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RE: jumping June chatterama - 6/15/2008 10:21:57 PM
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rae_of_light
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Kon, I suppose there might be some truth to what you're saying. But a lot of the guys that I really know(the on-fire-for-God-christian ones!) are awesome, it's the non-christian and the really lukewarm ones that I have trouble with.
Thanks Zach... it's really tough for me, all this stuff. I just seem so inadequate compared to all the other girls in my church and in my family, it's hard for me.
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RE: jumping June chatterama - 6/15/2008 10:25:19 PM
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rae_of_light
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I know at least twenty that would make me look like a total loser in every possible way!
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RE: jumping June chatterama - 6/15/2008 10:32:05 PM
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Kon, I suppose there might be some truth to what you're saying. But a lot of the guys that I really know(the on-fire-for-God-christian ones!) are awesome, it's the non-christian and the really lukewarm ones that I have trouble with.
i know. ive been there. i dont even know any christians at all.. well nvm.. i know lots of lukewarm fake christians. but no real christians, much less real christian girls. for a long time those people would annoy the heck out of me. however you cant go and "love them" if you are always angry whenever you are around them. i realized that and eventually stopped. i started looking in the positive things in people, though of course i never forget the most important thing.. whether they love God or not.
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I just seem so inadequate compared to all the other girls in my church and in my family, it's hard for me.
i bet most of them dont think the same. which makes you "Better" than them just by that. just like to learn the truth one must first learn that he knows nothing(AKA to not judge unless God tells you something.. if its from God, then obviously its a true judgement). likewise someone must realize that they are imperfect in order to try to be perfect. but you must also understand you wont ever be perfect until heaven.
also dont ever compare yourself to other people. you must get better than the person YOU are NOW. not better than other people. if competition helps you become a better person, by all means be competitive(so long as it doesnt make you have negative behavior). however with you it seems like its not helping to compare yourself with other people so forget them.
even with your husband he should want you to become a better person than you are and help you with it. not throw against you how this or that girl is better than you at x-y-z, it shows jealousy. but like above if hes simply using other girls as an example then thats fine. either way his focus should never be on other girls and how they are better, it should be on making you better.
and i really really hope i find a wife that makes me a better christian, a better person and wants to stay by my side despite my flaws. find a man that is like that too. accepting imperfection in yourself and finding someone that accepts it too is quite awesome
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RE: jumping June chatterama - 6/15/2008 10:37:44 PM
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rae_of_light
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GAH! I hate the cross-posting thing... Thanks for that Kon, it means a lot to me. My mind knows most of it, but I have a hard time getting it from my mind into my heart, it might take a bit, but I truly want to try! It's something I've struggled with for a long time, and I KNOW it's not God's best for me to be forever focusing on myself, even if it's in a negative way. I need to learn to think of God first, others second, and myself way last!
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RE: jumping June chatterama - 6/15/2008 10:41:12 PM
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Yeah, you're number one on "The List of People Who Hate Me". In fact, you're the only one on there, funny isn't it?
Since when did you become the Canadian Emo?
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RE: jumping June chatterama - 6/15/2008 10:45:04 PM
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Since when did you become the Canadian Emo?
Since I realized that someone hates me. But when I truly think on it, it's not really MY problem, is it?
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RE: jumping June chatterama - 6/15/2008 10:45:42 PM
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nah, you need to think about yourself too. just not only negative.
or rather, forget negative and positive. think of whatever is the truth. truth is you arent perfect. truth is you should try to be. truth is you wont ever be till heaven. it takes time to accept them, but the faster the better for ya.
oh and you SHOULD have some expectations from the guy you'll be married to. one of them should be him finding you "perfect enough". we all do struggle wanting to be pretty darn good spouses and parents someday.
i know thats the only reason why i havent left college yet. if i knew that i'd never get married or have kids i'd have quit college already and got a job
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RE: jumping June chatterama - 6/15/2008 10:52:11 PM
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Rae, STOP IT!!!!!!!!!! Go talk to Natalie, I do not think that she is very emo.
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RE: jumping June chatterama - 6/15/2008 10:54:53 PM
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But what if the truth is negative?
How can truth; honesty which equals a form of positiveness, ever be negative?
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RE: jumping June chatterama - 6/15/2008 10:56:17 PM
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But what if the truth is negative?
you accept it, but you simply dont focus on the negative, you focus on fixing it. the negative should give you a passion/anger/wish to change yourself, not make you sad and bring you down. you use that passion.. to change yourself. and always becoming a better person makes you happy. so its fun.
and no you are not wrong about the second.
accepting your flaws isnt the same as being ok with them. like i said he SHOULD want you to become a better person. he SHOULD help you become a better person. but expecting you to be perfect always and from the beginning is stupid because its impossible. what good would it serve other than to make you depressed, and make him angry and... like i said its impossible to be perfect so he'll always be angry and.. its stupid. now im repeating myself. so anyway, he does have to settle for less. perfection is in fact so much beyond us that we cant even imagine what a perfect girl would be like. thats why you will be "perfect enough" for him. you'll be perfect in his eyes, because we are human and have limited perception of what perfection would be like.
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RE: jumping June chatterama - 6/15/2008 10:58:15 PM
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rae_of_light
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Rae, STOP IT!!!!!!!!!! Go talk to Natalie, I do not think that she is very emo.
Oh, now YOU think I'm emo too! Sheesh, there's friendship for ya! If ya'll had seen me this afternoon, you would not be calling me emo... playing soccer in the park in the rain with a bunch of strangers is not very emo, methinks.
Randy, when the honesty is negative. But I don't think I'm equipped to engage in philosophical debate, so I concede.
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RE: jumping June chatterama - 6/15/2008 11:09:25 PM
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Konstantinos
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if she was your twin she'd be 50 pounds
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RE: jumping June chatterama - 6/15/2008 11:16:49 PM
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yes you would
supermodel bull is.. bull
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