RE: Is it possible for men and women to just be friends? (Full Version)

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Is it possible for men and women to just be friends?


Yes
  76% (57)
No
  24% (18)


Total Votes : 75
(last vote on : 7/26/2008 1:38:48 PM)
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DreadPirateRandy -> RE: Is it possible for men and women to just be friends? (6/23/2008 7:44:30 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Cloak

I am always suspicious of relationships with the opposite sex no matter how unromantic or innocent of whatever reason you try to justify it . Although I am a single girl; when I get married, I will Not lunch or dine or sit/be alone or go out with male coworker or any other opposite sex friend no matter what. Same principle I apply and expect from my future hubby.


I award this post five golden stickers of excellence.



creationtalk -> RE: Is it possible for men and women to just be friends? (6/23/2008 8:46:41 PM)

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ORIGINAL: GrapeApe

quote:

ORIGINAL: Cloak

I am always suspicious of relationships with the opposite sex no matter how unromantic or innocent of whatever reason you try to justify it . Although I am a single girl; when I get married, I will Not lunch or dine or sit/be alone or go out with male coworker or any other opposite sex friend no matter what. Same principle I apply and expect from my future hubby.


I award this post five golden stickers of excellence.


While I applaud the thought, I'm not sure this is always practical. I have been friends with a person of the opposite sex for over 25 years--we knew each other before we both married (mine having ended in divorce). Over the years we have lived in different places but kept in touch and visited whenever we were in the area; sometimes making special trips to visit. Now I made it a point to become friends with my friend's spouse, and had the spouse objected, I would have bowed out gracefully; I have no desire to interfere in the marriage. I have often had dinner out with this friend both before and after our marriages and my divorce both with and without spouses. Sometimes we meet because I needed to discuss something sensitive and get an opposite sex opinion. We also carry on very long conversations on the phone--since we are both talkers, these conversations can last over an hour. There has not and never will be anything improper between us. If my friend or I had made a rule such as above, then we both would have missed out on our friendship over the years.



bzirk -> RE: Is it possible for men and women to just be friends? (6/23/2008 8:51:58 PM)

It's really not practical in some work environments. Just depends on what you do for a living.



Bridgitt -> RE: Is it possible for men and women to just be friends? (6/24/2008 12:54:36 PM)

I think it is. However, it can be very tricky and dangerous. Temptation lurks in these kind of relationships, at least for me as I am a single mom.



DreadPirateRandy -> RE: Is it possible for men and women to just be friends? (6/24/2008 5:33:14 PM)

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ORIGINAL: creationtalk

Sometimes we meet because I needed to discuss something sensitive and get an opposite sex opinion. We also carry on very long conversations on the phone--since we are both talkers, these conversations can last over an hour.


This may sound rational, but, couldn't all these things be done with your wife, whom is supposed to be your best friend?

I have a very close friend (whom is a girl) that is like a sister to me. Still, I wouldn't allow that friendship to interfere with my marriage, so I wouldn't put myself in a situation that might cause it to, however innocent it may be.



manda59 -> RE: Is it possible for men and women to just be friends? (6/28/2008 9:53:07 AM)

Torchheart,

Couldn't help but notice THIS

I find it hard to understand how, as a married man, you find the time to be friends to be closely involved with not just one, but apparently several female friends. I am lucky if I can find the time to catch up with just one friend each week.



Hislittleone -> RE: Is it possible for men and women to just be friends? (6/28/2008 2:06:22 PM)

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ORIGINAL: manda59

Torchheart,

Couldn't help but notice THIS

I find it hard to understand how, as a married man, you find the time to be friends to be closely involved with not just one, but apparently several female friends. I am lucky if I can find the time to catch up with just one friend each week.



Torchheart is a father too if memory serves me correctly. I am also wondering about this ^ and whether this (insert arrow pointing downward) problem has been resolved with the wife.

quote:

My wife has a problem with the fact that I'm still in contact with her. I do love my wife, and would never leave her for my old flame, but I do care a lot about my ex and don't want to break off contact with her.
----emphasis added

Torchheart, how are things going now?



manda59 -> RE: Is it possible for men and women to just be friends? (6/28/2008 6:21:42 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Hislittleone
^ and whether this (insert arrow pointing downward) problem has been resolved with the wife.

quote:

My wife has a problem with the fact that I'm still in contact with her. I do love my wife, and would never leave her for my old flame, but I do care a lot about my ex and don't want to break off contact with her.
----emphasis added




Whoa!! I didn't see that!!

Torchheart, why don't you want to break off contact with her? especially if your wife has a problem with it.



Hislittleone -> RE: Is it possible for men and women to just be friends? (6/30/2008 2:17:41 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: manda59

Torchheart,

Couldn't help but notice THIS

I find it hard to understand how, as a married man, you find the time to be friends to be closely involved with not just one, but apparently several female friends. I am lucky if I can find the time to catch up with just one friend each week.


Manda, perhaps this is the same friend as the other one mentioned in this thread and in the other praise/prayer thread. I'm thinking all three are one and the same. (Unless I'm missing something?)

ETA: fixed format



beachcooky -> RE: Is it possible for men and women to just be friends? (7/25/2008 1:27:09 AM)

I believe so. I have more guy friends than I do girl friends.
It just makes it difficult if I like a guy, who's my friend. As in, like like.
And I back off...just until those feelings will subside. It might not be a healthy strategy (thats what people tell me)...but I think it's better doing that.



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