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RE: husband wants to be a swinger - 8/20/2008 7:10:20 AM
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deliveredarling
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Another thought occured to me:
Does he use the Word of God against you, telling you that you need to be submissive to your husband?
Any person who asks you to set aside your convictions for their personal pleasure is not about a healthy relationship. They are only concerned with themselves.
Anyone who who compels the usage of the Word to get one to compromise is all about emotional blackmail.
You don't have to answer this one, did ya'll have sex before the marriage? Was there any sign of this pre marriage or did it begin after marriage?
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RE: husband wants to be a swinger - 8/24/2008 9:58:29 PM
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buckifn
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This is a couple problem, not just a hubby problem. Nothing is too big for God, nothing!
you nailed it deliver.
one reason it is a COUPLE problem is that the wife AGREED to parts of this situation when it was first presented to her.
sex with a 17 yr old girl is not a crime in many states and the wife has not said anything about him showing sexual desire for the girl.
I don't see that as too big of a situation for God to handle. If we read much of the Bible at all we know God openly receives all of us who honestly seek Him.
It isn't shocking to God at all for a man to desire more than 1 woman. The Bible is filled with stories of men who had 100's of them. I think God's Word shows us clearly He can forgive all that.
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RE: husband wants to be a swinger - 8/24/2008 10:08:42 PM
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bzirk
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Why does it even matter if having sex with a 17 year old is legal or not? And why does it matter if this husband has expressed interest in the daughter or not? Those things are irrelevant to this situation.
If the man is depraved enough to actually advertise for someone to have sex with in addition to his wife, no 17 year old girl who is not his daughter should be living in the same house with him. About that simple.
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RE: husband wants to be a swinger - 8/24/2008 10:23:40 PM
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bzirk
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I think God's Word shows us clearly He can forgive all that.
God can forgive anything but rejection of Him, and certainly we are called to forgive as well. But that's not the point. The point is about trust and from what the op has told us (and that's all we can comment on -- what she's told us), this man is not trustworthy.
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RE: husband wants to be a swinger - 8/25/2008 7:27:03 AM
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buckifn
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The point is about trust and from what the op has told us (and that's all we can comment on -- what she's told us), this man is not trustworthy.
Did you read the OP first post? I didn't see anything saying she doesn't trust him. I read that her husband told her his plan, she agreed with it, and now that he went online and placed an ad for something she agreed to she now has second thoughts and fear about it. I also read she does NOT want to give up on her marriage because of this.
Maybe I missed something, but that's what I saw the op saying.
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RE: husband wants to be a swinger - 8/25/2008 7:36:23 AM
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bzirk
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I read it.
The issue seems to be that she does not trust her own judgement, and especially of this man's character. It's appropriate to make it plain to her that the boundaries she has allowed are not healthy, and that it has her daughter, as well as her, in a precarious situation.
But taking your viewpoint, let's say that she found out the husband was attracted to children but hadn't done anything about it yet -- only in the talking stages. How would you feel about this situation then?
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and a hearty thumbs up to everyone else who had concerns about the daughter. 
