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RE: How does your pastor's wife refer to her husband? - 9/26/2008 9:19:15 PM
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Karaboo2
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Around most, it's his first name ... around those of us with really young kids, he's referred to as "the tired daddy" (they just had their first child a few weeks ago)
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RE: How does your pastor's wife refer to her husband? - 9/30/2008 4:45:46 PM
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It depends on whom she is addressing, to an adult who is new to the church it might be Pastor ___________. Except for our children's pastor who hates being called Pastor. He's young and feels like it's pretentious(sp?). So he's just Chip. If its someone who is a regular attender it's just the first name.
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RE: How does your pastor's wife refer to her husband? - 10/1/2008 3:37:58 PM
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ChelaW
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If she's talking to the congregation, she'll say "Bishop", which is what everyone else calls him. But it's not uncommon for them to call each other "honey" if they're talking to each other in front of others.
I go to a HUGE, famous church, so that may make a bit of a difference. But I think she would refer to him as Bishop even in a one-on-one conversation.
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RE: How does your pastor's wife refer to her husband? - 10/1/2008 4:50:27 PM
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Hmm. It depends on the context, our pastor's wife usually refers to him by his first name. Sometimes, when discussing church plans, she mentions that she ran it by the pastor. I can imagine the conversations in their house: um, honey, I need to talk to my pastor about this idea that I have...
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RE: How does your pastor's wife refer to her husband? - 10/2/2008 12:18:07 PM
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My Pastor goes by Pastor Lastname to everyone. If his wife refers to him in conversation, she refers to him as Pastor. It seems weird to me that a wife would reference her husband, who has the same last name as se by using his last name, so it is usually Pastor. Occasionally it will be "my husband" but she will never use his first name in conversation, even with those members she is closest to. He is young. We got him fresh out of the sem at age 26 3 yrs ago. B4 he came, the congregation, who had never had a pastor this young b4, and never had one fresh out of sem, asked the question as to what he wished o be called. Would it be Pastor Firstname, Pastor Lastname, or Rev. Lastname, etc? He replied without any blinking that it would always be, to everyone in the church, Pastor Lastname. I was surprised by this. I had thot that since he was so young (only 1 yr older than my son, so I could easily have been his mom), that he would go by Pastor Firstname, but he really doesn't want that. He has neices and nephews (by marriage, they are actually his wife's neices and nephews) who call him Uncle Firstname, and those kids aren't even 10 yrs younger than he. I would think with such a small age diff, they could call their Aunt and Uncle by their first names, but no, they are told they MUST call them Aunt and Uncle b/c it's "respectful". To me, this aunt and uncle could easily be older sibs of these kids. They both have an air of formality about them. They aren't really stand-offish, but it looks like they are if all you know is what I've just told you. Also, I have a feeling that he never goes by a shortened version of his name, but the whole name. His name is David, and I have a hunch that he always goes by David, never Dave. That also seems a little weird to me. All the other Davids I have ever known allow people to call them Dave. It's a moot point in church however, since no one can call him anything but a title and his last name, or just the title.
The onkly reason I know this is b/c some of his neices and nephews have visited, sometimes spent the whole summer, and they ALWAYS call him and refer to him as Uncle David, never Uncle Dave.
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RE: How does your pastor's wife refer to her husband? - 10/2/2008 4:31:36 PM
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Hmm, that's interesting. I wonder if it's something he was taught in seminary? I have heard some people say that if you just let anything go, people won't respect you as a leader and that you need to be upfront and let them know what's expected. I don't agree with that, since I believe respect is earned, but I've heard that from different people.
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RE: How does your pastor's wife refer to her husband? - 10/3/2008 12:32:28 PM
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My husband is my Senior Pastor... so when I refer to him to others, I say, "Pastor Dave asked me to give this to you." It is out of respect for his position. He also does the same in return... saying something like, "Pastor Debi, will you lead us in prayer."
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RE: How does your pastor's wife refer to her husband? - 10/3/2008 2:19:37 PM
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My Pastor goes by Pastor Lastname to everyone. If his wife refers to him in conversation, she refers to him as Pastor. It seems weird to me that a wife would reference her husband, who has the same last name as se by using his last name, so it is usually Pastor. Occasionally it will be "my husband" but she will never use his first name in conversation, even with those members she is closest to. He is young. We got him fresh out of the sem at age 26 3 yrs ago. B4 he came, the congregation, who had never had a pastor this young b4, and never had one fresh out of sem, asked the question as to what he wished o be called. Would it be Pastor Firstname, Pastor Lastname, or Rev. Lastname, etc? He replied without any blinking that it would always be, to everyone in the church, Pastor Lastname. I was surprised by this. I had thot that since he was so young (only 1 yr older than my son, so I could easily have been his mom), that he would go by Pastor Firstname, but he really doesn't want that. He has neices and nephews (by marriage, they are actually his wife's neices and nephews) who call him Uncle Firstname, and those kids aren't even 10 yrs younger than he. I would think with such a small age diff, they could call their Aunt and Uncle by their first names, but no, they are told they MUST call them Aunt and Uncle b/c it's "respectful". To me, this aunt and uncle could easily be older sibs of these kids. They both have an air of formality about them. They aren't really stand-offish, but it looks like they are if all you know is what I've just told you. Also, I have a feeling that he never goes by a shortened version of his name, but the whole name. His name is David, and I have a hunch that he always goes by David, never Dave. That also seems a little weird to me. All the other Davids I have ever known allow people to call them Dave. It's a moot point in church however, since no one can call him anything but a title and his last name, or just the title.
The onkly reason I know this is b/c some of his neices and nephews have visited, sometimes spent the whole summer, and they ALWAYS call him and refer to him as Uncle David, never Uncle Dave.
Whatever the reason, and regardless of his age, he was asked what he wanted to be called and told everyone so. You seem to really focus on age. Perhaps that is why he chose this form of address, to remind those who would only see a young man that that same young man is also the pastor.
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RE: How does your pastor's wife refer to her husband? - 10/8/2008 11:56:39 PM
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echunt
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Our previous Pastors wife ALWAYS referred to him as "Brother Smith" didn't matter if she was talking about him or talking to him, and she would correct anyone that called him by his first name.
It became a joke with my husband and I. Now he calls me "Sister Hunt"..when he wants me to glare at him.
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RE: How does your pastor's wife refer to her husband? - 10/9/2008 11:24:44 AM
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echunt
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Thank you! Good to be here.
Only time I ever heard her call him by his first name was in front of half the church and it had a couple of four letter words attached to it.
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RE: How does your pastor's wife refer to her husband? - 10/14/2008 10:46:27 PM
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There's a few ladies in the church that call me "Sister Lisa". I think it's a little odd sounding, but that's just how they've been raised.
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RE: How does your pastor's wife refer to her husband? - 10/14/2008 10:49:53 PM
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Our pastor's wife usually refers to him by his first name - Dan - unless it's not clear she's talking about her husband, then she refers to him as 'my husband, Dan'. We're a small congregation, less than 200 and we have at least 5 men name Dan in the congregation. Our associate pastor is named Marc, and we have a few others as well, so to clarify when talking with others we usually call them 'Pastor Dan' and 'Pastor Marc'.
Then there's the fun of clarifying which Dan...Pastor Dan, Danny Jones, Dan Jones (yup, two Dan Jones as well), Dan the photographer, etc.
We always refer to Pastor Dan as 'Pastor Dan' with the kids. Otherwise we adults simply address him by his first name, no title. I love that!
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RE: How does your pastor's wife refer to her husband? - 10/15/2008 9:11:15 AM
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echunt
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Thank you! Good to be here.
Only time I ever heard her call him by his first name was in front of half the church and it had a couple of four letter words attached to it.
Wow!  You can't be serious.
"Mike" is what my pastor's wife calls him and that's what we all call him too. We are a very informal church.
Sad to say I am not joking. The good news is we have a wonderful new preacher!
They call each other brother and sister but use their first names. I personally think the brother sister thing is a bit much.
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RE: How does your pastor's wife refer to her husband? - 10/17/2008 9:46:22 PM
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When she's talking to someone else, and referencing her husband, how does she refer to him? By his first name? As the pastor?
Example: "Hi, Mrs. Smith. _______ wanted me to give you this Sunday School curriculum."
What goes in the blank, if that someone is the pastor and you are married to him?
For me, I just say his first name. I would say, "Erick wanted me to give this to you." But I've heard others say, "The Pastor wanted me to give this to you".
I was just curious to see what other people do.
I'm very close with my Pastor and his wife and their 14 month old twins, and even when we're just doing errands together, she refers to him as "Pastor Hart...". I think it depends on the company she's in. While at church it's Pastor, at home in front of church members, it's Pastor, but I'm sure in front of her family and friends it's Jim.
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RE: How does your pastor's wife refer to her husband? - 10/17/2008 11:17:31 PM
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I've always just been referred to by my first name only, but during introductions by others, they will say, "This is ___, our Student Pastor." The church I'm in now is the most casual church I've served in, but everyone here calls me "Pastor ___". I tell people individually that they don't have to do that, but they insist. We're in a heavy military area, so it's the first time the youth have ever called me "Sir". It's a respect thing I understand, but it's new to me.
My bride, OTOH, always calls me by my name and the other staff and leadership are the same with each other, too.
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RE: How does your pastor's wife refer to her husband? - 10/18/2008 1:02:41 AM
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Janeyh
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My pastor's wife refers to him as either Bob or my husband. Everyone else in the congregation uses Pastor Bob, or just Pastor. Many people also refer to his wife as Pastor Joanne. That also goes for the associate pastors and their wives.
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