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RE: The Meet Market - 7/20/2008 12:29:13 AM
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Prairiehiker
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What I would like to know is who's idea it was to make the ladies shoes look like men's shoes and vice versa because now my self-esteem is back down again. There, I'm finished venting and I feel much better now . Okay, undigressing back on topic.
Shoes are gender neutral now to avoid gender discrimination based on the type of shoes one is wearing, lol. Sorry, you're having a bad day. You're not allowed to show us that you're having a bad day since you've become the resident counsellor in this forum. You have to be a rock! LOL.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/20/2008 12:42:19 AM
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What would be my motivation to continue to remain open when it's already obvious that we're not compatible in some areas that are necessary for us to be compatible in?
I was confused about how you went from being very impressed by his profile and such to deciding he wasn't compatible because of how he answered a couple of questions. Some people don't express themselves quite as well in writing as they do in person and others look good on paper but not in person. It seems like it may be worth the while to at least meet him since you're headed in that direction anyway. He may very well still be hurting over the past relationships but he may have a very good reason for that. Even if he's not ready for a relationship right now, he may be a good prospect in the future.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/20/2008 7:57:52 AM
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Hey Choir;
Sorry about the shoe thing. I had a bit of a downer myself yesterday, but finally came through it simply by plodding on through my to do list and praying for God to comfort me. Sometimes that works.
After reading something that okrox said in another forum, and having my profile make-over done by our resident counselor and musician ChoirDJ, AND having been told many times on these boards that guys like to know they'd be welcome if they made conversation...
I've decide to send icebreakers to every match that even seems like a potential. I will even send icebreakers that don't just say "hi". I'm going to send ones that at least say "your profile caught my attention--let's chat".
So there. I think I should go post that over in the "new things" thread. It's a new thing for me. I'd prefer the man make the very first move and every move afterwards, but if that's what y'all need, I'll be glad to wave at you from across the room to let you know I won't use my stilletto heels on you.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/20/2008 10:25:22 AM
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Prairiehiker
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What would be my motivation to continue to remain open when it's already obvious that we're not compatible in some areas that are necessary for us to be compatible in?
I was confused about how you went from being very impressed by his profile and such to deciding he wasn't compatible because of how he answered a couple of questions. Some people don't express themselves quite as well in writing as they do in person and others look good on paper but not in person. It seems like it may be worth the while to at least meet him since you're headed in that direction anyway. He may very well still be hurting over the past relationships but he may have a very good reason for that. Even if he's not ready for a relationship right now, he may be a good prospect in the future.
I still think that his profile is impressive. He'll be a good catch, but not for me. The only thing we have in common is the fact that we're on fire for GOd. I don't believe in keeping someone around for future potential unless I like him as a friend. But since he's a thousand miles away, it's not likely that we'll be friends. Compatibility is really important for me. My lifestyle is not something I"m willing to change much just to be in a relationship. I honesly can't see me with a couch potato or a homebody.
I closed the match.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/20/2008 12:11:21 PM
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Guys...I was being light-hearted about having a bad day and I was laughing the entire time I wrote that post. I was able to play it off even though there were a few people around and it was funny to me that no one noticed.
besiderself...very good! There's a saying that goes something like "if you don't like the results you are getting, try doing something different." Sometimes, you have to step out of the comfort zone a little so what you're doing is good. If he's interested, he'll get the hint and take it from there. If not, then you are one person closer to finding Mr. Right  .
Prairiehiker...sounds like you learned some things about him that didn't quite show in his profile initially and those things were deal-breakers for you. We must have been posting at the same time because I posted one post right after the other one.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/20/2008 12:50:19 PM
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I've decide to send icebreakers to every match that even seems like a potential. I will even send icebreakers that don't just say "hi". I'm going to send ones that at least say "your profile caught my attention--let's chat".
Besiderself, this is how I normally deal with people in general. Everywhere I go, I make it a point to pay attention to people, esp the ones that seems to be alone and needing just a smile or a hi or just some sort of acknowledgement to know that they are not alone. Often times in my bike rides, I come across a lot of people who are sitting by themselves and often times, I smile, say hello, and if they are open, I ask them about anything about their day. Often times, people are just so happy to have someone pay attention to them. I see older people in their 70s or 80s, probably widows who are just hungry for another human connection. It hurts me to no end that they seem to have no one. I'm not part of any ministry in church (honestly, I'm not even 100 % sold out when it comes to organized ministry anyway), I make it my ministry to show love to everyone I come across.
I know that this is probably how I'll meet a special person though this is not my agenda. Yeah, so you go girl. Smile, flirt, and see if you meet someone that way. I have a hard time doing it when it comes to online dating. My fear is that when and if I do meet someone online, I'm wondering how many women he's flirting with. I have a friend who smiles at everyone online, and he'd date them all if they all would be willing. So not attractive!
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/20/2008 2:09:13 PM
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Hey Prairie;
I was going to post this question in the Pick up lines thread, but with your lead in, I'll put it here:
Yesterday I was at the gym, and relaxing in the hot tub alone after my work out. A guy came in and got in, prolly in my demographic. I had closed my eyes and opened them to find him already in the tub...and thought I should say something, but I couldn't think of anything! I ended up just getting out, since I had another appointment anyway. But I sure would like to have an idea of something intelligent to say next time.
Any ideas?
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/20/2008 2:15:56 PM
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Hey Prairie;
I was going to post this question in the Pick up lines thread, but with your lead in, I'll put it here:
Yesterday I was at the gym, and relaxing in the hot tub alone after my work out. A guy came in and got in, prolly in my demographic. I had closed my eyes and opened them to find him already in the tub...and thought I should say something, but I couldn't think of anything! I ended up just getting out, since I had another appointment anyway. But I sure would like to have an idea of something intelligent to say next time.
Any ideas?
besiderself
First, check ring finger, lol. That would determine what your opening line would be ha ha. Someone pointed to me the other day that I never check if a guy wears a ring. The honest truth is I don't even know if wedding rings are worn on the right or the left. Often times, I don't even know which is the right or the left hand, lol. I'm such a loser that way!
But that's a tough one. It's hard to start a conversation with the opposite sex when you're barely clothed! lol Hmmm. What can you really say that won't be misinterpreted. Let me think and get back to you.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/20/2008 2:23:43 PM
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Honestly, even checking the ring finger doesn't mean anything these days - as there are many married men who don't wear wedding rings.
I will say this - if I see something on either hand, ring finger, I assume they are married. I know too many people from other cultures who wear the ring on the right hand - so it's normal to me to check.
Regarding what to say? I'd be mortified if in that situation, so I'm sure I have done the same thing, Esther.
At least with the online stuff - you can send out the ice-breakers. That's a good idea.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/20/2008 2:25:42 PM
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Ok, got it. In your scenerio there, I'd probably say something like,
Oh hi! You startled me. I thought I was alone here. This hot tub is so nice after a long work out. I almost fell asleep. Hope you didn't hear me snore. Then smile. he he.
See how he responds. Then go from there. Like I said, hot tubs and bathing suits, alone, um...not a good time to start flirting in a sensual way because he might jump you, lol. This is the time when you'll find me in my most conservative demeanor, almost Victorian. Just get the conversation going and see where it goes.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/20/2008 2:38:42 PM
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Oh, that's a GREAT response!!!!!!!
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/20/2008 2:48:00 PM
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Some sites give you complete freedom when setting up your profile. EHarmony gives you questions to answer. After ChoirDJ's wonderful help to so many of us, I thought it might be instructional for us to critique the questions EH asks (or any other sites, if their questions are different).
Comment on the question at the end of this post and any others that get posted. Tell us:
1) Is question one that would reveal important clues about a person.
2) Is this question one that would be easy or hard to answer
3) What are some good thoughts about how to answer this question so that it is interesting to prospective matches.
Question #1
What are you most passionate about?
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/20/2008 5:07:57 PM
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Ok...so new story. On another thread (I can't remember which one) I was advised by several people to let my professors know that I am interested in someday remarrying--just in case they knew anybody who might be eligible. I prayed about it and decided that if God opened the door I would let this be known.
A few weeks later the Dean of the Music department comes up to me and says "If there's ever anything I can do for you, let me know, ok?"
That looked like an open door to me, so I sent him an email, stating that usually people were surprised to find that I am interested in remarrying, and that if the Lord put someone in his path that might be single and of the right age, etc., he could do me the favor of introducing us.
He emailed back that in fact, he did know a fellow. Through the Dean we are now exchanging pics and email addresses.
We'll see how this goes, eh? Ya'll PRAY that he's a nice guy...if it doesn't turn out to be a romance, that's ok--I just don't want to have to deal with another manipulator or pervert.
besiderself
Hi All,
I have not signed up with a dating service, yet I have diligently read up to the traffic-stopper in Calvin Kliens, so I feel a little entitled to interject a minute.
What I'm wondering about is the name of that new service mentioned above... how I can get in on that. What's it called?
Dean-Harmony?
WhoDatDean?
UpMusic?
WhenUWishUponADean?
TheLoveDean?
It sounded so much more friendly and knowledgeable than the others... .
Again, noting my capitalization and thought put in to typing this, thanks for the interruption and for sharing the knowledge!
OneJohn410
I think theLoveDean might be a winner, were it a contest, but I'd suppose it was Besiderself that named it, and I just missed the web address. 
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/20/2008 5:38:10 PM
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ShallbeRebuilt
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ORIGINAL: besiderself
Ok...so new story. On another thread (I can't remember which one) I was advised by several people to let my professors know that I am interested in someday remarrying--just in case they knew anybody who might be eligible. I prayed about it and decided that if God opened the door I would let this be known.
A few weeks later the Dean of the Music department comes up to me and says "If there's ever anything I can do for you, let me know, ok?"
That looked like an open door to me, so I sent him an email, stating that usually people were surprised to find that I am interested in remarrying, and that if the Lord put someone in his path that might be single and of the right age, etc., he could do me the favor of introducing us.
He emailed back that in fact, he did know a fellow. Through the Dean we are now exchanging pics and email addresses.
We'll see how this goes, eh? Ya'll PRAY that he's a nice guy...if it doesn't turn out to be a romance, that's ok--I just don't want to have to deal with another manipulator or pervert.
besiderself
Hi All,
I have not signed up with a dating service, yet I have diligently read up to the traffic-stopper in Calvin Kliens, so I feel a little entitled to interject a minute.
What I'm wondering about is the name of that new service mentioned above... how I can get in on that. What's it called?
Dean-Harmony?
WhoDatDean?
UpMusic?
WhenUWishUponADean?
TheLoveDean?
It sounded so much more friendly and knowledgeable than the others... .
Again, noting my capitalization and thought put in to typing this, thanks for the interruption and for sharing the knowledge!
OneJohn410
I think theLoveDean might be a winner, were it a contest, but I'd suppose it was Besiderself that named it, and I just missed the web address.
Hey OneJohn410;
Unfortunately nothing ever came of that match, so since he only has one friend who is apparently not interested (at least in me) then I'm not sure he's bondable as a dating service, LOL!
besiderself
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/21/2008 12:29:31 AM
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Hey Choir;
Sorry about the shoe thing. I had a bit of a downer myself yesterday, but finally came through it simply by plodding on through my to do list and praying for God to comfort me. Sometimes that works.
After reading something that okrox said in another forum, and having my profile make-over done by our resident counselor and musician ChoirDJ, AND having been told many times on these boards that guys like to know they'd be welcome if they made conversation...
I've decide to send icebreakers to every match that even seems like a potential. I will even send icebreakers that don't just say "hi". I'm going to send ones that at least say "your profile caught my attention--let's chat".
So there. I think I should go post that over in the "new things" thread. It's a new thing for me. I'd prefer the man make the very first move and every move afterwards, but if that's what y'all need, I'll be glad to wave at you from across the room to let you know I won't use my stilletto heels on you.
besiderself
AWESOME! YOU GO GIRL!
I'm tickled to death that someone actually listened to me. (hee hee) But I am so pleased for you!
The main thing is to NOT GET DISCOURAGED. Because some people just will not respond. Oh. Well. Thems the breaks, right? But the best benefit for the "cast-a-wide-net" method of dating is that you don't have all your hopes in one basket. If nobody responds today, or this week, it's OK because you've constantly still got other lines in the water.
Just remember the award-winning salesmen. They hear way more "no's" than the other guys, just because they're making more calls. But they're also meeting their goals. So like the old sales mantra goes, "Every no is one closer to a yes."
And since we're only looking to make ONE sale, maybe our odds are even better, right? 
I'm proud of you! Stay the course and you will be rewarded. I truly believe that.
(Current Person of Interest and I just last night mutually decided to promote him to the position of "The Man I'm Seeing." Still a long way from closing the deal, but it's a lot closer to my goal than sitting around wishing got me! It works! It works! I'm convinced it works!)
Good luck and YOU ROCK!
Roxie
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/21/2008 12:30:42 AM
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ORIGINAL: besiderself
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ORIGINAL: OneJohn410
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ORIGINAL: besiderself
Ok...so new story. On another thread (I can't remember which one) I was advised by several people to let my professors know that I am interested in someday remarrying--just in case they knew anybody who might be eligible. I prayed about it and decided that if God opened the door I would let this be known.
A few weeks later the Dean of the Music department comes up to me and says "If there's ever anything I can do for you, let me know, ok?"
That looked like an open door to me, so I sent him an email, stating that usually people were surprised to find that I am interested in remarrying, and that if the Lord put someone in his path that might be single and of the right age, etc., he could do me the favor of introducing us.
He emailed back that in fact, he did know a fellow. Through the Dean we are now exchanging pics and email addresses.
We'll see how this goes, eh? Ya'll PRAY that he's a nice guy...if it doesn't turn out to be a romance, that's ok--I just don't want to have to deal with another manipulator or pervert.
besiderself
Hi All,
I have not signed up with a dating service, yet I have diligently read up to the traffic-stopper in Calvin Kliens, so I feel a little entitled to interject a minute.
What I'm wondering about is the name of that new service mentioned above... how I can get in on that. What's it called?
Dean-Harmony?
WhoDatDean?
UpMusic?
WhenUWishUponADean?
TheLoveDean?
It sounded so much more friendly and knowledgeable than the others... .
Again, noting my capitalization and thought put in to typing this, thanks for the interruption and for sharing the knowledge!
OneJohn410
I think theLoveDean might be a winner, were it a contest, but I'd suppose it was Besiderself that named it, and I just missed the web address.
Hey OneJohn410;
Unfortunately nothing ever came of that match, so since he only has one friend who is apparently not interested (at least in me) then I'm not sure he's bondable as a dating service, LOL!
besiderself
But it's all good, right? Dating is just a numbers game. Again, I say "Every no is one closer to the yes!"
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/21/2008 7:56:18 AM
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I'm proud of you! Stay the course and you will be rewarded. I truly believe that.
(Current Person of Interest and I just last night mutually decided to promote him to the position of "The Man I'm Seeing." Still a long way from closing the deal, but it's a lot closer to my goal than sitting around wishing got me! It works! It works! I'm convinced it works!)
Good luck and YOU ROCK!
Roxie
aka The Date Crusader
Well, I'll be sad the day you have to move to the marriage thread, okrox...you're a great addition around here.
Do list for us all the different things you've done to meet as many guys as possible?
besiderself
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/21/2008 3:11:00 PM
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Like I said before most people online and those who claim to be Christians are phonies anyways. Still I will never do the online route, even people think that it is harmless because there are too many phonies who say they are Christian, but what kind of christianity are they practicing? It is sure not the Christianity that is bible believing because anyone say they are a Christian and in order for me to find someone or have a dating relationship, the person should be free of emotional problems, which some of the people I came across has and someone who is involved in their local church and that is under a pastor.
Even though you do the "right things" still you have to be careful and not fall for anything.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/21/2008 3:32:56 PM
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Like I said before most people online and those who claim to be Christians are phonies anyways. Still I will never do the online route, even people think that it is harmless because there are too many phonies who say they are Christian, but what kind of christianity are they practicing? It is sure not the Christianity that is bible believing because anyone say they are a Christian and in order for me to find someone or have a dating relationship, the person should be free of emotional problems, which some of the people I came across has and someone who is involved in their local church and that is under a pastor.
Even though you do the "right things" still you have to be careful and not fall for anything.
So, basically, through your post, you're saying that anyone who goes through any online agency is a false Christian. That's pretty harsh, and most definitely NOT correct! I know - FOR A FACT - that many of the people on here are most definitely living true biblical Christianity - and woah, they've actually posted to online dating sites.
We ALL need to be careful - and not just with those we meet online. Just because you've had bad experiences, doesn't mean that everyone else is going to as well. Some of the most godly men I've ever met, I have met through the internet.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/21/2008 3:49:13 PM
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gaylel1...gonna have to ding you on a couple of points you made in that last post (lol).
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Like I said before most people online and those who claim to be Christians are phonies anyways. Still I will never do the online route, even people think that it is harmless because there are too many phonies who say they are Christian, but what kind of christianity are they practicing? It is sure not the Christianity that is bible believing because anyone say they are a Christian and in order for me to find someone or have a dating relationship, the person should be free of emotional problems, which some of the people I came across has and someone who is involved in their local church and that is under a pastor.
I agree with you that meeting someone over the Internet has many drawbacks but there are also many pluses especially on a site like this. I would argue that you could actually get to know someone online in ways that would take you a lot longer in person because people tend to be more honest online. You can pull up pretty much a history of most people's posts and see what they are all about. Believe me, a lot of insight can be gleaned through a person's post history that may take years to find out if dealing with that person in person.
"Emotionally Free from problems?!" What does this mean? I think that's so much a part of the problem. We read so many horror stories about broken marriages and Mr. Wrongs that we become paranoid and run at the first sign of trouble. Who on this forum can claim to be "free of emotional problems?" Most of us who post here are at an age where we've have experienced some "stuff" and you can never truly break free from some of it. My standard would not be if someone if "free" in this sense. I would be more concerned about how they deal with problems and challenges in their life.
It's an illusion that Mr. Right/Ms. Right is going to have it altogether because none of us do and none of us ever will. What am I saying? In part, I am saying we've got to allow for some "yellow flags" rather than seeing every issue as a "red" flag. Believe it or not, some of those yellow flags in both of your lives will create opportunities to connect with one another as you help and support each other. It's the adversity that draws two people close together, not total compatibility.
Think about it from a spiritual perspective. You're not inclined to pray and draw close to God when everything is going well. It's in the pain and tears that you search desperately for the Lord and connect with Him on a level you never thought was even possible.
gaylel1...luv ya gal but I gotta call an Ace and "Ace" and a Spade a "Spade" on this one .
p.s. mutiny...she did say most people and not all people. This definitely applies to some although I wouldn't go as far as to say it applies to most.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/21/2008 3:52:47 PM
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ORIGINAL: gaylel1
Like I said before most people online and those who claim to be Christians are phonies anyways. Still I will never do the online route, even people think that it is harmless because there are too many phonies who say they are Christian, but what kind of christianity are they practicing? It is sure not the Christianity that is bible believing because anyone say they are a Christian and in order for me to find someone or have a dating relationship, the person should be free of emotional problems, which some of the people I came across has and someone who is involved in their local church and that is under a pastor.
Even though you do the "right things" still you have to be careful and not fall for anything.
So, basically, through your post, you're saying that anyone who goes through any online agency is a false Christian. That's pretty harsh, and most definitely NOT correct! I know - FOR A FACT - that many of the people on here are most definitely living true biblical Christianity - and woah, they've actually posted to online dating sites.
We ALL need to be careful - and not just with those we meet online. Just because you've had bad experiences, doesn't mean that everyone else is going to as well. Some of the most godly men I've ever met, I have met through the internet.
Note: Please understand that I did not say people on C.Com or CW or did not single them out.
The people who was talking about whom I went online had emotional issues, drug issues and other issues which I won't deal with. My only concern is that what kind of Christianity are they practicing? Are they practicing Mormonism, because Mormons say they are Christians. Are they practicing liberal Christanity? Or are they practicing the faith, but is into New Age thought?
If I do go into these services these are my fears because I don't want to be abucted and be a subject of the 6:00 news nor I don't want an African Prince adbucting me or someone soliciting for money.
Those are my concerns--I know you may think they are ridiculous, however, I know people whose hearts were ripped off because of promises of love which never materialized.
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Like I said before most people online and those who claim to be Christians are phonies anyways. Still I will never do the online route, even people think that it is harmless because there are too many phonies who say they are Christian, but what kind of christianity are they practicing? It is sure not the Christianity that is bible believing because anyone say they are a Christian and in order for me to find someone or have a dating relationship, the person should be free of emotional problems, which some of the people I came across has and someone who is involved in their local church and that is under a pastor.
Even though you do the "right things" still you have to be careful and not fall for anything.
So, basically, through your post, you're saying that anyone who goes through any online agency is a false Christian. That's pretty harsh, and most definitely NOT correct! I know - FOR A FACT - that many of the people on here are most definitely living true biblical Christianity - and woah, they've actually posted to online dating sites.
We ALL need to be careful - and not just with those we meet online. Just because you've had bad experiences, doesn't mean that everyone else is going to as well. Some of the most godly men I've ever met, I have met through the internet.
Note: Please understand that I did not say people on C.Com or CW or did not single them out.
The people who was talking about whom I went online had emotional issues, drug issues and other issues which I won't deal with. My only concern is that what kind of Christianity are they practicing? Are they practicing Mormonism, because Mormons say they are Christians. Are they practicing liberal Christanity? Or are they practicing the faith, but is into New Age thought?
If I do go into these services these are my fears because I don't want to be abucted and be a subject of the 6:00 news nor I don't want an African Prince adbucting me or someone soliciting for money.
Those are my concerns--I know you may think they are ridiculous, however, I know people whose hearts were ripped off because of promises of love which never materialized.
Your original post did not specify as in your 2nd post. Also, WE ALL have to be careful of such stuff. But, I do think we all know this.
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. There used to be a time in the not so distant past when ladies shoes looked very different from mens shoes, which made it easy to avoid such blunders...and nevermind that I should have noticed all the pink beach towels and such. That has nothing to do with it. 
I don't know if that's a good thing or not, but I do...and I do realize it doesn't mean much. 
