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RE: The Meet Market - 7/21/2008 10:52:33 PM
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humbleinspirit
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Now that explains why I haven't heard from them lately at all.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/21/2008 10:57:57 PM
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Has anyone here had any experience with Relationships.com at all?
I had a one-month membership on Christian Mingle last year. It was fine -- no horror stories. Corresponded with three people but nothing came of it. Two were definitely Christians; the third was a church member, but I don't believe he was a growing Christian. But nothing weird happened, and it was nice to get to chat with these guys and get an idea of who's out there.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/21/2008 11:01:30 PM
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humbleinspirit
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Now Trini, thats cool, but nothing really came of it though?
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/21/2008 11:05:56 PM
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I've interacted with countless men through that sight. And no, nothing has come of it.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/21/2008 11:06:34 PM
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humbleinspirit
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Now thats a bummer!
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/21/2008 11:09:06 PM
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With me, they see the picture and can't get beyond that - and then when they do begin to interact with me, they find out that I'm so much more than they can deal with - and off into the sunset they go.......
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/21/2008 11:13:12 PM
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I once enrolled in a trial membership for an online dating site just to send an email to a man that I had met elsewhere. He wasn't really meeting anyone on the site, and I didn't want him to feel like he had wasted his money. 
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/21/2008 11:16:44 PM
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Now Trini, thats cool, but nothing really came of it though?
Nope, nothing. They were all interesting to talk to, but that was about it. The first man who e-mailed (which is what eventually hooked me into paying, out of sheer curiosity) started out with kind of a tacky joke and then sent me a couple of e-mails apologizing for it. I reassured him it was fine, but that was the end of our "conversation." Guess he found someone else he'd prefer to e-mail! The second person was nice but waaaayyyyy too many questions in his e-mails! I felt like I was being interviewed. After a couple of e-mails within the CM site, I told him I wasn't comfortable giving out my personal e-mail yet, and that's the last I heard from him. Kind of the same thing for the third fellow. After a few brief, surface e-mails he asked for my phone number. Again, I told him I wasn't comfortable giving that out, and that was the end of that!
So, that leads to what could be an interesting question for this thread. Have any of you on online sites been asked for contact information when you weren't ready to give it yet? And if so, how did you respond? And how did the other person react?
Also, Humble, was your experience on the site when you had your trial membership?
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/21/2008 11:21:50 PM
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I never finished completing a profile nor adding a picture, so nothing ever came of it. On Craigslist I had a couple of bites, but they usually never got beyond email or a phone call. That was mostly my doing though. That has pretty much been the extend of my so-called online dating, lol!
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/21/2008 11:22:12 PM
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Humble, why not try Christian Cafe. They give trial memberships. They usually offer me those trials every month, and it's usually for 4 days or so.
I'm not into the online thing though I have a profile on a couple of them. Haven't met one. I think I'm more comfortable in person because of my personality. I can't flirt online though I'm the biggest flirt IRL; it just doesn't sound the same if I have to type things. That's probably why I don't click with any man online. And I get too impatient. It just takes too long for anything to develop, and with me being an ADHD kid, I've usually moved on before the guy could respond, lol.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/21/2008 11:24:10 PM
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humbleinspirit
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Hi Prairie, now how much does that site cost?
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/21/2008 11:26:04 PM
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I don't know. I've never joined, lol. I just did the free trial and left when it ended but I still keep getting a free trial every month.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/21/2008 11:26:35 PM
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Maybe I will try it, but I dunno.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/21/2008 11:29:16 PM
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Just try it. It won't do you any harm, other than keep you in front of your computer for a few hours.......every day......while life passes you by, LOLLLLLL. I'm just kidding. I'm finding myself in front of the computer a lot lately and I'm getting scared of this addiction. I can't wait to go on holidays where there's no computers and hopefully, my phone won't work as well, lol.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/21/2008 11:29:55 PM
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humbleinspirit
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The computer is what I do to amuse myself in my spare time!
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/21/2008 11:32:06 PM
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Well, then sign up and enjoy!
Actually, I got another free trial just yesterday for a few days and someone who lives close by just sent me an email. And he is sooooo "trial worthy" heh heh. I should respond before my free days expire tomorrow.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/22/2008 12:04:13 AM
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For whatever God ordained reason I am the lone perpetually single individual within my church. After years of encouragements and promptings (and even a little against my will, being that the account was set up for me) I attempted the online dating thing. I know that I can not rely on anyone other than God to affirm me as a person. I am not looking for a significant other so that I can start my life (though I would love to someday find someone to share my life with**). However, I have discovered that I feel worse about myself now, after the dating site, than I did before. I used a Christian site, being that his faith would be the most important aspect of his personality, and assumed that these men would give me a fair shot. Only once I have shared my photos with these individuals they have either closed the match or stopped responding all together. This has happened 6 times. What am I suppose to make of that?
Yes, I realize that there needs to be an attraction in a relationship. And no I do not fault them for having preferences. But how can they feel there is nothing more to know about me after 1-3 brief communications and a handful of pics? How long should someone subject themselves to this process? Anyone have an encouraging online story? Any suggestions for making a profile more appealing? (even though I don't think I want to do this anymore).
** "'What are you looking for?' 'Your company. The pleasure of your company. I want your input on video rentals. I stand there for hours, I can't pick anything out. I want someone to say goodnight to, a last call of the day. I don't have a last call of the day. Do you?'" Bounce
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/22/2008 1:00:49 AM
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I once enrolled in a trial membership for an online dating site just to send an email to a man that I had met elsewhere. He wasn't really meeting anyone on the site, and I didn't want him to feel like he had wasted his money.
That was an incredibly sweet thing for you to do. He must be one lucky guy
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/22/2008 1:16:30 AM
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Random Thoughts About My Online Dating Experiences
I briefly tried eH, Christian cafe, and yahoo. I stuck with yahoo for over a year because 1.) They simply had the largest pool in my area. More chances. and 2.) I don't like the false sense of security that the "Christian" sites give. Registering on a Christian site does not automatically mean you're a Christian. In fact, I found a much higher percentage of "wolves in sheep's clothes" on them than on Yahoo. I met much more sincere and mature Christians on Yahoo.
I got rejected...maybe HUNDREDS of times. Yeah, sometimes it dissappointed me, but then I'd remember, so what? Big deal. It was nobody who actually knew me. It wasn't that they were rejecting Roxie. They don't know Roxie at all. They were just saying "no thanks" to something or other in my profile.
Who knows? Towards the end of my subscription, when I was deciding to stop seeing other men and see only The Man I Am Now Seeing, I had some e-mails from men that I had to say "thanks, but no" to. And I think one of them is probably a terrific guy. Just the wrong timing is all. So, who knows how often that happened to me on the other side of it? You just don't know why they say, "no", but it is way easier to take a "no" from some stranger than someone IRL.
A couple of you have mentioned that you felt like your pictures stopped the conversation. I find that interesting. And, well....please don't take offense here...but...possibly that is the excuse you were looking for to stop doing this. If you have posted several of your most flattering, yet recent and accurate pictures of yourself, then you have done your job.
You can't let your insecurities about your looks stop you from working towards your dreams. No, of course not every match will be attracted to you...but somebody will. Why do I say that? Just look around. Are only thin, fit, beautiful, well-dressed people in love? No. Absolutely not. Somewhere, right now, somebody shorter, fatter, and uglier than you is being told, "I think you're beautiful." I know for a FACT that looks are NOT the reason you are not in a relationship. Even though I run and eat right, I am still a very chunky size 16 on a 5'3 frame. My pictures made that very plain. Still, every man that I actually made it to a meeting with asked me for a second date. It's not all about the looks.
If you are feeling terribly insecure about your looks, then you need to do all you can to address that whether or not you are dating. That's something else altogether. Do every thing you can to improve your looks, then accept the rest and move on.
I guess this was kind of preachy, huh? But my whole point is this: Sometimes, if you want something badly enough, you have to work for it.
I see nothing unbiblical or ungodly about that.
Carry On!
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/22/2008 1:21:42 AM
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This guy and I met on myspace. And to find out, he was friends with my cousin. So we hung out a few times at my house and whatever. And soon enough, we started dating. Unfortunately it didn't last. He broke up with me 3 weeks later. I was crushed, but I had friends that supported me through it!
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/22/2008 2:01:21 AM
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Great post Roxie! I would have to say the single most important factor in finding a mate is the attitude we portray online because it speaks volumes about who we are inside and out. And we may not find Mr/Ms Right on one of the dating forums. That person could be right here monitoring our posts. You can never know for sure when and where God will bring that person into your life.
This whole dating thing (I'm not dating or looking to date anytime soon btw) reminds me of the Story of Naaman in 2 Kings 5. He was the guy that had leprosy and he took great courage when he learned from a Israelite slave that his leprosy could be healed. Notice Vs. 10-12 "Elisha sent a messenger to say to him, "go wash yourself seven times in the Jordan, and your flesh will be restored and you will be cleansed." But Naaman went away angry..." If we read further on, Naaman had an expectation about how his healing was supposed to happen and it didn't happen according to his expectations. He expected Elisha to come out, wave his hand over the spot, and cure him instantly. He got angry when Elisha sent a messenger to him with the instruction to dip himself seven times in the Jordan and he was about to walk away...except for the wise counsel of his servants, who talked some sense into him. Naaman humbled himself, changed his attitude and submitted to the God's plan although it seemed ridiculous and unrealistic...and he was healed of his leprosy. He almost missed it due to his pride but he hung in there and received the blessing of his lifetime.
You're probably wondering what does have to do with singlehood. Afterall singlehood isn't some disease that we need to be cured of right? No, it isn't an illness but God would still like to bless many of us by taking away our status as singles based on our desires. The question is are you and I modern day Naamans in that we are limiting the Almighty Creator with our wayward attitudes? Are we missing out on what God wants to do because we have our own preconceived ideas about how God is going to lead us to Mr/Ms Right? Maybe we have this check off list of qualities Mr/Ms Right must have before we will even consider him/her. Like Namaan, God may be holding off on blessing us while He continues to deal with our attitudes. We think we know what we need but God created us and He knows exactly what we need in a mate. I've thrown away my list of what I think my future spouse should have because I've been there, done that, and I botched it up royally the first time. I've asked God to continue working on me with the things I need to change in order to take the woman's hand He has already selected for me if/when that time comes...And i have no idea where and when that person and I will cross paths but I am not going to say where we wont cross paths. It may be in the ministry I attend, an event, an online dating site, the grocery store...or who knows...even here.
May God bless.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/22/2008 3:40:31 AM
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For whatever God ordained reason I am the lone perpetually single individual within my church. After years of encouragements and promptings (and even a little against my will, being that the account was set up for me) I attempted the online dating thing. I know that I can not rely on anyone other than God to affirm me as a person. I am not looking for a significant other so that I can start my life (though I would love to someday find someone to share my life with**). However, I have discovered that I feel worse about myself now, after the dating site, than I did before. I used a Christian site, being that his faith would be the most important aspect of his personality, and assumed that these men would give me a fair shot. Only once I have shared my photos with these individuals they have either closed the match or stopped responding all together. This has happened 6 times. What am I suppose to make of that?
Yes, I realize that there needs to be an attraction in a relationship. And no I do not fault them for having preferences. But how can they feel there is nothing more to know about me after 1-3 brief communications and a handful of pics? How long should someone subject themselves to this process? Anyone have an encouraging online story? Any suggestions for making a profile more appealing? (even though I don't think I want to do this anymore).
** "'What are you looking for?' 'Your company. The pleasure of your company. I want your input on video rentals. I stand there for hours, I can't pick anything out. I want someone to say goodnight to, a last call of the day. I don't have a last call of the day. Do you?'" Bounce
Odle,
If you are thinking about looking for a fantasy and thinking that you are going to look for someone who is going to sweep your feet, you are going to be disapointed time after time. And the reason why you are frustrated is you are looking on your own, and not giving this thing to God.
Did it ever occoured that these people (and hate to disapoint you) close the matches was because those were not the men for you? It may be that God has someone better down the road and it may not be online.
Online dating is not for everyone and everyone is not going to find their "Prince Charming" online.
Roxie mentioned in one of posts that is not all about the looks. In a perfect world, I wish it so too, but understand too that in a society that we live in, people look for perfection, and this includes Christians too because they are drawn in what the world says about beauty. (That's another thread for another time.
You see, I dealt with Yahoo too, but had an upleasant experience. And Yahoo has people who think they know God, but they don't know him at all. And it took the holy spirit to open my blinders. Even my pastor when I told my story, told me that he told me so, because he felt that online dating is not the route to find anyone at all.
I read an article tonight dealing with Looking for Mr. Right and the author mentioned something that I agree with--stop looking for him completly. Yes, just stop.
I know God can put people together and I understand that, but what I'm going to say will be controversial to some, and that is you may meet this person at the church or the grocery story, but as you meet this person at places or venues, they may be a Christian or they may say that they are, but you better make sure that this person is a committed believer behind the name and not because of a buzz word.
I know a lot of people who advocate online dating is angry at me and maybe burning some bridges with some people here. I'm very sorry if anyone took offense in what I posted and I apolgise. We will have to agree to disagree.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/22/2008 8:46:29 AM
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Just try it. It won't do you any harm, other than keep you in front of your computer for a few hours.......every day......while life passes you by, LOLLLLLL. I'm just kidding. I'm finding myself in front of the computer a lot lately and I'm getting scared of this addiction. I can't wait to go on holidays where there's no computers and hopefully, my phone won't work as well, lol.
Oooo, I DO know what you are talking about, PH...I've really had trouble moving away from the computer and doing some everyday things. In a way, I'm kinda glad my 'puter will be going to the 'puter Dr. today...maybe I'll get a chance to break some of this addiction.
And that's my announcement about not being on here very much for the next few days...'puter's broken.
Y'all be good while I'm gone.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/22/2008 10:45:53 AM
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Registering on a Christian site does not automatically mean you're a Christian.
Yes, I agree with that to an extent. There is a local Christian site that has apartment listings, and it turned out that a real lot of the people on the site weren't real Christians at all.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/22/2008 11:14:49 AM
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And we may not find Mr/Ms Right on one of the dating forums. That person could be right here monitoring our posts. You can never know for sure when and where God will bring that person into your life.
Well, I have had my hopes set on someone working with Homeland Security.
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