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lexie -> RE: General Mommy Thread (7/11/2008 9:02:47 AM)
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Manda goes against the grain? Uh oh, but I agree with her most of the time[&:]
I've learned a lot since I started talking to people on the internet, that I've actually carried over into real life when talking with people, listening to their problems, and giving advice.
When I give advice (if I ever have it) I tend to do it in a private message. It's for a few reasons. One reason is, I'm not completely open about my life or what I've been through right out in the forums. I have no problem sharing what I've gone through for the purpose of giving advice or encouragement, but I'd rather it be between myself and that person, when needed. I could end up telling everyone eventually, and that's fine, but I'm not going to put everything out for everyone to read right away.
The second is, my advice often comes in the form of questions and repeating. It's the faut of a counselling course I took in school, where they teach you to not actually give advice. So I'd rather do it through pm than clog up the threads.
I remember once asking Nicole a question to see if a possible idea might work. Sarah said she disagreed with that method, but I hadn't actually gotten to the part where I explained why I thought it might work or how it might work. Sarah saw it being done one way, where as how it would be one was different in my mind. There was no harm that came from any of it, but I know that my style of talking through things with people could maybe be misunderstood, so it's more appropriate to do it in private message.
Maybe I come across to others as not being interested in people's problems, or ignoring people, if I'm not seen addressing what people say, but I guess as long as I know my intention and the person I'm talking with knows my intention, that's good enough for me.
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