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GrowinBaptist -> RE: Is it selfish to pray that you will find someone? (7/18/2008 11:44:50 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Above_All
I really don't see how desiring to be with someone would be considered selfish.
I do though think that we can get into the idea of having a mate so much that it becomes like an idol and a prize. Whether it's wanting love or giving it, there is an extreme side to the spectrum. I also feel that prayer for a mate should not always be the most central source of our prayers. That can cause to wait and wait and wait and make just a few days feel like months. It's possible to be trying so hard that you actually miss an opportunity for a great relationship.
You hit the nail on the head when referring to turning marriage/spouse into an idol. I also agree that desiring a spouse isn't selfish...it's how we're wired. God created woman for man, after all. Of course, being patient for the Lord's timing is much easier said than done at times, especially the older you get. But I also know the disaster of divorce from not being patient or listening to advice. Therefore I personally am a little more cautious these days and actually tend to be overly so. But even as the desire grows, I have learned to leave this in the Lord's hands and use my time as a single to serve Him.
Sometimes t's not what you pray for, but HOW you are praying for it, I think. If you aren't sure if you are praying with selfless motives, do a heart check and ask the Lord to let you know if you're off track. Believe me, He'll tell you! It is completely normal to desire a spouse...just make sure you are leaving that decision in His hands. On the flip side, the decision to be single needs to be left up to Him as well. We have no right to tell Him that we WILL be married or that we WILL be single for the rest of our lives. Let both rest in Him and see what happens. [:D]
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