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Miril -> RE: How would you approach the situation? (6/11/2008 1:16:02 AM)
Hi BugLady. I have been praying about a response to you since you posted this thread. I can sense your fear, no reason to be afraid if you have a close relationship with God. I can understand you wanting to not divulge a lot of information in your position, it doesn't matter. What matters is what God tells you to do. If you were listening to God you wouldn't be posting here asking what to do. This is a big job, this a job for God; actually EVERY job is a job for God. Before you keep instilling more fear in your mind here are some things to think about. First and foremost, think about how everything came to happen. Sometimes we humans may say something in anger, or just plain fear without meaning to follow through with what was said. In other words, it can be a reflex reaction. Example: I told this guy once to leave me alone, a guy I would talk to online I got close too, he had lied to me about himself and I just got fed up with it all. He wouldn't leave me alone... He would keep emailing me. Keep in mind I didn't know who I was talking to at the time and as a woman knowing that he knew where I lived and me not knowing who he was, frightened me a bit (of course I wasn't as close to God and had my own depression issues I was dealing with). So he ignored everything I asked of him and kept contacting me and following me online, so I told him my cousin was going to get him lol (I laugh now because it turns out he was a guy I actually knew in person, and my intentions were never to harm him, just scare him off so he could leave me alone). My cousin also called him and told him God knows what. It was stupid really, and I apologized to him for it through an email. But he took it seriously and it spiraled into a ridiculous waste of his time and mine. Not knowing if one has to do with the other, I notice that I am being followed, and of course wondering... Why?I look at myself and can say that I am a good person who is a good citizen that hasn't even had a parking ticket. Perfect no, but I care about people and try to show it as much as I can. But what can I do right? I asked these people if they needed to discuss anything with me, I would be more than willing if what they need is my help and think that I don't want to help out. "What is wrong?" "I just want to make it right"... You name it, it got worse for a little while, I ignored it and went about my life. Next thing I know people are sabotaging every job I would get, making things a little difficult. I got closer to God and gave it to Him. However, there was a time where I was going through a VERY VERY rough time and I would actually mouth off at anyone, online, home, whoever. My life was not roses, I was frustrated and not afraid to show it. I know where I went wrong and I apologized for that to the people involved, more than once - in public. If they are going to continue hey what can I do right? God told me he does not want me to go anywhere yet. I thought about it and discussed it with my brother since he is organizing a move in the next year. If God has a new Word for me on a daily basis about this situation, I take it and follow it through. I don't care who they are - I am a child of God and they have NO authority over me. As of today, God keeps telling ME "NO" No moving for me, No going out of town. And if anyone tries to interrupt my mission for him they will have to deal with Him. Those are God's final words to me about them. God knows hurting people is not my thing, God knows. I really do hope they begin to back away, as God's anger is not one to deal with as they have seen, so I continue to pray for them to find the peace they need to put this to rest. So in sharing all of this of me I hope you can see my point, and I ask you to first, look deep within yourself and look to see if there was anything you could have unintentionally (even) done that may have caused all of this to spiral? (Not blaming you, so please don't misunderstand me. I am just helping you get your answers without having to take a step into the past.) Then repent for your part in it (if there was any), and get VERY close to God about it and listen carefully to what God tells you your next steps are. Hang in there.

preserved -> RE: How would you approach the situation? (6/11/2008 10:49:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BugLady I know this isn't going to make much sense. If it were that easy to do, believe me, I would have done it already. Anyway, I've decided not to contact the person I've been speaking of until I get clear direction from the Lord and have a peace about it. I am in agreement with all that pbaribeault has responded...I would have to ask...what are you asking God for? It sounds like you are not relying on Him for the answers...you are trying to seek it on your own...The truth may never be revealed...so she lied...All else seems to be going on with their lives and here you are trying to seek answers from over a year ago...

BugLady -> RE: How would you approach the situation? (6/11/2008 1:33:26 PM)
quote: The truth may never be revealed...so she lied...All else seems to be going on with their lives and here you are trying to seek answers from over a year ago... Actually, I'm trying to seek answers from something that happened in 2003, and has been following me ever since. The lie from this person is not the issue. The issue is not something I am free to openly discuss publicly. As I said before, I was just hoping someone might have suggestions as to how to approach this person to restore the relationship. But most people seem to be reading into it that it can't or shouldn't be done. I think once the truth is revealed it will be restored.

Miril -> RE: How would you approach the situation? (6/11/2008 2:08:30 PM)
quote: I think once the truth is revealed it will be restored. Then you have the option of approaching said person to ask questions. I did that and didn't get an answer so I moved on. I don't think about it unless a thread comes up with a similar case, such as yours here. Don't fret for the unknown, let God handle it. It's like the issue with my little cousin who was like my sister, she betrayed me period; she said lies about me stealing, and doing this and that. I don't care about the details of why or what (although I know why because of a guy), the point is it doesn't matter, she betrayed me and made me look like something I am far from being. The person I trusted most in this world, who knew me very well, betrayed me. I forgave her and left her to God to deal with, but she will not be a part of my life again, and God has confirmed that move to me, he commanded that move to me because she deals in the works of darkness. She needs to accept that and move on. In fact, per God it will be in her best interest to not even look my way. She is a witch who has done the unthinkable to a child of God, a very anointed one I might add, and if her or her mother try anything they will be struck down. God's words not mine. Unless God has instructed you to approach for answers, sit next to God and let it blow over. But you need to have a close relationship with God through Christ Jesus, if you don't I don't know what to tell you. Take care and God Bless You.

BugLady -> RE: How would you approach the situation? (6/11/2008 2:59:58 PM)
Thank you, Miril- for the well wishes.

preserved -> RE: How would you approach the situation? (6/11/2008 5:34:40 PM)
Sounds like you (Not God) is unable to let it go...Therefore just aproach the person and ask...I doubt that there will be any restoration but hopefully you will get the answer...If no approach has been made to you since 2003....none will

evry1needsgod -> RE: How would you approach the situation? (6/11/2008 6:34:49 PM)
BugLady: Having faith in something that God does not want does not guarantee you anything but increased sorrow. I'm not saying restoration will not happen, I'm just advising you, like before, to make sure restoration is what God wants. It's been 5 years, and maybe God is telling you restoration is not necessary anymore, and will not happen. I don't know. But just because you have faith in something, doesn't mean it will happen. Faith guarantees NOTHING, unless you are in the center of God's will. Again, I'm not trying to discourage you from your actions, I'm just trying to make sure you make the right choice. Don't let the fancy word "faith" deceive you. Even Satan and Him minions have faith in God's existence.

evry1needsgod -> RE: How would you approach the situation? (6/11/2008 6:36:35 PM)
BugLady: Did you delete one of your posts? I wrote mine (the previous one) in response to yours, but once I posted mine, yours wasn't there anymore. Am I going crazy???

BugLady -> RE: How would you approach the situation? (6/11/2008 6:41:25 PM)
Well, you wouldn't be the first or only person to think it's just me who can't let it go. But then you haven't witnessed what I have witnessed. I can't really expect complete strangers on an internet forum to have insight into my situation, unless they've been in my situation. I just wanted some insight into how to go about approaching someone with whom I have had a long term loving relationship to restore the broken relationship. I've never had a broken relationship like this before. The relationship I speak of may not even be fully broken. Maybe just strained. And it's not been broken since 2003. Something happened in 2003 that has had an impact to this day. I was injured. I am still recovering from the damage from the injury. Doctors tell me some damage may be permanent. I don't want to believe that. I believe I will one day have answers. It's just a matter of time, and the Lord is only asking I be patient for His timing. There may be people reading this who likely do know what I'm talking about, though. That being the case, they now know I'm asking for their help with achieving resolution. They are good people. They know who they are. I have faith. It's just a matter of time. No, evry1needsgod. You're not going crazy. I deleted it. I rewrote my post. And have edited this one to respond to you. [:)]

lightways -> RE: How would you approach the situation? (6/17/2008 1:05:49 PM)
Hi Buglady, I was compelled to respond because I don't like the mystery that is disturbing you. I believe something ought to be raised up to answer situations like yours because it hints at a blindspot or an area or areas seldom addressed around our faith. Many try to take advantage of christian meekness and trust but we are very much covered and the due ministry ought to be raised up to heal these hinderances to peace, peace is more important than some acknowledge. I went through something similar and still am developing where the people suddenly switched and I was as though stalked and haunted, though we are told in the word where envy and strife is there is confusion and every evil work. There need to be something done about these things because it is not right that as christians we should at all be denied peace, this is something we ought to be able to demand at anytime and if that is withheld the something or someone has gone tooooo far and processes need to adjust to restore the due constitution. There is alot that can be said on the matter but mainly to us who believe the gospel is the power of God unto salvation and will be the answer towards the restoraation of order in our lives. I observe how one is made to appear a nuisance and irritating, I experienced this also, maybe this is some of the cross we have to bear until a standard is raised unto addressing these problems.

staychill -> RE: How would you approach the situation? (6/17/2008 1:20:41 PM)
hi, im confussed, but here is my little input i hope it helps. if u want to talk to me then just send me a messege, but i am confussed, a little, but sometimes people just have bad days and do things that are not really them. but if what this person did to you is really bad and crossed a line, then i might break off the friendship. sometimes having bad friends can be a real bad thing.

lightways -> RE: How would you approach the situation? (6/17/2008 1:35:44 PM)
Hello again, I feel led to add a couple points. Firstly when our trust is betrayed it can be as though one is penetrated and the world and all our enemies come flooding in. Though let us be stregthened in our inner man with the spirit of wisdom and revelation for God has answer for all of them were they to dare bring these hidden issues to the light. May we be protected with the armour of light which is incorruptible like the Word and has total victory as we yield to God's protection.

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