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isaacsmom -> RE: Hysterectomy at 28 (6/26/2008 12:30:21 PM)

(((Donna)))) Those sound like positive answers! (I'm sorry they will take the remaining ovary, though). [:)]

I'm watching your thread very closely . . . . my best friend is having a hysteretomy due to severe PCOS after her baby is born this fall. [&o] She just turned 30 a few weeks ago.



BlessedMamaofmany -> RE: Hysterectomy at 28 (6/26/2008 12:31:11 PM)

good news Donna. You seem much more at peace with this then you did just a few weeks ago.
Your doctor sounds awesome
Sandy



Mrs.Wifey -> RE: Hysterectomy at 28 (6/26/2008 1:01:57 PM)

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I'm watching your thread very closely . . . . my best friend is having a hysteretomy due to severe PCOS after her baby is born this fall.


I think I am headed the same way, especially with my prolapse that doctor's won't fix until you have a hysterectomy.

Donna, thank you for being so transparent about this whole process. It's made it seem not so awful that I won't keep my parts till I die.



purejoy -> RE: Hysterectomy at 28 (6/26/2008 1:27:38 PM)

Donna- I am so glad your appointment went well and that you are feeling much more at peace about your decision! What a blessing to have a doctor that gave such great answers. [:)]



TammyIsBlessed -> RE: Hysterectomy at 28 (6/26/2008 3:43:36 PM)

Sounds like a great dr!! So glad you seem to be at such peace with this.



PrincessDonna -> RE: Hysterectomy at 28 (6/26/2008 4:16:04 PM)

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I'm watching your thread very closely . . . . my best friend is having a hysteretomy due to severe PCOS after her baby is born this fall. She just turned 30 a few weeks ago.


I will pray for her, especially for some really good support. It is a hard decision.

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I think I am headed the same way, especially with my prolapse that doctor's won't fix until you have a hysterectomy.

Donna, thank you for being so transparent about this whole process. It's made it seem not so awful that I won't keep my parts till I die.


((((((((((Ryanne))))))))) Your "process" might be different than mine, but I'm glad if mine can help you with yours someday.

I think it was a blessing from God that I could tell my endometriosis was getting more advanced (by the bowel symptoms[:'(]) before I got pregnant with this baby. Time to get used to the idea of this has been invaluable to me. I can imagine having to make the decision quickly, as in the case of uterine cancer or something, would make it more difficult to deal with. I'm glad God knew *I* needed time to mentally prepare. And I am so, so, so, so thankful for the kids He has given us already. We truly are so blessed.



Ellie-Mae -> RE: Hysterectomy at 28 (6/26/2008 4:18:40 PM)

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I think I am headed the same way, especially with my prolapse that doctor's won't fix until you have a hysterectomy.


That was one of the reasons that I had mine done. they only did a partial though and I got to keep my ovaries. It was hard giving up my uterus. I had forgotten until just reading Donna's Dr's responses to her questions. I was VERY emotional about it. But now... I have no regrets.

I am praying that Donna will alos come to a place of no regrets as well. The Dr's answers sounded really good!



PrincessDonna -> RE: Hysterectomy at 28 (9/28/2008 9:43:27 PM)

Wow...three months since I've posted here.

In that three months...lots of changes, as most of you know. Brian's accident, weeks in the hospital, and the ongoing recovery process. Most horrid labor I have ever had, and the most beautiful baby as a reward (well, okay, they were all beautiful, but I claim this one as the most beautiful for this year...LOL).

Esther is a month old today. That means my 6 week appointment is in two weeks. And at that appointment, we are supposed to be setting a surgery date for the hysterectomy. It's getting close, and my tummy is upset thinking about it.

As far as I'm concerned, the plan is still to go ahead with this. We may push it back a month, if my doctor is comfortable with that, making it the beginning of December instead of beginning of November, hoping for more recovery in Brian so he will be able to help more. BUT...he has made several comments about not being sure we're done. Makes me want to scream...NONONONONONONONO. So much has changed and I truly feel done (though it does make me sad too...). I need this stupid accident not to have changed EVERYthing about our lives and our plans. But I don't want to go ahead with this just out of stubbornness to wanting something to be the same as before the accident. What if Brian's change of thought is God's leading?

Ugh.

Why can't anything just be simple?[>:]



OneOfHisJewels -> RE: Hysterectomy at 28 (10/5/2008 11:20:04 PM)

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BUT...he has made several comments about not being sure we're done. Makes me want to scream...NONONONONONONONO.


If I were you, I would honestly be tempted to tell him that you would be quite willing to have one more child if he wants to have the next one, lol. Maybe if you explain to him that pregnancy to a woman is the same pain as his accident is to him. I dunno, I just think with the 4 that live with you, and then with all the ups and downs of dealing with Nick, and Brian's accident..you all have your hands full enough. Just my opinion...and stated out of compassion, not judgement. You are already carrying a large load, and I would hate to see that load turn into a burden.



BlessedMamaofmany -> RE: Hysterectomy at 28 (10/6/2008 6:55:22 AM)

that's a tough one Donna.
You do have some (short) time to consider it. Even if you schedule the surgery and then change your mind before...
Is Brian just commenting, or is he really serious?
If God truly is leading Brian, the He'll give you the same heart.
Sandy

ps. Rebekah. I am not trying to be argumentative...truly. But I must be honest here and say that you comparing pregnancy and labor to Brian's accident is inaccurate. Very inaccurate. And children are never a burden.



PrincessDonna -> RE: Hysterectomy at 28 (10/6/2008 7:37:27 AM)

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But I must be honest here and say that you comparing pregnancy and labor to Brian's accident is inaccurate. Very inaccurate.


Yeah, it is. It's hard to explain the pain he has been through and continues to go through, but I know the pains of my pregnancies (even though I have had some very painful ones!) cannot compare with that pain. Even the pain of this awful last labor was only for a few hours. He was in pain like that for days on end.[:o]

My appointment is Thursday and Brian is coming with me. In conversations the past couple days, he has said he knows the reasons we decided to do this have not changed...to end the endometriosis forever and because we feel like 5 kids is just right for us right now and neither of us feel a burden to have more bio kids. We'll look into fostering/adopting later on...much later on, like when Noah and Nick are grown probably. He just loves it when I'm pregnant and carrying our little life. I do too, so I get that, and it is a little sad that we'll be done too. But more for me, I know I will have the relief of not having the awful pain of endo! I have been either pregnant or in pain (or pregnant and in pain) for the past 6 years. It is wearying, and I am d.o.n.e.

So...our decision still stands. I think his comments were just him working through the decision, which he had lots of time to do lately. If you remember, he had not really mentally and emotionally worked through this before, even though he agreed it was the best thing for us. And part of what he said may have been in jest...haha, funny, sweetie.[8D]



Sideways -> RE: Hysterectomy at 28 (10/6/2008 8:04:48 AM)

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And children are never a burden.


No, but they are a tremendous amount of work. I'm continuously impressed by folks like you and Donna who've raised 4 or 5 children on top of everything else going on in your lives.

I was kinda thinking before, Donna, that Brian just had to come to grips with the fact that you won't be having any more bio babies. It's a loss for both of you. After the accident he had, maybe he sees his children as a sort of immortality here on Earth, his way of continuing on after you and he have passed on to Heaven.

But I'm very glad that you can look forward to a life without pain, watching your beautiful kids grow up. You've done such a good job.



BlessedMamaofmany -> RE: Hysterectomy at 28 (10/6/2008 8:18:02 AM)

Brian is such a good man and a good dad, that this has to be sad for him too. I think we (as women in general) tend to forget that men *can* feel the same way LOL
I'm glad you two are on the same page Donna. Being pregnant and carrying new life is great, but you two would make AWESOME foster parents. You have so much love to give and would do a great job sharing that with hurting little people. =)

I think it's going to be wonderful for you to be pain free. Just no pain. Holy cow! How rad is that gonna be? =)



OneOfHisJewels -> RE: Hysterectomy at 28 (10/6/2008 11:58:57 AM)

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ps. Rebekah. I am not trying to be argumentative...truly. But I must be honest here and say that you comparing pregnancy and labor to Brian's accident is inaccurate. Very inaccurate. And children are never a burden.


Ok, if you say so. But if Donna felt that way, I would have preferred to hear it from her directly, it is HER thread...I live in pain day in and day out due to various health issues (and I had a very painful broken ankle once..the ankle bones broke, and a piece of bone chipped off and flipped over, so I know what pain is--don't worry, I know my pain is still nothing compared to what Brian went through..I'm just making a point)..but that doesn't mean I don't think women who are pregnant and in labor don't go through a lot of pain too. Sometimes husbands (that I've known) just don't believe that pregnancy/labor are any big deal..so I was merely trying to suggest a word picture...and I hate to say that any ONE child in and of themselves is a burden, but caring for a large amount of children while also dealing with many other stressful situations (such as Nick being back and forth)..can be very challenging. I was really trying to show Donna my support for my hysterectomy, and I don't really appreciate feeling like someone jumped down my throat for one little detail when I am just trying to encourage someone else, and it is that person's thread. I'm sure you didn't mean it as jumping down my throat, but it kind of felt that way..I just think the same exact thing could have been said, but said in a nicer way.


You could have said, "Rebekah, I know you are trying to encourage Donna, and that's great, but I do just want to say that I wold venture to guess that she doesn't see her prengnancies and Brian's accident as equivalent..and I really appreciate your concern for Donna not to be overwhelmed...but I would be careful about regarding children as a burden..although I know you would probably never call any individual child or group of children that, but some people could interpret your statement that way." See the difference?

For the record, I wouldn't call any individual child that, that would be cruel..I do think though, that some situations, if looked at as the whole, and not any one part, can be overwhelming situations.

Plus, in Donna's pfy thread, she said one of the reasons she was sure Esther was the last was because she had such a painful delivery with her, and I did have that in mind as I was typing my post.



PrincessDonna -> RE: Hysterectomy at 28 (10/6/2008 3:31:03 PM)

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I think it's going to be wonderful for you to be pain free. Just no pain. Holy cow! How rad is that gonna be? =)


I am totally going to have a "no more periods" party after I've recovered from surgery. You're all invited. But I bet only Sandy and Lisa will make it...that's okay, I forgive you all in advance.[8D]

I've already been thinking about the goodie bags I want to make for everyone who comes...LOL...wait until you see them![:D]



Mrs.Wifey -> RE: Hysterectomy at 28 (10/6/2008 3:35:15 PM)

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I was kinda thinking before, Donna, that Brian just had to come to grips with the fact that you won't be having any more bio babies. It's a loss for both of you. After the accident he had, maybe he sees his children as a sort of immortality here on Earth, his way of continuing on after you and he have passed on to Heaven.


I was thinking the same thing. Especially since they normally ride to church with him on Sundays.

Donna, it seems like there will probably be a bit of a grieving process of some sort both before and after, ya know?

Oh, and I would so come to your party[:D]



BlessedMamaofmany -> RE: Hysterectomy at 28 (10/6/2008 3:40:10 PM)

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ORIGINAL: OneOfHisJewels

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ps. Rebekah. I am not trying to be argumentative...truly. But I must be honest here and say that you comparing pregnancy and labor to Brian's accident is inaccurate. Very inaccurate. And children are never a burden.


Ok, if you say so. But if Donna felt that way, I would have preferred to hear it from her directly, it is HER thread...I live in pain day in and day out due to various health issues (and I had a very painful broken ankle once..the ankle bones broke, and a piece of bone chipped off and flipped over, so I know what pain is--don't worry, I know my pain is still nothing compared to what Brian went through..I'm just making a point)..but that doesn't mean I don't think women who are pregnant and in labor don't go through a lot of pain too. Sometimes husbands (that I've known) just don't believe that pregnancy/labor are any big deal..so I was merely trying to suggest a word picture...and I hate to say that any ONE child in and of themselves is a burden, but caring for a large amount of children while also dealing with many other stressful situations (such as Nick being back and forth)..can be very challenging. I was really trying to show Donna my support for my hysterectomy, and I don't really appreciate feeling like someone jumped down my throat for one little detail when I am just trying to encourage someone else, and it is that person's thread. I'm sure you didn't mean it as jumping down my throat, but it kind of felt that way..I just think the same exact thing could have been said, but said in a nicer way.


You could have said, "Rebekah, I know you are trying to encourage Donna, and that's great, but I do just want to say that I wold venture to guess that she doesn't see her prengnancies and Brian's accident as equivalent..and I really appreciate your concern for Donna not to be overwhelmed...but I would be careful about regarding children as a burden..although I know you would probably never call any individual child or group of children that, but some people could interpret your statement that way." See the difference?

For the record, I wouldn't call any individual child that, that would be cruel..I do think though, that some situations, if looked at as the whole, and not any one part, can be overwhelming situations.

Plus, in Donna's pfy thread, she said one of the reasons she was sure Esther was the last was because she had such a painful delivery with her, and I did have that in mind as I was typing my post.


I respectfully disagree with much of your post. I didn't intend to come off as jumping down your throat. However, I'm not going to point out what I disagree with here in this thread. We could talk about it via pm? I *really* don't want to get off topic.



BlessedMamaofmany -> RE: Hysterectomy at 28 (10/6/2008 3:43:48 PM)

OH! I am SO coming to a 'no more periods party' Maybe I'll be pregnant and then I can psuedo participate!



PrincessDonna -> RE: Hysterectomy at 28 (10/6/2008 3:48:08 PM)

I hope so, Sandy! I mailed out the pregnancy tests to you and Yolanda today. I saved one for myself. I don't know why. Ha.

Well, we do all know my track record of turning up pregnant right before surgery is scheduled...[&:]



BlessedMamaofmany -> RE: Hysterectomy at 28 (10/6/2008 3:50:34 PM)

DUDE. 3 in a row...can God really be that funny??



PrincessDonna -> RE: Hysterectomy at 28 (10/6/2008 3:53:57 PM)

No. He cannot.

Okay, He can. But I hope He doesn't.[&:][8D]



OneOfHisJewels -> RE: Hysterectomy at 28 (10/6/2008 4:03:26 PM)

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I respectfully disagree with much of your post. I didn't intend to come off as jumping down your throat. However, I'm not going to point out what I disagree with here in this thread. We could talk about it via pm? I *really* don't want to get off topic.


If you really didn't want the thread to go off topic, I would think you would not have addressed me personally in the first place. This thread was not meant to be a QF debate. I was merely trying to encourage Donna that I think she is making the right decision. That is all, and if there was some aspect of that encouragement not done correctly, I would prefer for Donna to decide that and tell me that. No, I don't really want to talk about it via p.m. I would prefer to respectfully agree to disagree and end the matter here and now. Therefore, this will be my last post in this thread.

Donna, I wish you well, no matter what happens. And if you do have the surgery, I pray all goes well, and that your incision doesn't hurt too much. I know when I had my ankle surgery, the incision hurt a lot. I will pray for you today. Best wishes, Donna!



BlessedMamaofmany -> RE: Hysterectomy at 28 (10/6/2008 4:04:23 PM)

LOL
In that case, I hope He doesn't either [8D]



myka -> RE: Hysterectomy at 28 (10/6/2008 4:14:52 PM)

I would come to your party, too...

I keep thinking about that track record that you have Donna... You seem to have a rather unique method of getting pregnant...

I hope it goes the way you hope, too.



Ellie-Mae -> RE: Hysterectomy at 28 (10/6/2008 4:29:47 PM)

I will come to your party Donna. I could use some uplifting in this area right now. I am finding myself grieving again. Feeling a bit gypped by the "it is ok to give up your organs... you can always adopt" line. Right now I am feeling rather stuck like I can't go back (duh), but I can't go forward either. I know that I am in God's will, but I don't know where He wants me to go from here. I just wish that my heart could move on.



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