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SavedByGraceMD -> RE: must i marry the one whom i had sex with? (5/15/2008 4:20:00 PM)
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Dear rumnraisin,
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i pray that i will use my season of singlehood to serve and glorify God, drawing nearer to Him. same for him.
Very good, I think it is a good idea for you to take some time for yourself, so your relationship with the Lord can grow. When you are ready, He will bring someone into your life that will be accepting of your past. Whether or not you realize it, we all have a past, some not so good, mine is not so good.
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thanks for the reassurance of God's exceeding grace and love for me. i will think over the many suggestions to have counselling because im ashamed.
I too would suggest counseling. For your ex too.
Coming from someone who was on his side of an abortion, and had asked my ex to keep the baby and was told I had no choice in the matter. It is something that can and will build up inside of you and cause bitterness to grow in your life. It can cause great deals of pain which I am sure you are aware of. It can do the same to him(your ex).
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no one knows about what we have done besides us and his mother. my parents know nothing and i don't want to break their heart. in their eyes im a good girl.
Well I would say that you need to tell your parents. You are going to need them to help you through this. I was ashamed to tell my mother also, and didn't tell her til a few years later because I didn't want her to be mad at my ex, since we had mutual friends and all. But she was a great help for me in a time of need. So I would advise getting it out in the open now, the longer you wait, the harder it will be to do.
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furthermore, it is very scary as i think about the prospects of meeting someone else, and having to tell him that i have had sex with my ex and even had an abortion (yes i did, the biggest regret of my life). i want a Godly husband but i cannot imagine someone Godly settling for someone like me.
It will be scary for you to meet someone new, but if you follow Gods guidance to the Godly man you seek, he will accept you and your past. If he is truly a Godly man, nothing you have done should matter.
Good luck in the future and take care.
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