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MyMasquerade -> Allowance (6/10/2008 12:41:29 AM)
Do you pay your kids for doing chores?

manda59 -> RE: Allowance (6/10/2008 3:17:46 AM)
Not now, they're 18 and 14. The 18 yr old does it just to help, the 14 yr old does it either to help or earn computer time. When they were small, they earned "credits" for some household chores; they were expected to keep their rooms tidy, clear up their toys and assist with some tasks just to help, but other tasks over and above those were for "credits". Each job warranted 1 or more credits, and when the job was done, the credit was written in a column on the calendar under the child's name. 1 credit was 50p (25cents) when they were small, and Ł1 (50 cents) when they were older). If one child wronged the other, they might lose one or more credits and they'd be given to the other, kind of like a "fine". Or they could just totally lose one or more credits for misbehaviour. They could collect the credits at the end of the week - though often they left them up there for longer.

peculiar_lady2 -> RE: Allowance (6/10/2008 6:31:28 AM)
no....everyone lives here and everyone cleans in one way or another and dependent upon their abilities and ages. They earn money other ways. Like....if they want to earn money for something then they have to do above and beyond "chores" and find something they can do to earn money. We provide all of their needs and a lot of their wants (when we can) though, so there really isn't a need for them to have their own money right now (our oldest is only 8yo). If they happen to find money laying around the house when they are cleaning then they can keep it.....it's change mostly anyway (every once in a while they may find a dollar bill in the laundry or something). We are teaching them about money in other ways....such as us giving them money to buy certain items that they want and allowing them to pay for the item...but they don't do chores to earn that money or that item, it's something we freely give them.

amybreit -> RE: Allowance (6/10/2008 9:01:06 AM)
We give them allowance, but don't tie it to chores. Chores are just part of living here & doing your part. We started allowance when they had a bad case of the "gimmes" every time we went to the store. This way, they have their own money & if they spend it all on one thing, oh well - it's gone! They are learning how to save up for things they want (dd is saving up for a hamster) & that it stinks if you spend your money on something that is cheaply made & it breaks right away! It has helped curb the "gimmes" when shopping. If they ask for something, we just say "do you have the money for it?". They also work at our local MOPS groups, so they earn money there too. BTW - we still have VETO power on purchases (there are certain things that we won't allow & they can't buy those just because it is their own money.

Auben -> RE: Allowance (6/10/2008 10:54:09 AM)
Allowance and chores are separate here as well. Chores are a part of being alive. We all work to our ability. Allowance is a chance to learn about saving, tithe, and spending. It can be removed for misdeeds. They can also earn money for doing tasks beyond their chore list.

2shaye -> RE: Allowance (6/10/2008 1:01:55 PM)
nope

Consecrated2God -> RE: Allowance (6/10/2008 1:17:53 PM)
We have a point system. When you earn twenty points, you can get a dollar. I've got a sheet of paper on the bulletin board with each kids' name, and a list of certain jobs that they can do to earn points. Some are worth more than others. The kids keep track of their points with ticker marks, and then when they get to twenty they get a dollar bill out of a little pouch I keep in my wallet. It's worked pretty well for us.

MyMasquerade -> RE: Allowance (6/10/2008 8:27:18 PM)
The point system sounds like lots of work, lol. Since we dont do chores we don't do an allowance based on them. When we can she gets money for the things she wants. When we can't we don't. She does make money for grades, then she has her little lawn service but she makes that money on her own.

linensash -> RE: Allowance (6/11/2008 8:37:30 AM)
We began the process of explaining how mom and dad have jobs and why we get paid for them and all that goes with that. Our daughter does not get paid for helping at home, because she is part of our family. She does though get paid for her "job" which is going to school. We do not pay based on grades, but we do give her a 3.00 (she is 8)allowance for doing her job well. That is having a good attitude, and trying her hardest. This is the first year she received letter grades, in which she got straight A's every quarter. The first quarter I gave her 5.00 that week instead of 3.00, I explained that she got a "bonus" for a job well done. So far it has worked well. Although, I would love some ideas as to how to get her a summer "job" so that she can learn a little bit more about how to handle her money. Any ideas?

Consecrated2God -> RE: Allowance (6/11/2008 12:20:40 PM)
quote: The point system sounds like lots of work, lol. Not for me, it isn't. The kids take care of it entirely on their own. They even print out a new sheet when that one is all used up. My only job is to keep the little pouch stocked with dollars. [:)]

MyMasquerade -> RE: Allowance (6/11/2008 5:25:46 PM)
My daughter who is 10 started her own lawn service. She made fliers and signs and put them out. She has about 10 lawns she does for $15-20 per lawn. We live in a neighborhood of duplexs so the lawns are very small. Each one takes less than an hour and that is including clean up. She also got a "job" at a snowball stand. She works 2/3 days a week five hours a day. She makes $5 an hour and gets all the snow balls she can eat. Because of her working with money there I go to work with her. She is making more money right now than I am.

TammyIsBlessed -> RE: Allowance (6/13/2008 4:10:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MyMasquerade Since we dont do chores What do you mean "we dont do chores"? As in, your kids don't have to do any work to help out around the house at all? Or do you just call it something different? Or?

TammyIsBlessed -> RE: Allowance (6/13/2008 5:16:59 PM)
I liked Dr. Kevin Lehman's take on allowance. Allowance is a perk for being in our family. We have the My Giving Bank and for every $1 they get, 25c goes into the church part, 25c goes into the store part and 50c goes into the bank part. Chores are just something you do because you're part of the family and everybody helps out. Extra jobs can be awarded with $$. And $$ can be taken out of allowance if necessary. Ex - instead of nagging DD#1 to clean her room, I could simply hire DD#2 to clean it and pay for it out of DD#1's allowance.

MyMasquerade -> RE: Allowance (6/13/2008 5:40:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TammyIsBlessed quote: ORIGINAL: MyMasquerade Since we dont do chores What do you mean "we dont do chores"? As in, your kids don't have to do any work to help out around the house at all? Or do you just call it something different? Or? She doesn't work in the house unless it is something she wants to do. I don't except it from her.

Ellie-Mae -> RE: Allowance (6/13/2008 8:02:30 PM)
My kids all have responsibilities that are a part of being in a family, and would also be a part of living on their own b themselves as well. They do not get allowances. They get all the perks of living in our family. If they want money, they can cash n cans and bottles, take care of their uncle's dog, or find something else to do. However, this last week when daddy was away and I was recovering in bed, my eldest was expected to take over almost everything that I usually did including making sure that the younger kids did their responsibilities and doing his own responsibilities. Because I was asking so much from him, we actually gave him some money as an appreciation for all the hard work that he did.

Brandy -> RE: Allowance (6/13/2008 10:38:50 PM)
I never got an allowance but I was expected to participate in chores/cleaning. It helped me to learn how to do things on my own when I was an adult. I did make money sometimes from my mom for watching my sister if they needed me to cancel plans last minute. That was it though from parents. I can't imagine not having to do chores or help the household run even at 10. That seems like a set up for failure as an adult.

MyMasquerade -> RE: Allowance (6/16/2008 7:42:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Brandy I never got an allowance but I was expected to participate in chores/cleaning. It helped me to learn how to do things on my own when I was an adult. I did make money sometimes from my mom for watching my sister if they needed me to cancel plans last minute. That was it though from parents. I can't imagine not having to do chores or help the household run even at 10. That seems like a set up for failure as an adult. Just because she isn't made to do it doesn't mean she doesn't know how to do it. It isn't her job to run the house it is mine. I have a lot of health problems and doing the house work is a lot of problems sometimes, but it isn't her responsibility to take those things over.

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