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ladioffaith -> For those who find this Sunday to be particularly hard ... (5/10/2008 8:46:39 PM)

Be encouraged. The first mother's day was started 100 years ago by a SINGLE woman, who had NO children, and three years after her own mother died.

So think beyond yourselves and find someone to encourage on Sunday.

(And I can relate ... I told Roomie that I was glad I'd be at work because if I had to hear one more person wish me a happy mother's day, I would scream! Of course ... I am NOT a mother and my mother is in heaven, but they don't know that ... especially when I'm buying supplies for a baby shower!)



mutinywxgirl -> RE: For those who find this Sunday to be particularly hard ... (5/10/2008 8:51:24 PM)

Yeah, though I have my mother, she doesn't know what day it is - I'm lucky for her to know who I am some days. And I'm NOT a mother, so don't wish me one.

To all those who are mothers, may you have a most blessed day.



BugLady -> RE: For those who find this Sunday to be particularly hard ... (5/11/2008 12:01:24 AM)

I've never found mother's day particularly difficult. Though it is a little awkward when people wish me happy mother's day, by assuming I am one. But then I suppose that's really no different from people assuming I'm married. Oh well.

I've been blessed to have enough women in my life who are mothers that I've always had reason enough to celebrate right along with them. Plus, I've acted like a mother and acted on behalf of mothers on many occasions.

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Be encouraged. The first mother's day was started 100 years ago by a SINGLE woman, who had NO children, and three years after her own mother died.


Wow. I did not know this ^^. How cool.

Happy Mother's Day to all you moms out there! [:)]



collie1 -> RE: For those who find this Sunday to be particularly hard ... (5/11/2008 12:07:41 AM)

Thank you, and thank you for sharing about who started Mother's Day. I read in the paper that it was first named: Mother's Day of Peace.



9drtr -> RE: For those who find this Sunday to be particularly hard ... (5/11/2008 12:26:41 AM)

I've avoided church on Mother's day since my own mother died in 2002, and I'll give tomorrow a miss as well. There will be a time I want to be in church on Mother's Day, but it hasn't arrived yet.

And for the record, I'm not a mother either.



teaspoon61 -> RE: For those who find this Sunday to be particularly hard ... (5/11/2008 1:18:32 AM)

Single mom here. My 2 will be home late tomorrow as they are coming home from vacation with their dad. My mom is in heaven and has been there for 7 years now. Then my second mom, Emma, died just a week ago. It's gonna be a difficult one this year because of loosing her so soon. But I know where both of them are, with Jesus, and I will see them one day. When I see them again it will be forever and I will not have to be parted from them again!



ladioffaith -> RE: For those who find this Sunday to be particularly hard ... (5/11/2008 1:45:54 AM)

I have no choice about church. I am on the worship team, and tomorrow is my Sunday. I reserve the right to leave the stage if they make a big production of the day during announcements, but they rarely will.

Edwin ... here are some lines from an award-winning column I wrote about hearing the Jewish "prayer of rememberance" a week before my first Motherless Day, and asking for a copy of the poem.

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A kind woman from the group extended her sympathies, and told of how she had lost her own parents. Together we stood, two women, one Jewish and one Christian, swapping tales of loss.

I confessed that with Mother's Day less than two weeks away, I wanted to crawl under a rock and pretend the day didn't exist.

"Don't do it," the wiser woman advised. "To deny it is to deny her, and you don't want to deny her."

She suggested doing something to honor my mother's memory on Mother's Day


Sage advice, which I have followed for most of the past 8 years. Usually I buy an African Violet and present it to a woman God puts on my heart. Most of the time, God gives me the name of a woman who has either lost a parent or who cannot be with her mother for some reason. One year it was a foster child, another year it was my own sister, and a couple of times it was a woman who had lost her parents.

This year, I'm skipping the tradition because I didn't think about this tradition until very late on Saturday ... and I have to be at church early.

Oh, and by the way ... here are the last two lines of the prayer in question:

As long as we live, they too will live, for they are now a part of us
as we remember them.



mutinywxgirl -> RE: For those who find this Sunday to be particularly hard ... (5/11/2008 6:02:20 AM)

Hey Di - can you post it - I think it would bring a lot of comfort to many who have lost their mothers.



.Pammy -> RE: For those who find this Sunday to be particularly hard ... (5/11/2008 7:03:45 AM)

My mother passed in 1985. I don't believe I ever gave it a thought to deny Mother's Day, because it's not just for me to honor my mother. It's for all of us to honor all mothers. So I will go to church today and honor all the mothers there and everywhere, as I always do.



ladioffaith -> RE: For those who find this Sunday to be particularly hard ... (5/11/2008 12:51:00 PM)

The column? It's actually not on the net ... I'd rather not post the whole thing. A lot of the points happened to based on local stuff ...

However, this is the prayer the colum was based on:

At the rising of the sun and at its going down,
We remember them.

At the blowing of the wind and in the chill of winter,
We remember them.

At the opening of the buds and in the rebirth of spring,
We remember them.

At the shining of the sun and in the warmth of summer,
We remember them.

At the rustling of the leaves and in the beauty of autumn,
We remember them.

At the beginning of the year and at its end,
We remember them.

As long as we live,
they too will live;
for they are a part of us,
as we remember them.

When we are weary and in need of strength,
We remember them.

When we are lost and sick at heart,
We remember them.

When we have joy we crave to share,
We remember them.

When we have decisions that are difficult to make,
We remember them.

When we have achievements that are based on theirs,
We remember them.

As long as we live, they too shall live;
for they were a part of us,
as we remember them.



pruned -> RE: For those who find this Sunday to be particularly hard ... (5/11/2008 5:05:29 PM)

I am a mother and have a living mother, but because of how much I wanted a child, and how long it took to conceive, and then through good times and bad, I still find church on Mother's Day to be particularly difficult. I sat through service today, son at my side, and filed my nails to keep past and present pain from penetrating. If ds hadn't come home for the weekend, I wouldn't have been there, either.

And yet, just a couple of rows back, a man and his wife sat with their daughter, who had just buried their stillborn son / grandson yesterday. And I look sadly aside at my "problems" and shamefully hang my head.


Di - what a beautiful poignant poem.



ladioffaith -> RE: For those who find this Sunday to be particularly hard ... (5/11/2008 5:19:07 PM)

Thanks. Of course, I did not write the poem.

You know how I said this is a day for singles to think of someone besides ourselves? Well, God put someone in my path after all. A friend of mine, who is a home health care aide, had one of her children she cares for die today. I feel so bad for her and the grandparents who were raising him. First they lose a daughter, and then a boy who was like a son ... on Mother's Day of all days!



pruned -> RE: For those who find this Sunday to be particularly hard ... (5/11/2008 5:34:56 PM)

I think this ^ is one reason why we celebrate Mother's Day. There is at least as much heartache as joy in such a day. Remembering. What could have been. What was. Perhaps this is a moment to celebrate those who have courage to forge on, even after ...



utilityfielder -> RE: For those who find this Sunday to be particularly hard ... (5/11/2008 6:46:04 PM)

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ORIGINAL: .Pammy

My mother passed in 1985. I don't believe I ever gave it a thought to deny Mother's Day, because it's not just for me to honor my mother. It's for all of us to honor all mothers. So I will go to church today and honor all the mothers there and everywhere, as I always do.



I agree with you Pam. This will be the first Mother's Day without my mother. That is the way it is. But there are mothers among us and this day is for them.



collie1 -> RE: For those who find this Sunday to be particularly hard ... (5/11/2008 7:17:59 PM)

Thank you all. This is my second mother's day without my mom, and I am going to try to do something for someone else on Mother's Day from now on in honor of her. What a wonderful idea!



BugLady -> RE: For those who find this Sunday to be particularly hard ... (5/11/2008 7:39:09 PM)

That's what I started doing on Father's Day after I lost my father.



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