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shadowspring -> RE: 16 and put in youth crisis center (4/14/2008 12:23:21 PM)

I never did bring it up! The only person I ever talked to about it was God. [:D]

Until the phone call came from his mom, asking me if the teen could stay here for awhile. [;)] Then of course I had to talk to dh and the rest of the family about it. [8D]

God does amazing things! Just keep praying, pouring out your heart's desire to the Lord. It may be that God has some better plan in your teen's life than the way He worked things out here.

But the situation is NOT HOPELESS as long as you pray! God does answer prayer, and I think He especially loves to answer prayer's for others that are offered from a heart of love.

So, keep praying! And keep loving the whole family! And share the hope that is found in Jesus every chance you get.

My pastor calls such families our "people of peace" from Matthew 10:11-12. [:)]



April75 -> RE: 16 and put in youth crisis center (4/14/2008 1:07:01 PM)

You know I agree with what you said about your childs heart. I think that's the problem. What he really feels deep down. If he feels he doesn't have a mother that understands and will be there then what does he have.

Thank you for your words of encouragement and I will keep praying.



sen10tious -> RE: 16 and put in youth crisis center (4/15/2008 9:02:00 AM)

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ORIGINAL: shadowspring


But the situation is NOT HOPELESS as long as you pray! God does answer prayer, and I think He especially loves to answer prayer's for others that are offered from a heart of love.

So, keep praying! And keep loving the whole family! And share the hope that is found in Jesus every chance you get.

My pastor calls such families our "people of peace" from Matthew 10:11-12. [:)]


That is very interesting that you should bring up Matthew 10:11-12

Just keep reading for another 17 verses and you will find (some of) the scriptural backing for my earlier post: Matthew 28 "Do not fear those who kill the body but are unable to kill the soul; but rather fear Him who is able to destroy both soul and body in hell. 29 "Are not two sparrows sold for a cent? And yet not one of them will fall to the ground apart from your Father.

Yes, physical abuse is bad; but I do not understand why so many folks go all Hyper-Blipper over hitting and remain so blinded to abuse that destroys the soul— unless it is just another way the devil distracts them from dealing with the heart issues.

If you tend to the heart issues first, the physical ones will take care of themselves eventually. But when you do it backwards and are addressing the physical as top priority, you have bought in to a world system that is treating symptoms, not the cause.



shadowspring -> RE: 16 and put in youth crisis center (4/15/2008 12:48:53 PM)

Goodness, do we have to pick one? [&:] I don't want to see children suffer any kind of abuse!

The law focuses on physical abuse because it is objectively provable.

Spiritual, emotional and even verbal abuse are not against man's laws because they are subjective.

But they are just as wrong before God. I don't want to do anything that the Lord says, "It would be better for you to have a millstone about your neck and be thrown into the sea..." [sm=icon_smile_yikes.gif]



sen10tious -> RE: 16 and put in youth crisis center (4/17/2008 10:33:03 AM)

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Goodness, do we have to pick one?


::::Looks around trying to see where anyone ever said anything about "picking one."::::
I am quite certain I never said that; not even by inference or implication.

It does not take a whole lot of Bible study to know that some evil is deeper than other evil; and when we engage in spiritual battle, we will have greater success if we prioritize. Prioritizing is not picking 'one.'

The gospels tell several stories about fig trees. In Matthew 21 the fig leaves withered at once. In Luke 13, the tree is ordered chopped down. In Mark 11 we have a full day passing between the time Jesus dealt with the tree and the time the disciples saw any results. Jesus had spoken his word in the morning on his way into the city. When they left the city that evening, there was no mention of anything different (verse 19), but the following morning on the way back to the city they noticed the fig had died from the roots up.

Abuse needs to be treated like this tree from Mark—killed from the roots up. I have had a plant with withered leaves like the Matthew fig tree; but after a good watering the plant came back with new growth. I have cut down trees like the Luke fig tree; but the remaining roots have sent up new shoots.

To effectively deal with abuse you have to deal with the root cause in the heart. The world system sees the leaves and goes apoplectic trying to pull them off by hand or by spraying them with some drug. The world system has many sincere folks working very hard to stop physical abuse; but they are also working without wisdom and balance in this matter because they are attacking a symptom and not the cause. The world's system often does more harm than good by having distorted and misdirected priorities.

I would think that in posting a question on a "Christian" forum it would mean one is looking for an answer from a Bible perspective.



funny_girl -> RE: 16 and put in youth crisis center (4/17/2008 10:56:41 AM)

In response to the OP, from what I'm reading 3rd, 4th hand, I'm infuriated!

To the poster, this 16 year old is a young adult, not a boy. He's old enough to drive a car! I'm ticked off that these people are so controlling and act as if he's unable to make an decision.

I have a 16 year old and 18 year old. They aren't completely mature but my husband and I would never treat them like that. The parents need parenting classes. I hope that this kid can get out. He will have problems with responses like that. My kids didn't dust off their computer desk on Monday like I'd asked. When I saw it hadn't been done on Tuesday I said, "HEY! No internet until it's done!" It's clean now. It's about choices, not hitting at this stage in the game. With discipline, even at this age, give them options.



funny_girl -> RE: 16 and put in youth crisis center (4/17/2008 10:59:43 AM)

The mother needs to be arrested for assaulting her son!



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