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RE: Are you Quirky? - 5/19/2008 11:50:54 AM
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CoeurdeLeon_
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ORIGINAL: followtheleader This is not just a stuggle for me it is a serious issue. I used to be a stuggling perfectionist, since Hubby died I am a failing perfectionist. I cannot do something half way....I would rather not do it. I hear my Moms voice in my head saying "anything worth doing, is worth doing well." I would rather spend the time and have one room so clean that you could literally eat off of any surface. Then go through and just straighten the whole house. I beat myself up constantly over not being able to do everything the way I want to. Because I think it should be that way I also assume I should be able to make it that way, and right now I am failing miserably at it. {{{{{Nadine}}}}} I so empathize with you. I struggle with 'if I can't do it perfectly, I can't do it', too. It's important to remember what's important. And that would be YOU and the kids. The rest will all wait for you. Please don't beat yourself up anymore. You don't deserve it and your kids will learn to beat up on themselves, too. I know you don't want them to struggle with what you struggle with. I know because my kids are what forced me to be gentler with myself. They need a mom who is different than what I was and who cuts herself some slack. Do whatever it takes to erase that tape in your head because it isn't true. The only thing that's really "worth doing", the only thing that's going to last, is raising your children. And that, paradoxically, requires that you take very good care of yourself and make fewer demands of perfection on yourself.
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RE: Are you Quirky? - 5/19/2008 11:52:12 AM
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WhiteRoseBlessings
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What a beautiful post, Lioness.
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RE: Are you Quirky? - 5/19/2008 12:14:00 PM
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You know, it sounds like what's needed somewhere is a perfectionists' support thread. It sympathize with y'all. Somehow I managed to miss that particular bug.
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RE: Are you Quirky? - 5/19/2008 12:33:18 PM
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reading all the filing posts reminded me of this one. I have the returned check or duplicate from almost every check I've written over the last 20 years. (Some even before then) I tend to be very meticulous about filing paid bills. Up until last year I had every water bill (etc) I'd ever paid for the last 20 years. I finally got rid of those that were over 10 years old. But I have a vague recollection of capturing the usage data off of them all)
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