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DrivenbyGod -> Why are you still single? (6/21/2008 2:38:38 AM)

Why do you think you're still single - is it sin in your life or something else? I struggle with a lot of things so I wonder if I'm just cursed by God sometimes and will never be blessed with a wife.



ebony101 -> RE: Why are you still single? (6/21/2008 3:33:43 AM)

We all struggle total faith. The bible says that all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. I personally don't think that the presence of sin in your life will prevent God from "blessing"you with a spouse. As humans though we tend to believe that - & maybe it can be true, but if God intends something for you I don't think he'll withold it - that sounds more like somethings that humans would do - God's ways are not our ways.

The book of Romans though a difficult read (for me) is one that clearly depicts our struggles as humans.

I don't think that anyone is cursed - God has made us all, and all that He made is good. We fall short because God does not force us to walk in the correct path - He gave us free choice.

Why am I still single? I really don't know [&o]. I thought I had known up until a few weeks back when the course of my life changed, so right now I'm in a bit of a quandary.



mutinywxgirl -> RE: Why are you still single? (6/21/2008 6:17:18 AM)

I'm single for a variety of reasons - first off, it's what God has for me. Secondly, no one has ever asked. Thirdly, I've made the choice to pursue education and a career (and continue to do so, even at 47). Having a family was never something I wanted to do. Right now, I am needed to be living in the home of my elderly parents and terminal brother to help them in their final days and if I was married, this would not be possible. Need I go on?

I do not, for one second, believe I am cursed by God. I love being single, though, yes, there are times when I do desire to be in a relationship that is heading towards marriage. But, in reality, the thought of it terrifies me.



Cloak -> RE: Why are you still single? (6/21/2008 9:26:27 AM)

I believe it has to do with God's will and timing.

I am at peace with this. It really helps me to pursue God's calling and studies in my life with no kids involved or hubby in the picture. I am pretty sure if I had only one kid, that would have put lots of strain on me. I only have one cutie kitty whom I consider as my child and daughter.

Besides, I minister a lot to people and that would have been not easy had I been married.

I firmly believe that the best Christians in the world are singles. Jesus is Every thing in our life!!!! [;)]

In fact Jesus is the LOVER of my soul; He is like my hubby and He is the Ideal and Perfect Hubby!

When we have Jesus in our life; we don't need any other lover or fiance! [sm=heart.gif]



Blazingson -> RE: Why are you still single? (6/21/2008 11:56:02 AM)

I think it's because my German Shepherd is a mite over protective. The last time I had a date over he kept staring at her from across the room and growled all evening. Of course it could've been 'cause she was sitting in his chair too.



soleyyoun -> RE: Why are you still single? (6/21/2008 1:12:57 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Blazingson

I think it's because my German Shepherd is a mite over protective. The last time I had a date over he kept staring at her from across the room and growled all evening. Of course it could've been 'cause she was sitting in his chair too.



Hahah...that's very funny
I'm single b/c I am!...that's all it is to it!..God knows best!..it sucks at times though



OneOfHisJewels -> RE: Why are you still single? (6/21/2008 1:18:03 PM)

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I struggle with a lot of things so I wonder if I'm just cursed by God sometimes and will never be blessed with a wife.


You are NOT cursed by God. Remember in the Bible how it says singleness is a GIFT (hard to believe, at times, I know, I understand). Remember too, the verse about how it is better to live on a corner of a rooftop than in a house with a contentious woman. Better to wait for the right one. Plus you are single NOW, but that doesn't nesc. mean you will be single forever.



Blazingson -> RE: Why are you still single? (6/21/2008 1:19:30 PM)

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ORIGINAL: soleyyoun

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ORIGINAL: Blazingson

I think it's because my German Shepherd is a mite over protective. The last time I had a date over he kept staring at her from across the room and growled all evening. Of course it could've been 'cause she was sitting in his chair too.



Hahah...that's very funny
I'm single b/c I am!...that's all it is to it!..God knows best!..it sucks at times though




I does suck sometimes ,doesn't it? I all honesty I suppose I just haven't met a lady that can tell the difference between a real man and a jerk that's posing. I've had my share of girlfriends in my time but they all seem to wind up married to jerks that treat them like dirt once the ring is on the finger.



OneOfHisJewels -> RE: Why are you still single? (6/21/2008 1:45:29 PM)

As to why I'm still single, I guess there is several reasons.
1. God planned it that way.
2. When I was in my early 20's I rejected the guy that did want to marry me. He married someone else so it obviously wasn't meant to be.



Ironworker -> RE: Why are you still single? (6/21/2008 2:19:38 PM)

Its about providence and principals isn't it? I had a very poor self image when younger,experience a lot of rejection at Gods allowance . God could've made things different like he did for countless others.So I developed social anxiety fears,no self confidence . To medicate my self I ate too much and smoked grass and used cocain. So now those were huge red flags.By the grace of almighty God those things are long gone. I've lost a great deal of weight many poeple say I'm young for my age and a late bloomer. I'm active in a large singles group that is 17 miles away. Burn too much gas to be going out there more then a few times a month. Tonight I'll be there for a "Tables for Six" monthly dinner social. I've heard 10,000 marriage horror stories. Women to me are very complex. Yet I have a huge desire to be married. Prayers needed as I pray for fellow singles.



BeautifulFemale -> RE: Why are you still single? (6/21/2008 4:50:03 PM)

I'm single because the Christian guys who like me are too young or else don't know what they want/have no direction in their life AND because the non-Christian guys who want me, just want me for one thing at this point. Older men and younger Non-Christians have approached me, but I mean, where would we be going? I can pray for them, but I'm better THAN that:D



Prairiehiker -> RE: Why are you still single? (6/21/2008 11:41:44 PM)

My honest assessment of why I'm still single. I think even if God had sent a man knocking on my door with a note from God that this is the guy I'm supposed to marry, I doubt if I would ever believe it. Though I've always wanted to get married, I spent years not knowing what I truly want and what would be good for me in terms of relationships. I think it's just the last few years that God has done a lot of transformation in me that I am probably in a place emotionally to be able to handle a long term relationship. So, I think I'm single because I would not know how to be married so God didn't send the right man my way and the ones that did come, I did everything in my power to sabotage those relationships.



rose19 -> RE: Why are you still single? (6/22/2008 12:13:32 AM)

I believe that the reason why I'm still single is because it isn't the right time for me to be in a relationship. God knows whats best for me, and I trust Him that it will happen in the right time, but I must be patient. I also believe that God is preparing my husband just like He is preparing me! Then when the time is right, we will meet, and it will be better than I could have ever imagined!! [:D]



BugLady -> RE: Why are you still single? (6/22/2008 12:46:08 AM)

Why am I still single? Well, it's kind of a long story. And people tend not to believe it, even though I lived through it. It's not because God's still working on me, because He's never gonna be done with that. It's not because of anything I've done or not done. I've not done anything worse than anyone else who remains single. Who knows? If I had to guess why I'm still single, I'd say it's because I'm living with something that most people just don't understand... and until God sends someone my way who does understand, single it is.



broyce1981 -> RE: Why are you still single? (6/22/2008 7:40:04 AM)

What a difficult question to try and answer! In truth, it is probably for a combination of a lot of reasons that lead to me being single. I do have a tendency to think that it's only because of my flaws. I know that's faulty thinking but I tend to believe it far too often.

I think I've become more selective about who I would marry as I've gotten older as I've learned more about myself and what qualities in a wife would make for a good partner for me. So perhaps I've gotten too picky. But after reading a few threads in the marriage folder I realize it's better to be single than with somebody who is not right for me!



thedivabrat -> RE: Why are you still single? (6/22/2008 4:16:40 PM)

I am still single for many reasons--when I was young I was just having fun and didn't give marriage much thought--then when I was older I thought if I wanted children I better look for someone to marry-but it seemed the timing was always off--now that I am older still I don't want to marry-guess I am too used to having things my way or no way --that's the divabrat thing!



John_O -> RE: Why are you still single? (6/22/2008 6:07:26 PM)

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ORIGINAL: totalfaith

Why do you think you're still single - is it sin in your life or something else? I struggle with a lot of things so I wonder if I'm just cursed by God sometimes and will never be blessed with a wife.



I'm single because my wife was on a different schedule than I was. So now I'm waiting for my new wife to spend the rest of my life with. God will provide.



makarizo -> RE: Why are you still single? (6/22/2008 6:11:38 PM)

I am still single because that is what I choose to be.
a very good, very personal reason, a handful (at least 10) know why, and it really wouldn't make much sense unless one walked 2 miles in my shoes.

they wouldn't want to give me my shoes back.



Grace-N-Mercy -> RE: Why are you still single? (6/22/2008 6:22:19 PM)

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ORIGINAL: totalfaith

Why do you think you're still single - is it sin in your life or something else? I struggle with a lot of things so I wonder if I'm just cursed by God sometimes and will never be blessed with a wife.


Totalfaith, I feel your struggle... I really do. But I think these are the wrong questions. You're assuming that something's wrong with you... and that may be the furthest thing from the truth.

Let me quote some statistics to put this in perspective:

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According to the U.S. Census Bureau, the number of singles has more than quadrupled in the last 30 years. In 1970, there were only 21.4 million singles. In the 2000 census that figure has risen to a whopping 81 million. In fact, the 2006 American Community Survey shows that the number of singles may be passing the 100 million mark.... The Christian community is not immune to this cultural phenomenon, with singles' groups in local churches being one of the fastest growing populations.


Now THAT many people can't all have something wrong with them. You're not alone, and God's not cursing you. [:)]



shemaromans -> RE: Why are you still single? (6/22/2008 6:56:20 PM)

I was told recently in a very kind way that my family's crazy, so I guess I'm single because a man hasn't come along that's crazy enough to marry into it. [8D]



Ironworker -> RE: Why are you still single? (6/23/2008 1:35:34 AM)

Grace and Mercy I really loved what you said and also the facts you provided. I think you'll have many rewards awaiting you in Heaven. Could I give you a call in heaven some time. What a kind person you must be.



saraimay75 -> RE: Why are you still single? (6/23/2008 2:00:03 AM)

I have difficulty reaching out.

I don't drive so getting out is a little more difficult.

The church I am currently going to is huge. I go because the Pastor gives me the message that I need to hear.

I tried a Life Group which is what the call their bible study groups. But it was all women and too big and I wanted a group of men and women.

I got real busy with school and I want to keep my grades up because I already flunked out once. And I need a good GPA so Vocational Rehab will pay for school and books. Plus it is what God has called me to do.

The major I have chosen is 90% women. The menn who are there are to old, to young or not Christian.



sunshinesoprano -> RE: Why are you still single? (6/23/2008 8:56:29 AM)

It's always a struggle. You see others so happy in their marriages and with their little families and it makes a sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach.

Someone once told me that I needed to stop coveting the lives of others and be grateful for the one I have now.

I'm very blessed, and while I know that God gave me a promise that when it was His time, it would bring Him glory and be amazing, it's hard to wait.

I've always thought it was because of my appearance that I was still single. And there are days when I'm thoroughly convinced that that's true. But I know that there are other reasons and that God is truly waiting for the right time. Someone else's life is involved besides mine.



APreciousOne -> RE: Why are you still single? (6/23/2008 2:18:12 PM)

I'm still single because I won't put up with being lied to and mistreated by so-called "Christian" men.



_prissy_ -> RE: Why are you still single? (6/23/2008 2:25:51 PM)

I'm still single b/c God hasn't brought the right guy into my life.

I dated a man that i was going to marry. He was Indian so when he left to ask his parents for their blessing and support they made him choose between me and them. They would disown him if he married me. So he chose them. That has really affected me and torn me apart. I know God has A LOT of work to do in my life so when God brings me the right Christian man, i know He has totally healed me.



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