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MamaMilty -> RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread (3/10/2008 6:42:01 PM)

Thanks Donna! [:)]



peculiar_lady2 -> RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread (3/10/2008 6:47:27 PM)

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He agreed and said, "I will go but I will not get involved!"

Ha Ha. He is now a Pastor.

hehehe....God is sneaky sometimes isn't He!!!! My mom always says "never say NEVER to God"....lol


Your mom is certainly right Sarah!

I know...the longer I live the more I am finding that she is right on a lot of things....hmmm...she is a very wise woman who has been through a lot to learn what she knows....lol. I am glad (very thankful) God has allowed me to glean off of her knowledge my whole life!!!

No matter how many times I have read it, I still love reading your story Donna!! God is SOOO faithful!!!!



nicole6598 -> RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread (3/10/2008 11:17:37 PM)

I just wanted to tell you all in case you didnt read it on page 15 of the chat thread Sarah posted something wonderful for me but I am sure all of you will get something from it too.



daughter_of_faith -> RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread (3/11/2008 12:07:29 AM)

DH & I aren't exactly mis-matched in the sense of being yoked unequally. We are both Christians. However, we have some VERY different beliefs as I grew up Anabaptist (mostly independent fundamental Baptist church) and DH grew up Pentecostal (charismatic).

We're working through some of our differences. Please keep us in your prayers.



MamaMilty -> RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread (3/11/2008 11:50:02 AM)

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DH & I aren't exactly mis-matched in the sense of being yoked unequally. We are both Christians. However, we have some VERY different beliefs as I grew up Anabaptist (mostly independent fundamental Baptist church) and DH grew up Pentecostal (charismatic).

We're working through some of our differences. Please keep us in your prayers.


You're both in my prayer journal.

I have to tell you, I find your situation fascinating. Do you come together and study the Word together? What an awesome opportunity for you to discover what the Holy Spirit wants to teach you!

ETA: Nicole! I just went and read Sarah's post. Wow, thanks for directing us to it. I bookmarked it and will print it as well.

Thank-you, Father God for your wisdom given through Sarah.



BrowneyedAL -> RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread (3/11/2008 5:45:26 PM)

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He agreed and said, "I will go but I will not get involved!"

Ha Ha. He is now a Pastor.

hehehe....God is sneaky sometimes isn't He!!!! My mom always says "never say NEVER to God"....lol


Your mom is certainly right Sarah!

I know...the longer I live the more I am finding that she is right on a lot of things....hmmm...



I feel the same way about my mother I often wonder just how much more I could have learned from her if she was still around. She died while I was still in my 20's (read: while I was still young and stupid!) so I often missed the message at the time.



BrowneyedAL -> RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread (3/11/2008 5:47:04 PM)

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Thank-you, Father God for your wisdom given through Sarah.


*nods in agreement* ^^^^



daughter_of_faith -> RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread (3/11/2008 7:53:16 PM)

We do study the Bible together....when we find the time. Of late, things have slipped by the wayside some....not a good thing. [&:]

It is definitely a different situation though. We have separately studied different passages quite a bit (mostly on our differing beliefs). Usually I get the same thing I've always believed. DH does as well. Then we share....and...well...those conversations usually turn into discussions.



MamaMilty -> RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread (3/11/2008 8:01:10 PM)

Well, just know, from where I sit, I would welcome ANY biblical discussion. You are both believers! You have been brought together and God will be glorified. Don't be in love with your beliefs, be in love with God and embrace His Holy Spirit. You are each from opposite ends of the spiritual personality spectrum....you love each other, now be willing to learn from each other.

I hope I'm not offending you, that is not my intent. I just hope to open your eyes to the blessing your union is. Enjoy it! Do you all worhip together? What type of church do you attend?



daughter_of_faith -> RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread (3/11/2008 8:29:36 PM)

We're currently attending a church that is affiliated with the Pentecostal Church of God. DH pretty much loves it (has been his church for awhile). Me...I'm still kind of leery about several things (ie: the speaking in tongues, etc.)

It is good to be able to agree on most things though. Had never thought about it that way. It's just hard because we both are called into ministry. DH won't go forth with it unless we come to some sort of an agreement....

And I'm not offended in the least little bit.



MamaMilty -> RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread (3/11/2008 9:19:15 PM)

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It's just hard because we both are called into ministry. DH won't go forth with it unless we come to some sort of an agreement....

And I'm not offended in the least little bit.


May I ask, what specifically must you come to an agreement about?



daughter_of_faith -> RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread (3/11/2008 11:04:28 PM)

Well, DH specifically believes in speaking in tongues & has this particular gift. He uses it as a personal prayer language.

For me...I grew up believing that tongues were dead. Recently, I have came to the conclusion that they are a gift....and I am not real clear on WHEN they did cease...if they have ceased already.

I guess that's the main thing....



nicole6598 -> RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread (3/12/2008 12:38:24 AM)

daughter of faith- I go to an AOG church which is pentecostal, but not everyone there speaks in tongues, it is encouraged that you do because it's a good way of communicating with God etc (I believe there are a few types of tongues, ones that others can interpret and the other being the one between our spirit and God). I don't think it should be made a stumbling block though. I think most people who pray in tongues don't think anything different of someone who doesn't, unless it's one of those demoninations which believe you are not really saved if you don't... that's kind of weird. but anyway...



MamaMilty -> RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread (3/12/2008 8:52:30 AM)

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Well, DH specifically believes in speaking in tongues & has this particular gift. He uses it as a personal prayer language.

For me...I grew up believing that tongues were dead. Recently, I have came to the conclusion that they are a gift....and I am not real clear on WHEN they did cease...if they have ceased already.

I guess that's the main thing....


And he would like the pair of you to be of one mind before you take your next step into ministry? Do you doubt his gifting? Can he accept that it is not one of your giftings?



daughter_of_faith -> RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread (3/12/2008 10:05:46 AM)

We accept each other's gifts and beliefs. It's just the church we attend has somewhat became a stumbling block to me....in that....there is no interpretation of the tongues. (The Bible clearly states that SHOULD be done). Also, there are SOME (definitely not all though) in the church that believe you have to speak in tongues to be saved. As they say...that is the evidence that the Holy Spirit has filled you. Me...I don't personally believe that....



MamaMilty -> RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread (3/12/2008 11:18:15 AM)

I agree with you. Tongues spoken in public worship are to be translated in order to edify the body of Christ. Prayer Lanquages are private, for intimate, private praise & worship in the Spirit of the Living God. The speaking of tongues is one of many manifestations of a spirit-filled believer and is in no way relative to salvation.

I have actually been studying the Holy Spirit and the blessing of His infilling. Having come from a Southern Baptist church, these teachings weren't focused on. I have to say, though, that as I grow in my studies, my Pastor's words are continually brought to my mind. Everything he taught was biblical. The emphasis is just a little different, make sense?

I have come to know the Holy Spirit as a person, an equal participant of the triune, our Helper, the One to lead us through the Word to bring glory to God the Father and God the Son. And I have never spoken in tongues, nor have I ever witnessed it. But I hope to.

There will almost always be a few in a church family that just don't get it. No matter what the doctrine, there will be some that don't see eye to eye. Don't let those difference become a stumbling block to you and your husband. Even if your dh is one of those that believes that tongues are mandatory, that need not divide you.

The Word is living and alive for each of us. Perhaps, since people who have the gift of tongues received it at their conversion, they cannot fathom any other type of conversion experience and are imposing their human perception onto all others and effectively putting their God in a box. Should that cause another that did not receive that gift question their salvation? Absolutley Not!

I will pray that you and your dh can rise above this distraction and embrace your freedom in Christ. Dear Lord, God Almighty, I lift up daughter_of_faith and her husband, Lord, as they search for Godly discernment on this issue. I pray they reach the accord they seek in You, Father God. In Jesus' precious and holy name I pray this, Amen.



MamaMilty -> RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread (3/12/2008 11:44:38 AM)

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He agreed and said, "I will go but I will not get involved!"

Ha Ha. He is now a Pastor. Don't give up ladies. Keep praying for your husbands. God can and still does work miracles. He did in my husband for sure.


This is my Pastor and his wife's story, too! I miss them so much. I hope we find the church home God has for us soon.



myckey -> RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread (3/12/2008 1:35:30 PM)

Thank all of you for your stories!! They are soo encouraging.



daughter_of_faith -> RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread (3/12/2008 9:34:52 PM)

Thanks for praying for us, Jen :)



MamaMilty -> RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread (3/13/2008 7:28:26 AM)

Of course![:)]

Here is a question for those of your with children. How do you handle the raising up when your spouse doesn't have a biblical perspective?

How about choices you make for yourself, such as what you watch, read, etc. Do you find it hard to explain why you do or don't do things? Does it seem like you are always saying what the bible says not to do? Do you sometimes just gloss over it and not go there? Do you struggle with that?



BrowneyedAL -> RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread (3/13/2008 9:30:08 AM)

Jen for me, it certainly isn't that my hubby doesn't have a biblical perspective...he does...we're just at different places now from a 'practicing' perspective. He is however (and always has been) very supportive of both the involvement of our children and myself in spiritual practices and activities. So I consider myself very blessed in regard to your question.



MamaMilty -> RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread (3/13/2008 10:15:33 AM)

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Jen for me, it certainly isn't that my hubby doesn't have a biblical perspective...he does...we're just at different places now from a 'practicing' perspective. He is however (and always has been) very supportive of both the involvement of our children and myself in spiritual practices and activities. So I consider myself very blessed in regard to your question.


You are, Lisa. [:)]



nicole6598 -> RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread (3/13/2008 5:21:11 PM)

I find it a little hard about the types of music, movies, shows, and games my husband watches or listens to. Even though he is a Christian he doesnt always practice this, especially if its something he likes even if it is against the BIble, he will most often still do it....
My hubby's persepctive on parenting is "God says they need discipline" but then he forgets the scriptures telling fathers to not get on the kids nerves etc



MamaMilty -> RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread (3/13/2008 5:37:37 PM)

Nicole,

I think your situation is even more stressful than mine. Dave truly doesn't have an new heart (yet) and I can't expect him to understand the Word. I struggle with keeping a balance of loving him where he is, meeting him in the middle and standing firm for God. But you must have to beware of sounding like (to dh) you are being his conscience when all you want is to be biblical. I'm sure that is hard.

If it were up to me, we would be homeschooling and home churching...but that is not going to happen without Dave. He went after a transfer partly (mainly) because I told him I would not put our children into school where we were and I wanted to homeschool. He was so horrified by that he actively pursued a transfer to get us to a better public school system. That was only part of the reason I wanted to homeschool, but he doesn't get the biblical perspective of it all, and I don't push it.

I don't like what he let's the kids watch, I don't like Halloween, but it's his fav. holiday....I don't want my faith to always be reasons for not to do things, ya know? I keep waiting for him to find the Lord and see the truth for himself...but are our children suffering?



BrowneyedAL -> RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread (3/13/2008 5:49:29 PM)

Nicole...that's really tough. Unfortunately I think a lot of people practice their faith 'selectively'. The best advice I can give on that is simply for you to pray that your husband will be convicted in his heart when he is not living in God's will. (This is something I pray for myself on a regular basis actually)



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