yet, I don't know what to expect!

Chelsea- I think hugs are always appreciated!



manda59 -> RE: Trying to Concieve (TTC) Round 3 (2/22/2008 2:24:05 PM)

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ORIGINAL: pumpkin
manda, I'm sorry if you took what I said as condescending or something. I have never heard of the research that you listed, and it still seems really high considering all the charts that I've viewed.(and I've looked through many chart galleries as well as at my own charts, and those of friends) Although I'm no expert.

I did get specific test numbers, and my numbers were *firmly* in the middle of what they considered a normal range at the time... although I don't recall them at the moment.

It is interesting, but I'm not sure that it means much if your temps. are a little low.. that could also be normal for some people.




hi pumpkin

I didn't take it that way at all!

I don't know whether low basal temperatures *are* just normal (without any underlying reason) for some people. I just do know that hypothyroidism and low basal temperatures do go hand in hand, and hypothyroidism can also play a part in infertility.

The reason I posted was because it would seem a real shame if some of you TTC'ers were actually hypothyroid, because this could be playing a big part in their infertility issues:-

Hypothyroidism and Infertility

Another thing about the so-called "normal range" for thyroid function tests - they don't take into account Hashimoto's Thyroiditis, which is the weird name (sorry Mr. Hashimoto!) for an auto-immune disorder where the body produces antibodies against its own thyroid. A person with this could have a result in the "normal" range, but it would not be a good indicator of that person's thyroid function overall, because their levels can fluctuate depending on how many antibodies their system happens to be producing at that time.

I notice that some of the women in this folder have PCOS - well, a number of hypothyroid women also have PCOS, so I do wonder if some of the PCOS women here might also be hypothyroid without realising it.

Having been hypothyroid (with Hashimoto's) for 11 years, I have looked into this a lot, and just wanted to suggest to some of you low-basal temp ladies that you double-check what is going on with your thyroid, and perhaps ask to have your TFT redone (and bring the results back here), PLUS be checked for thyroid antibodies.



lilyofthefield -> RE: Trying to Concieve (TTC) Round 3 (2/22/2008 2:38:21 PM)

My thyroid was not an issue (actually they tested me for hyperthyroidism because I am on the thinner side and sometimes have hyper-reflexive reactions). The only thing they think was going on with me is mild endo, but I do have low pre-O temps (actually just during that week between AF and O - especially the day or two leading up to O). It just seems to be the norm for me.



daughter_of_faith -> RE: Trying to Concieve (TTC) Round 3 (2/23/2008 11:54:36 AM)

Jennifer, I pray you get some answers soon!!



daughter_of_faith -> RE: Trying to Concieve (TTC) Round 3 (2/23/2008 12:24:19 PM)

Things have taken an interesting turn of events of late. That's the only way I really know how to put it. My AF should be here sometime this week....unless we are expecting. I just don't hold a whole lot of stock in that....it just seems like each time I think I am....I am shut down by AF....so NO expectations here.

On the other hand, my stepdaughter (age 17) is very likely pregnant. She's 2 weeks late; however, the test was BFN. So maybe it's just stress. She doesn't live with us currently, but she has asked to move back. We're seriously considering it....but that's another topic.

So just keep us in your prayers. I am still very much wanting to mother and I am NOT ready to be a grandmother yet.



daughter_of_faith -> RE: Trying to Concieve (TTC) Round 3 (2/26/2008 9:41:06 AM)

Well, we're looking at early December as our earliest hope now...otherwise the baby will not be here until next year [:(]

AF is here....still in light phases....but I've given up any hope of it being implantation bleeding because of the color. (Sorry if that's TMI). [:'(]

I go to the doctor today (it's a follow up appointment from being sick a couple of weeks ago). Just don't know if I should go ahead and mention something to the doctor today that we're TTC & haven't had success yet. He's in family practice, but there is an OB/GYN with the clinic they have.

As for my stepdaughter, she talked to the potential father of the child & he's wanting her to go to Planned Parenthood. She isn't wanting to go there or anywhere honestly (she's scared to know). But she really needs to get some answers on this so she can begin prenatal care if she is expecting. Please keep praying!!



clag4christ -> RE: Trying to Concieve (TTC) Round 3 (2/26/2008 2:51:36 PM)

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I go to the doctor today (it's a follow up appointment from being sick a couple of weeks ago). Just don't know if I should go ahead and mention something to the doctor today that we're TTC & haven't had success yet. He's in family practice, but there is an OB/GYN with the clinic they have.

As for my stepdaughter, she talked to the potential father of the child & he's wanting her to go to Planned Parenthood. She isn't wanting to go there or anywhere honestly (she's scared to know). But she really needs to get some answers on this so she can begin prenatal care if she is expecting. Please keep praying!!


You could definitely mention your concerns to your doctor when you go in for your check up. However you should be prepared for him to likely either say 'wait a while more and keep trying' or he might just try and give you a prescription for clomid. If I were in your situation I would ask for a referral to a Reproductive Endocrinologist from him (if your ins. requires referrals). If you are able to get that then take your charts with you so that you can discuss your concers with him/her.

As far as your stepdaughter is concerned...don't under any circumstances allow her to go to Planned Parenthood. They *will not* be straight with her and will likely try and convince her to have an abortion...which is likely why the 'potential father' has mentioned them.

If you are close with your stepdaughter I would offer to go to the regular ob with her to get a blood test. That way you could chat with her and reassure her that both you and your husband have committed to be there for her and her baby (if indeed she is pg) and that abortion does not need to be considered.

Blessings,
Kim



daughter_of_faith -> RE: Trying to Concieve (TTC) Round 3 (2/26/2008 9:26:06 PM)

Well, I am home from my doctor appointment. I am back to health...yay! My doctor & I talked about some things relating to conception. Basically, he told me to start temping (use graph paper...hey, I can do old fashioned). He talked about timing & positioning as well. DH & I will try for a few more months & then the doc will do our work up (if needed). He is leaning towards DH because I have a son from my previous marriage. DH has no biological children (my steps are also his steps).

That's pretty much where we are at. I pray we conceive soon because I know DH isn't a big fan of medicine, etc. Please pray that we will be able to do this naturally.

Megan



daughter_of_faith -> RE: Trying to Concieve (TTC) Round 3 (2/26/2008 9:34:30 PM)

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ORIGINAL: clag4christ

As far as your stepdaughter is concerned...don't under any circumstances allow her to go to Planned Parenthood. They *will not* be straight with her and will likely try and convince her to have an abortion...which is likely why the 'potential father' has mentioned them.

If you are close with your stepdaughter I would offer to go to the regular ob with her to get a blood test. That way you could chat with her and reassure her that both you and your husband have committed to be there for her and her baby (if indeed she is pg) and that abortion does not need to be considered.

Blessings,
Kim


My SD doesn't live with us or I would go with her...if she would welcome that. I'm not sure if she would be open to that or not. We are committed to her; however, she has decided that she is going to get her GED where she is currently living. She had asked to move back her (& we had said she could)....but she decided not to move back (she lived with us last summer).

The potential father is supposedly supportive of her and the baby. I really do not know. What I know is this....my SD loves children so very much. I know she isn't ready for a baby, but I cannot imagine her having an abortion. (I think that's part of why she doesn't want to go to PP cuz they advocate abortion). She is very much pro-life....as far as I know...but...she has been making some bad choices lately and may go to that extreme. I pray not...if she is pg.

I may not want to be a grandma at my age (25)....but I would NEVER encourage her to act in this fashion. Please keep praying. I am not sure when she will get confirmation if she is indeed pg. She is honestly scared and doesn't really want to know. But she has had NO signs of PMS. I would think she would start having some morning sickness or something by now...but every pregnancy is different (if she is pg).

Thanks for your prayers and encouragement.

God bless,
Megan



daughter_of_faith -> RE: Trying to Concieve (TTC) Round 3 (2/26/2008 9:48:47 PM)

Just got the text from my SD. She took another test last night and it was BFP. [&:][:(][:@][:o][&o][&:][:(]

Please pray....



clag4christ -> RE: Trying to Concieve (TTC) Round 3 (2/26/2008 9:51:43 PM)

I will pray for her.

Oh...and my SIL is a 'grandmother' without having children of her own as well. She pretty much was a grandma when she got married at like 19 or 20. Her hubby is almost 30 years older than she is and had a marriage and 3 (I think) children from that previous relationship, and they in turn have kids. In fact her hubby's youngest child is one year younger than she is, lol. She just doesn't allow his grand children to call her g-ma. They call her by her first name. [:)]



daughter_of_faith -> RE: Trying to Concieve (TTC) Round 3 (2/26/2008 10:35:22 PM)

Thank you, Kim. That might be an idea (the first name thing). I'm not entirely sure what God has planned because both DH and I agree that she is NOT ready for a child (at all). [&:]

I never thought I would be a grandma before I would be a mom again. Really hope we're able to have a baby soon!!!



clag4christ -> RE: Trying to Concieve (TTC) Round 3 (2/26/2008 10:37:36 PM)

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ORIGINAL: daughter_of_faith

Thank you, Kim. That might be an idea (the first name thing). I'm not entirely sure what God has planned because both DH and I agree that she is NOT ready for a child (at all). [&:]

I never thought I would be a grandma before I would be a mom again. Really hope we're able to have a baby soon!!!



Are you guys thinking of adoption? I know it's still very early in her pg...but do you think sh'd be willing to do that?



daughter_of_faith -> RE: Trying to Concieve (TTC) Round 3 (2/26/2008 10:40:34 PM)

DH & I have talked about adoption before. We haven't really broached the subject of adopting her child specifically (as it is so new)....although that is where my thought process went. I am not sure what SD is wanting to do, though.

Does anyone have experience with this? Adopting a child of a family member? It might be a bit awkward for my SD later on...



clag4christ -> RE: Trying to Concieve (TTC) Round 3 (2/26/2008 10:49:19 PM)

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ORIGINAL: daughter_of_faith

DH & I have talked about adoption before. We haven't really broached the subject of adopting her child specifically (as it is so new)....although that is where my thought process went. I am not sure what SD is wanting to do, though.

Does anyone have experience with this? Adopting a child of a family member? It might be a bit awkward for my SD later on...



I have absolutely *no* experience with this...but I do know that it can be done successfully (having heard stories second hand). It would most likely have to be an 'open' adoption and you'd probably have to allow her to be a big part of the baby's life (not saying you wouldn't do that anyway). You could, if the adoption occurred you could call her 'auntie' or something similar (or even 'second mommy'). It would all be pretty confusing, to tell you the truth...but if the baby is loved then that's all that really matters. [:)] I don't really have any good advice...just sort of thinking out loud here....trying to be of some help.

Anyway...lol

Blessings!
Kim



Mrs.Wifey -> RE: Trying to Concieve (TTC) Round 3 (2/26/2008 10:58:48 PM)

You can PM "dianetavegia"(or something like that), they adopted their Grandson over a decade ago and I'm sure she would chat with you about it...



daughter_of_faith -> RE: Trying to Concieve (TTC) Round 3 (2/26/2008 10:59:47 PM)

Thank you, Kim. We'll have to see how things go over time. It's going to be a long 9 months or so. DH and I are still in shock over it all...even though we have known about the possibility....



daughter_of_faith -> RE: Trying to Concieve (TTC) Round 3 (2/26/2008 11:01:06 PM)

Thanks, Ryanne...I'll have to look her up....



reach -> RE: Trying to Concieve (TTC) Round 3 (2/26/2008 11:56:02 PM)

I also have custody of my nephew with my parents.

We chose not to adopt him because his parents would still be in his life, and we felt it would be confusing for him. It was the right choice in our situation.



daughter_of_faith -> RE: Trying to Concieve (TTC) Round 3 (3/1/2008 11:42:55 PM)

Well, I talked more to my SD...she doesn't want to adopt the child out....if she is pg....she says she can do it.

But...the weird thing is this....she told me yesterday that she wasn't pg anymore...she had lost it or the test was wrong. Her monthly cycle started, but she said it was lighter than usual. Well, then she continued with adding that her mom had cycled for the first 4 mos. of her younger bro's pregnancy. I have heard of this happening; however, it's pretty rare (right?).

I'm beginning to think she's playing head games. Since this is the place for TTC though....what are the chances that she actually is pg?



clag4christ -> RE: Trying to Concieve (TTC) Round 3 (3/2/2008 12:36:53 AM)

There is no such thing as a false positive. She's pg. Having bleeding during pg (enough to make her think it's a period) is very rare and uncommon. She might be thinking that she's miscarrying. And if that's the case she needs to get to the doctor.

Even though she's not in close proximity to you I think, were I in your position both, my husband and I would offer to drive to wherever she is and pick her up and go to the doctor with her to be sure. They would likely do an u/s or at least a blood test for her.



daughter_of_faith -> RE: Trying to Concieve (TTC) Round 3 (3/2/2008 10:34:07 AM)

Well, we would definitely do that; however, SD lives in another state. It's about a 12 hour drive up there (give or take & depending on who is driving). I have tried to encourage her to go to the doctor (she just got an Oregon medical card...so she DOES have coverage to pay any bills that may arise).

I quote...she's been feeling "really sick, MAJOR CRAMPS, nothing helps." When I asked her about going to the doc, she said, "Idk, whenever." I replied that she needed to go as soon as possible to figure out what was going on (I mean...what if is it a miscarriage? If her flow is light....doesn't that potentially mean something like that? And wouldn't it be possible that she would need a D & C?)

She said, "Yeah, but I have to work as much as I can. Don't have time (to go to the doctor)." The thing is...she was OFF work on Friday and yesterday, but did nothing...as far as I have heard [&:][:@][:o] I guess that's the part of me that thinks she could be making things up (if that makes sense?). I pray this is not the case. Anyway, I'm deviating WAY far from the TTC...so...



daughter_of_faith -> RE: Trying to Concieve (TTC) Round 3 (3/2/2008 10:43:00 AM)

Also: question...

And this MAY be TMI, so please forgive me!! This month I've had pretty bad cramps and Midol hasn't done anything to help (this was before & during menses). Thankfully I am over with that now...I pray. The reason I say that is this: I've had several cycles of light, heavy, light, heavy, light, heavy. This isn't normal for me (I do have a day where I miss in the middle, but then the flow becomes heavy & gets light again. Then I'm done for the month). I know women do have an occasional "weird" cycle. Is that what this is? Should I mention this to my doctor?

Cramps have been increasing & becoming more intense in recent cycles. I have read that calcium can help with this, so I'll be trying that this month.

Anyway, I need to get out the door for church. Thanks for your help, ladies.

God bless :)



daughter_of_faith -> RE: Trying to Concieve (TTC) Round 3 (3/3/2008 10:35:08 PM)

Well, I found out today that one of my coworkers is pregnant. I didn't even know that until today. Not sure when she is due. It just keeps getting harder & harder for me because we're still not pregnant. Does anyone else feel that way?



pumpkin -> RE: Trying to Concieve (TTC) Round 3 (3/4/2008 9:45:52 AM)

Yep, and that's a part of the reason why I started the struggling to conceive thread. I didn't want those who got pregnant easily to feel bad about posting about it... and it gave me and a few others a place to discuss those feelings. =)



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