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RE: Does a job title affect attractiveness?? - 7/6/2008 11:14:45 PM
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mutinywxgirl
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Interesting topic!
Yes, the title does affect how I view someone. I am attracted to education, and while I realize there are some really stupid educated people, it does get me to look more closely. When I see only a HS education, I tend to look right past.
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RE: Does a job title affect attractiveness?? - 7/6/2008 11:32:39 PM
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Well, let's see.
Which one of the five groups would make you take notice when you meet them? Would you act differently to any of them because of their profession. I know I would. Group 2 and 5 would make my radar go crazy, but I would not even bat an eye to the rest. Well, construction worker who looks good wearing a toolbelt always gets me, lol. Yeah, it does make a difference to me, initially. But, in the long run, it's the same as looks. It only goes so far.
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Pastor
Music Director in a church
Youth pastor
Group 2
Firefighter
Emergency responder
Police Officer
Marine
FBI agent
Search and rescue
Group 3
CEO/CFO
President
VP of Finance
Doctor
Lawyer
Group 4
Construction worker
Cashier
Garbage truck operator
Janitor
Street sweeper
Gas pump attendant
Group 5
Tour de France 7 time Champion
High Altitude Climber
Rock Climber
NFL Quarterback
Boston marathon champion
Let's add a group 6 for the guys
Victoria secret model
Playboy Playmate
Actress
Flight attendant
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RE: Does a job title affect attractiveness?? - 7/7/2008 12:28:52 AM
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I've wondered about this. I'll be a Pharm.D. when I am finished with my education (but will most likely not be called "Doctor). Guys, would this bother you?
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RE: Does a job title affect attractiveness?? - 7/7/2008 12:37:55 AM
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How about if the woman says she's a Victoria Secret model, an actress, a playboy playmate, would you react differently to her if she said that she is Wal Mart cashier?
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RE: Does a job title affect attractiveness?? - 7/7/2008 12:44:09 AM
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Personally, I am attracted to women who have a clear sense of where they are headed and I'm not so sure that can be comparmentalized into job titles. I think it's normal to flounder a bit in the earlier years but when someone is her late 20's or early 30's and still doesn't have any clear sense of what she wants in life, I would have to put the "Return to Sender" sticker on her (lol). Aside from vocation, I am very attracted to women who genuinely devoted to God. I am least attracted to the "distressed damsel" types who are simply looking for someone to take care of them but have too much drama in their lives to be available for a healthy relationship.
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RE: Does a job title affect attractiveness?? - 7/7/2008 1:01:38 AM
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I've wondered about this. I'll be a Pharm.D. when I am finished with my education (but will most likely not be called "Doctor). Guys, would this bother you?
Bothered by what? Not having the official title of a doctor? I would be far more concerned about what type of person you are all around, not just your level of education.
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How about if the woman says she's a Victoria Secret model, an actress, a playboy playmate, would you react differently to her if she said that she is Wal-Mart cashier?
I'll be honest with you. I would have more respect for the Wal-Mart Cashier. I have a major issue with women who feel it's okay to use their physical appearance to make a living by exploiting the emotions of weak men. So in this context, some job descriptions do matter because they testify about the character of a person.
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RE: Does a job title affect attractiveness?? - 7/7/2008 1:41:34 AM
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I think it's normal to flounder a bit in the earlier years but when someone is her late 20's or early 30's and still doesn't have any clear sense of what she wants in life,
Well, some people had things happen to them like, uh, getting deathly sick their senior year of college, and taking years to recover, and um had a couple different jobs, but healthwise couldn't keep up.. 
Be careful before you judge.
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RE: Does a job title affect attractiveness?? - 7/7/2008 1:45:55 AM
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Since my dad was a Navy chaplain, I always said I didn't care what my husband's job was as long as it wasn't pastor or military. Pastor because I know the pressure is too much for me, and military because I am a roots person. I get very attached to even a house.
I really don't care how my husband earns his money as long as he isn't a bank robber or something, and as long as he is good at managing the money he does get.
And keep in mind, some people are disabled and have to live on a disability income and that is not their fault.
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RE: Does a job title affect attractiveness?? - 7/7/2008 1:57:57 AM
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I think it's normal to flounder a bit in the earlier years but when someone is her late 20's or early 30's and still doesn't have any clear sense of what she wants in life,
Well, some people had things happen to them like, uh, getting deathly sick their senior year of college, and taking years to recover, and um had a couple different jobs, but healthwise couldn't keep up..
Be careful before you judge.
Yep, sometimes the unexpected happens and it changes everything. A career ending injury/illness and then a protracted "legal battle" and then the unimaginable. I couldn't have dreamed up my present circumstances if I'd tried. I know what I want, I've just been up against a lot of resistance for reasons I have yet to understand.
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RE: Does a job title affect attractiveness?? - 7/7/2008 8:19:28 AM
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You know, what someone does for a living doesn't have too much to do with how attracted I am to someone. Yes, there are some occupations I would looooove to be married to (military specifically) but I'm not going to turn my nose up on someone just because he does something different.
Nor am I going to turn my nose up on someone who only has a high school diploma. Mostly because that's all I have. I did go to college but didn't finish. Does that make me less desirable to someone? *shrug* If so it's his loss.
I find this thread to be almost superficial or judgmental for lack of a better term but that's just me.
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RE: Does a job title affect attractiveness?? - 7/7/2008 8:54:28 AM
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Yeah, I honestly think it does, in some respects. If I see something really general like, "Retail" on a profile or something, I'm thinking...okay this guy could sell hot dogs on the street but doesn't want to disclose...OR he could be a top-salesman at some fancy schmanzy place and doesn't want to brag. I'd prefer disclosure.
Ten years ago, I would have said I wanted a CEO, Scientist, or something like that. I also used to pretend all I listened to was classical music because it was expected. Now I would prefer to have someone who is more down to earth, less driven by career and more able to do stuff like fix a broken sink...and the hands and strength of a working man seem to make me swoon a bit.
Amazing what a little time will do.
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RE: Does a job title affect attractiveness?? - 7/7/2008 1:03:51 PM
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I agree with trainfan: it's more about ambition (of a godly sort) and motivation than it is about mere job title.
Some job titles tell you very little about what the person actually does...... or even if the person is truly qualified to have that job! (Some folks get promotions merely b/c they made nice with the ones doing the promoting!)
And in my experience, no two people with the same job title have the same combination of innate talent and strengths and of skills and experience.
But being honest here.... hypothetically speaking, if I met a guy at church and knew very little about him other than he had some kind of blue-collar job, then I wouldn't be highly interested in his pursuing me for dating. If I found out that he was otherwise very intelligent, is a lifelong learner, and has a huge amount of mechanical/kinesthetic/spatial intelligence (which are the areas I'm weaker in) and just prefers the job he's in and has other interests than merely, say, fixing cars, then I'd consider going out with him if he wanted to go out with me. (His being a believing Christian is a given in this hypothetical.)
In fact, I know a married couple like this. The husband is a very talented mechanic who is very brainy and loves to read and happens also to love fixing cars (and is really good at it). And the wife is a scientific type who works (or did at the time) for Dupont and who also loves to read. Their home was filled with books! (I love that!) They both were interested in discussions of a philosophical/intellectual/spiritual bent. And they had friends at our church who were of all sorts of personalities and backgrounds. Plus, they were great people all around.
So...... I've learned.... a particular job/job title/job field only says so much about a person. Get to know the entire person. And that takes willingness to take time to get to know him/her.
Make sense?
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RE: Does a job title affect attractiveness?? - 7/7/2008 1:13:32 PM
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Elenas post reminded me of a story I read in a magazine a while back. The story was about a doctor who was very intelligent and skilled at what he did but he hated it. He quit his job in the hospital and became a truck driver and absolutely loved it. He did still work on Saturdays in the Emergency Room at a local hospital a couple times a month to keep his certifiactions current but his real job title was truck driver.
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RE: Does a job title affect attractiveness?? - 7/7/2008 1:30:51 PM
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Elenas post reminded me of a story I read in a magazine a while back. The story was about a doctor who was very intelligent and skilled at what he did but he hated it. He quit his job in the hospital and became a truck driver and absolutely loved it. He did still work on Saturdays in the Emergency Room at a local hospital a couple times a month to keep his certifiactions current but his real job title was truck driver.
That kind of brings me to the point I never made, but was thinking about. I want to be a Stay at home wife and mom someday. Even if I don't have kids, I want to be a stay at home wife(weird, I know), so that I can put everything into making a nice life for my husband. And if a wife is truly trying to please her husband, she should be more concerned that he is working where he is happy and where his talents are best used, then her own presige or social standing.
The college I went to had a lot of wealthy people on one side of it. These people liked to hire girls from our college to babysit for them. Then on the other side of the collge, there was a poorer neighborhood, and those people, although they didn't pay as much, also liked to get girls from our colllege to babysit. While at the time, I was very thankful for the money I made on the front side, all the families on the front side were the same--like plastics--because they kept up with the latest decorating trends, the houses were all the same, because they all had the same landscapers, the yards were all the same, they kids went to the same public elementary, which because of the location, was more like a private school, the kids all went to one of three private schools, either the all girl's school, the all boy's school, or the prep school that was co-ed, the women were always keeping up with the latest trends, so they all dressed the same, the dads all golfed, and the moms all played tennis, and everybody went skiiing in the winter.
On the poorer side of the mountain, each person had their own style of dress, the houses and gardens were unique, the kids had unique personalities, and were there was a variety of public, christian, and home schoolers, and the wives had hobbies geared toward their own personalities-some liked to read, some liked to sew, some liked to collect things, etc.
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RE: Does a job title affect attractiveness?? - 7/7/2008 1:31:06 PM
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I'll admit to being old fashioned in this area.
It's my job as the husband to make a living. It's her job as the wife to make a life (See the distinction?). I am the provider for the family.
What she does for a living is not going to detract from her attractiveness to me (as long as she's otherwise attractive to me that is). While I prefer teachers and nurses almost any job or career she has would be fine as long as it's something she enjoys doing.
(After we were married she would probably work for a couple years just to get established here if need be and then she could either work or not as she saw fit for her family)
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Or what if she has a title that has a "liberal" connotation? Is that an immediate turn-off? 
The job title wouldn't be the turn off as much as the liberalism. I don't associate with liberals generally and wouldn't date one at all. Now if it turns out that she had a brain but was trapped in a typically liberal field that would be a different story. (For example, say she's an ecologist but a conservative. Most ecologists are liberal commie tree-huggers so the entire field gets a bad rep. But there are some conservatives who want to inject some sanity into the field. I could deal with, and support, that)
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RE: Does a job title affect attractiveness?? - 7/7/2008 1:41:13 PM
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(After we were married she would probably work for a couple years just to get established here if need be and then she could either work or not as she saw fit for her family)
I hope this isn't offensive for me to say in any way, but in my hopefully humble opinion, I think it would be best for your wife to stay home right from the start..your girl needs a mommy again, you need a wife again, and in your situation, it will be likely that your wife will have relocated, and she'll be going through enough adjustments with the move, her new role as a mom, etc without having to worry about a job, too. You've said you could afford that, I think it's best to start in the lifestyle you ulitmately want right away. And if something happened to you, I believe God will provide the way for her no matter what.
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RE: Does a job title affect attractiveness?? - 7/7/2008 1:44:11 PM
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Let's keep it on topic, folks!
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Thanks for the reminder, Lisa!