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Brandy -> RE: Just found out BF is Pro Abortion - So Depressed Now. (6/1/2008 5:26:23 PM)

Here's part of what bothers me ... Why did you feel the need to tell his personal stance on something to 3 other people? Did you also tell them you slept together? Did you tell them the condom fell off? Or did you just release his views without his permission and make him look bad?

Why would you release HIS personal values on something that has NOTHING to do with his friends unless HE is there?

Regardless of how you feel about his views they are not yours to share.

I will also echo that anyone who marries someone "to do the right thing" then divorces them because they wouldn't leave the military??? This is a real red flag and you need to use this time to decide if the feelings trickling away are really worth bringing back.

I don't think so but I'm not you. This guy doesn't sound worth it.



Roberta_ -> RE: Just found out BF is Pro Abortion - So Depressed Now. (6/1/2008 5:33:48 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Brandy

Here's part of what bothers me ... Why did you feel the need to tell his personal stance on something to 3 other people? Did you also tell them you slept together? Did you tell them the condom fell off? Or did you just release his views without his permission and make him look bad?

Why would you release HIS personal values on something that has NOTHING to do with his friends unless HE is there?



Those were my thoughts too.



Mrs.Wifey -> RE: Just found out BF is Pro Abortion - So Depressed Now. (6/1/2008 5:38:41 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sharonjef2007

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I loved him so much and so dearly and now I feel like the love is just trickling away.
I can't hold the same respect for him now.


Without getting into the "who is right or wrong" conversation....let me say this. After reading your comment above, it is clear that you and this man do not belong together.

This seems to be a dealbreaker issue for you. If you can't respect him, how can you love him? If you can't get past this issue, break it off and don't waste anymore of your time or his time in the relationship.

I have found that you can't change people, only God can do that. So, accept him as he is or move on.


Totally agreeing.



uponeagleswings -> RE: Just found out BF is Pro Abortion - So Depressed Now. (6/1/2008 5:40:24 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sharonjef2007

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I loved him so much and so dearly and now I feel like the love is just trickling away.
I can't hold the same respect for him now.


Without getting into the "who is right or wrong" conversation....let me say this. After reading your comment above, it is clear that you and this man do not belong together.

This seems to be a dealbreaker issue for you. If you can't respect him, how can you love him? If you can't get past this issue, break it off and don't waste anymore of your time or his time in the relationship.

I have found that you can't change people, only God can do that. So, accept him as he is or move on.


Count me for #3. Way too many red flags. If this is a deal breaker issue for you, then don't expect him to change his mind just because you want him to.



Brandy -> RE: Just found out BF is Pro Abortion - So Depressed Now. (6/1/2008 5:45:47 PM)

And if he does change his mind I wouldn't buy stock in it. Men have agreed to change their minds simply to keep you in their life. On the inside nothings changed really, it's just all to settle you down and move on.



sign4Him316 -> RE: Just found out BF is Pro Abortion - So Depressed Now. (6/16/2008 10:33:10 PM)

He's pro-abortion and you're pro-life... I would say this....

Find another guy who believes in many of the same things you do... you don't have to share ALL viewpoints but life, babies, children are a big deal. They are our future.

In the long run, you will be happier!!!



SweetPea213 -> RE: Just found out BF is Pro Abortion - So Depressed Now. (6/17/2008 12:15:26 AM)

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ORIGINAL: mistymeadow

Since I was only 9 or 10 I have been anti Abortion.
It is something that is unshakable in me.
I have been dating a man who is divorced with a small son whom he seems to love very much.
He also is a Christian.
I took it for granted that he is anti Abortion.
We've been close friends before dating and now that we've been dating for nearly 6 months we slipped up and had sex during a weak moment. (horrible family emergencies and stresses and it just happened)
Well afterwards at brunch the next day we were discussing politics.
He is voting for McCain and said well its good for a conservative that he is 'Pro Choice'.
I almost fell backwards.
I said to him that he knows I am Pro Life, right ?
And he said yes he respects my decision but he respects a woman's right to choose whatever she does with her body.
I got upset and made some dark humored crack that well if he accidentally got me pregnant I guess I would never tell him the result.
He just looked shocked and said we would discuss what to do if that happened.
I then said did he actually have the nerve to think I might give and have an abortion ? We've now been very awkward and not speaking since then.
This has been a cold slap to not have sex when I dont know a man's thoughts on abortion and also when we're not betrothed.

I am very upset now. I don't know how to show him the errors of his thinking.
Help. [>:]


The last sentence of your post stuck out to me, because it seems as if you want to "show him the errors of his thinking". Take it from a former Pro-Choice girl, very little (if any) arguments you present to him will change his thinking. The ONLY person that can change his heart and thinking on the matter is the Holy Spirit!

I was Pro-Choice until about four or five years ago. Both my parents are Pro-Choice, so I guess that's why I was. I felt the Holy Spirit starting to change my heart on the matter. I also looked up Pro-Choice websites and found pictures of aborted (murdered) babies. Those pictures of alone were huge wake up calls! I praise God for my change of heart!

So please let God and His Holy Spirit work through your boyfriend's heart.

If you would still like to present your case to your boyfriend, go to a website and show him pictures of these poor slaughtered babies--these images are very difficult and sad to look at. IMO, I don't know how one can view these pictures and not see abortion for what it is--murder of an innocent life.

As far as damage goes, there are real life accounts of on the internet of women who aborted and have been damaged physically and mentally. Some women have even died while having abortions.

There is a video, made in 1984 made by Dr. Bernard Nathanson--as a former abortionist, he aborted 75,000 babies throught his career. Once the ultrasound was developed in the 1970's, he became Pro-Life. The film--which can be viewed online--is called The Silent Scream--it shows an abortion from the perspective of the baby in the womb, as viewed from an ultrasound.
Go to: http://www.silentscream.org

Stay strong in your respect for life! And pray for your boyfriend!



3cappuccinosmom -> RE: Just found out BF is Pro Abortion - So Depressed Now. (6/17/2008 6:47:00 AM)

Isn't it convenient for guys who want to sleep around that they "respect a woman's right to an abortion"? They're consumate feminists who just respect and adore women to no end and want only the best for them, especially if that means killing any babies they may make while tomcatting around. [8|]

mistymeadow, there are so many red flags here as others have pointed out. I hope you are willing to see them. [&:]



Karaboo2 -> RE: Just found out BF is Pro Abortion - So Depressed Now. (6/17/2008 10:43:48 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SweetPea213
There is a video, made in 1984 made by Dr. Bernard Nathanson--as a former abortionist, he aborted 75,000 babies throught his career. Once the ultrasound was developed in the 1970's, he became Pro-Life. The film--which can be viewed online--is called The Silent Scream--it shows an abortion from the perspective of the baby in the womb, as viewed from an ultrasound.
Go to: http://www.silentscream.org


Oi ... I watched that video in high school (grade 11 religion and ethics class .... Catholic highschool). I *still* have flashbacks of that video. I literally had to throw up afterwards. I have always been pro-life, and the tought of that .... <<shudder>>

As for the OP, I agree with what Brandy (and a few others asked) ... why did you fell compelled to share the discovered info with your mutual friends??

And I think your heart is telling you what to do ...



sharonjef2007 -> RE: Just found out BF is Pro Abortion - So Depressed Now. (6/17/2008 7:01:57 PM)

I still think the biggest issue here is that the OP does not want to accept her boyfriend for who he is. She wants to change him. Granted, we all change as we grow and mature. However, real change comes from our experiences and from God.

If you can not accept him for him....then move on. It is that simple.



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