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beloved06 -> poor and car-less... (4/14/2008 10:32:06 PM)

Hey guys,

Since my father's passing, money has been extemely tight within my family. I have sold my car and given every last penny of every paycheck to support my family. I am 21 years old and put my college plans (really my life) on hold to help support my family.

I currently have no car and barely any money (maybe a few dollars on me at any time).

Well there is this guy I'm intersted in. And its no secret he's interested in me. But I keep dodging him and purposely distancing myself from him b/c I feel he wants to ask me out. But I am so embarrassed of my situation.

And, this guy happens to be wealthy and drives a very nice car.
Then there's me: car-less, cash-less, and living in a very humble place right now.

I feel I will be nothing but a burden. I feel like a loser.

Please guys, tell me the honest truth: Would you find a broke girl like me a burden?



iwillfearnoevil -> RE: poor and car-less... (4/15/2008 10:38:24 AM)

i possibly would be more worried that a "poor" girl would be liking me for my money rather than who i am. i really don't know if i'd think about this unless asked though. also i don't think you should be embarrassed, it's pretty sacrificing of you to help your family. it does seem that some men are attracted to someone in your situation that they can help 'rescue' but i'm not sure of that mindset and maybe someone else will chime in. most college age students aren't exactly wealthy so i don't see it as a big deal or burden.



HighPlainsDrifter -> RE: poor and car-less... (4/15/2008 11:39:49 AM)

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Would you find a broke girl like me a burden?


No



APZR -> RE: poor and car-less... (4/15/2008 2:05:51 PM)

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ORIGINAL: HighPlainsDrifter

quote:

Would you find a broke girl like me a burden?


No


Ditto.
In fact, you may have impress him more... knowing you are embarrassed or sensitive on the issue, and are not a gold digger. Give it a shot, give him a shot. Let him take you to diner, and enjoy it. Don't feel like you have to pay back in any way, guys like being a provider and giving a lovely lady a great night out on the town.



colliefan -> RE: poor and car-less... (4/15/2008 3:54:35 PM)

Arrange to meet for coffee somewhere within a bus ride or walking distance of your home. Let a friendship develop and in the course of that your needs will come out. Also, just because he drives a nice car doesn't mean that he is up to his eyeballs in debt.



Boats -> RE: poor and car-less... (4/26/2008 10:35:48 AM)

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I feel I will be nothing but a burden. I feel like a loser.

Don't rate your (self) worth by how much money you have or have not.

Stop and think a moment about the sacrifice Christ made for our sakes.

It's not based on what we have or don't have, nor how much we make or don't make. Simply - He loves us.

Life has many ups and downs. Sometimes its a bump in the road. Sometimes its a bumpy road that doesn't seem to end. But your worth to God Never changes. Simply - he loves you - Loves you sooo much that He died for your sake. To make a way and a place for you to be with him.

~That is the core of your worth.

*** Feelings are NOT Facts.

Here's a fact:
quote:

Since my father's passing, money has been extremely tight within my family. I have sold my car and given every last penny of every paycheck to support my family. I am 21 years old and put my college plans (really my life) on hold to help support my family.

Don't see it do you?

A daughter who, at a time of great sorrow and pain, stepped in to assist her family. Who made a difficult sacrifice to just do what is right.
A daughter any Father would be proud of.

How much are morals? What price for ethics? Where may I buy Godliness?
quote:

Proverbs 31
10. Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.


Hold your breath, but I think you're demonstrating virtue.

Advice?
Wipe your eyes and put on your best smile.
Then tell that guy to take you for ice cream.
He may just be that friend to help you along that bumpy road.
(He'd be pretty silly to allow such a good catch get away. I just
hope he's good enough for You)

Secondly - Get your behind down to the financial office of the College.
It's their job to find money for you to go to school and you will be amazed at what they can find.
(grants n stuff )

As for your family, all my prayers and hopes.
Be sure to check into social services. If you live in the States, Social Security has a death benefit. Tho not much, will help put food on the table.



Boats
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humbleinspirit -> RE: poor and car-less... (4/26/2008 11:26:54 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: beloved06

Hey guys,

Since my father's passing, money has been extemely tight within my family. I have sold my car and given every last penny of every paycheck to support my family. I am 21 years old and put my college plans (really my life) on hold to help support my family.

I currently have no car and barely any money (maybe a few dollars on me at any time).

Well there is this guy I'm intersted in. And its no secret he's interested in me. But I keep dodging him and purposely distancing myself from him b/c I feel he wants to ask me out. But I am so embarrassed of my situation.

And, this guy happens to be wealthy and drives a very nice car.
Then there's me: car-less, cash-less, and living in a very humble place right now.

I feel I will be nothing but a burden. I feel like a loser.

Please guys, tell me the honest truth: Would you find a broke girl like me a burden?


It all depends, however I am not wealthy either so I would see my expense double, but for the right girl though, it is worth it.



PreserveWildlife -> RE: poor and car-less... (4/26/2008 2:19:43 PM)

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Please guys, tell me the honest truth: Would you find a broke girl like me a burden?
If I was around your age, maybe just a tad but I grew up poor so I'd work around it. As my present age, I wouldn't even think of it as a problem. The only issue would be that I would want to help out and that can lead to problems if the relationship didn't work out.



colliefan -> RE: poor and car-less... (4/26/2008 7:35:06 PM)

Look in the paper for free/cheap things to do. Art museums, second run movie houses, etc.



ajlewis -> RE: poor and car-less... (4/28/2008 3:44:13 PM)

I once dated a lady on and off for about ten years and she only had a car for probably less than half that time. It did start to get old and tiring having to go across town all the time and then drive around more all the time. The relationship broke up but not just because she didn't have a ride. Anymore its just getting too expensive to that much driving. My car is an '89 Pontiac and its barely road worthy or road legal....it's hardly worth investing in it to fix it up and I can't afford a new one.

Not having a car is not a deal-breaker but it doesn't help not having one, either.



tbrobinson -> RE: poor and car-less... (4/30/2008 10:51:58 PM)

Wow beloved06.

First of all you are a child of god, made in his image. God does not create junk, and you are a beautiful reflection of him.

Your status has NOTHING to do with this. NOTHING!! Sorry to shout but I have to tell you. When I met my wife. I was not rich, but we were alot better off socially than her family. My Dad said, are you sure, that is a really different class of people.

We were married in 7 months, and have been together 28 years. She is my rock, my lodestar, my best friend, and inspiration.

Do not let things of the world stand in the way of Gods plan for your life. You are as good as anyone else.



Christian30 -> RE: poor and car-less... (4/30/2008 11:47:39 PM)

Beloved06,

Answer to question=NO

On another topic, I wish you were interested in my son. You sound like a special young woman to me.



SavedByGraceMD -> RE: poor and car-less... (5/1/2008 12:54:43 PM)

I personally do not look at where a woman is, or where she comes from. To me that is unimportant. But I do agree with iwillfearnoevil, and think that some men might think you would be after my money, but then again, most men wouldn't care if you were.



beloved06 -> RE: poor and car-less... (5/1/2008 5:18:34 PM)

Thank you so much guys for your posts.

I was teary eyed the whole time reading them. I really have no one in person to tell me such things, partly b/c I don't believe in discussing financial issues with anyone.

I really appreaciate it. And I really needed it.

That guy still looks at me with those longing, endearing eyes all the time. And after reading your messages, I certainly feel more confident to make myself more available and approachable.



APZR -> RE: poor and car-less... (5/1/2008 11:38:30 PM)

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That guy still looks at me with those longing, endearing eyes all the time. And after reading your messages, I certainly feel more confident to make myself more available and approachable.


Well certainly give him a chance. Personally, I like the quality of humble persistence. If he scares you off or ends up giving you the creeps, then run for the hills. But if you let the ship pass by, you'll always wonder the "what if".



dinomax55 -> RE: poor and car-less... (5/2/2008 8:08:59 AM)

I agree with the other guys.. you virtue shines through your difficulties. It's ok to make friends anyway- you never know how things will turn out. Remember to set the proper expectation with the guy. If you are not ready for a relationship, let him know. But still get to know him.



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