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Coffee_Drinker -> RE: Wedding rings... (6/4/2008 9:41:12 AM)

One more response... just for grins! [sm=king.gif]

Looks like it depends mainly on the vocation of the guy. I am mainly a desk jockey. However; I do, at times, have to get into the rough and get dirty. I have to make sure safety is followed when the people I work with are repairing machines. One requirement is "no jewelry." Most of the guys don't wear a wedding band yet, most are married and have been for quite awhile. I wear mine but, when I am assisting them I take mine off.

I do like jewelry (rings) and I have plenty of them. However, I limit myself to just my wedding band about 90% of the time.



Tinkerbell_ -> RE: Wedding rings... (6/4/2008 11:17:47 AM)

I read that and thought you said "disc jockey"! I was getting all excited for a minute thinking you had a really cool job! [sm=biggrin.gif]



TomTurn -> RE: Wedding rings... (6/4/2008 11:50:00 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Tinkerbell_

One thing that bothered me when I was married was that my husband didn't wear his wedding ring. He would occasionally but he never made it a point to.

Since I've been single again, I've noticed a lot of guys don't wear them, even though they're very happily married.

So my question to you is: Do you feel it's important to wear your wedding ring? Do you wear it?

If you're single, do you think this is something you will make an effort to do when you're married?

How does it make you feel to meet someone who's married but doesn't wear a ring?

Just curious. *grin*


If you were married to a man and he did not wear his ring would you mistrust him? If so why would you be married to him in the first place? Just a thought.

Yes many married men do not wear a ring and most married women do. In our society on a whole the man goes after the woman and the ring on a woman's hand is a symbol she is anothers. In other lands it is other items, not a ring on the 3rd finger of the left hand.

Should a married man wear a wedding ring when able? Sure

One thing to watch though is a many women/men will ask a man without a ring if he is married. A woman without a ring is mostly never asked this. It has just becaome part of us that a married man will not always wear a ring and a married or engaged woman will.



Tinkerbell_ -> RE: Wedding rings... (6/4/2008 12:14:04 PM)

I don't get too much into my married life, but I'll post a few things so perhaps you'll see why I ask the question.

When I was married my husband would blantantly remove his wedding ring so "women would think he was single". Towards the end of our marriage I had discovered he had been in a relationship with a woman about two months before we started even dating and it didn't end until 6 months after we were married. I also found out he had relations with her the evening before our wedding.

As to why I was married to him...I thought he was the one. I was young and thought I knew everything. It was a mistake and it's only through the grace of God that I was able to move on with my life.

Apparently it did cause me to question others motives which is why I started this thread. I merely wondered if other men were inconsiderate, if they put as much stock into the symbolism, or what. I'm just seeking answers. [;)]

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One thing to watch though is a many women/men will ask a man without a ring if he is married. A woman without a ring is mostly never asked this. It has just becaome part of us that a married man will not always wear a ring and a married or engaged woman will.


That's because diamonds are a girls best friend. [:D]

In all seriousness, I never thought of it this way and I would definitely have to give it some consideration.



TomTurn -> RE: Wedding rings... (6/4/2008 1:05:14 PM)

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Apparently it did cause me to question others motives which is why I started this thread. I merely wondered if other men were inconsiderate, if they put as much stock into the symbolism, or what. I'm just seeking answers.


Without going into what happened before, you know you cannot let that cloud every man in the future. Many men have been married faithfully for decades and never worn a ring. Many men have been married for decades and cheated with the ring on. It ain't the ring that is the issue, its the man.



Tinkerbell_ -> RE: Wedding rings... (6/4/2008 1:37:35 PM)

I don't plan on painting every man with the same brush. Like I said, I was merely curious to see how other men felt about their rings and the symbolism.

I am well aware that a ring won't stop cheating.

Gentlemen...another question for you: If you do chose to not wear your ring, and your wife expresses dissatisfaction with this choice, would you acquiese and wear it or would you still not, regardless of her opinions? Mind you this is considering wearing the ring wouldn't be detrimental to your health. For example, you don't wear it to church or when you're out with your friends or whatnot.



TomTurn -> RE: Wedding rings... (6/4/2008 1:45:59 PM)

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I don't plan on painting every man with the same brush. Like I said, I was merely curious to see how other men felt about their rings and the symbolism.

I am well aware that a ring won't stop cheating.


If I came across as too preachy, my apologies. I did try and point out "you know you cannot let that cloud every man in the future". But you were coming across to me as focusing on the ring a bit and not the man. I was most likely wrong.

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Gentlemen...another question for you: If you do chose to not wear your ring, and your wife expresses dissatisfaction with this choice, would you acquiese and wear it or would you still not, regardless of her opinions? Mind you this is considering wearing the ring wouldn't be detrimental to your health. For example, you don't wear it to church or when you're out with your friends or what not


Would always put my wife first on this and at the same time would not want a wife to force me to do something she knew bothered me terribly.

Do not have much more than that to add to this conversation.



Coffee_Drinker -> RE: Wedding rings... (6/4/2008 2:36:31 PM)

My wife did ask me once why I take my wedding band off to do some things. I told her I didn't want to ruin the ring and/or lose the finger. I don't know if she was worried, concerned, or what. Honestly, I never thought too much about the matter. I'm gonna do what I have to do. Taking the wedding band off to make people think you are single? That doesn't fall under the category of "have to do." That falls under the category of "red flags."



fist.sensei -> RE: Wedding rings... (6/9/2008 10:20:42 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Tinkerbell_

One thing that bothered me when I was married was that my husband didn't wear his wedding ring. He would occasionally but he never made it a point to.

Since I've been single again, I've noticed a lot of guys don't wear them, even though they're very happily married.

So my question to you is: Do you feel it's important to wear your wedding ring? Do you wear it?

If you're single, do you think this is something you will make an effort to do when you're married?

How does it make you feel to meet someone who's married but doesn't wear a ring?

Just curious. *grin*


I don't wear one because a ring doesn't mean squat. I get on my soapbox when talking about :)

I just don't see the point (personally). I had a wedding ring my first go round, and it didn't mean didly-squat in making the marriage work.

I'm also not the biggest fan of jewelry unless I'm dressing up. I've been thinking about asking my dad for the ring my mom gave him for those occasions.

And for the silliest reason of the day: rings make me feel old! And I don't want to feel old!



fist.sensei -> RE: Wedding rings... (6/9/2008 10:24:10 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Tinkerbell_
Gentlemen...another question for you: If you do chose to not wear your ring, and your wife expresses dissatisfaction with this choice, would you acquiese and wear it or would you still not, regardless of her opinions? Mind you this is considering wearing the ring wouldn't be detrimental to your health. For example, you don't wear it to church or when you're out with your friends or whatnot.


We discussed this before the wedding. And if she would've had an issue with it, I would've listened to it. If there was a real, valid reason than I certainly would probably wear one.

However if the reason was "because that's the way it's supposed to be", well I would've questioned my decision-making process! I don't like people that think that way and neither does she.



ptz -> RE: Wedding rings... (6/18/2008 8:03:22 PM)

I feel that it is extremely important to wear your wedding ring. I wear mine all the time. I can understand why some wouldnt/shouldnt/cant wear it. I.E, jobs that put your hand and fingers at risk such as metal working, factory work etc. That is understandable. Other than that, i think that a spouse should wear it. I love it when i look over and see the wedding ring i gave to my husband on our wedding day. I think 'wow, he is all mine, and no one elses' [:D] I think a man wearing his ring is the ultimate symbol of commitment to his wife. I think i have a very strong opinion on this issue, because my dad never wore his wedding ring. I cant remember one day that he wore it. ( My parents are in the middle of a divorce now, after being married 28 years...........and no they are not getting divorced because my dad doesnt wear his ring[;)]



DaveW -> RE: Wedding rings... (6/19/2008 7:32:32 AM)

Yeah, I almost always wear it. Occasionally it comes off for safety reasons or another reason but i feel naked without it.

Many years ago we had a re-statement of vows and it went onto the wrong finger and got stuck. Had to cut it off so I got an inexpensive silver ring instead of the nice tricolor gold wedding band. The symbolism of having that finger ringed is important to me.



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