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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/1/2008 5:09:30 PM
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DenimDiva
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Deb- a good place to start is with a complete physical examination.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/1/2008 5:10:13 PM
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I'm really struggling with my meds making me sleepy. I even had the drs. permission to cut the dose in half and they are still wiping me out. Remember that the stress you've been under recently can be a contributing factor to the tiredness you are feeling.
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Once a cycle like this starts it usually just gets worse and worse. Last time they were able to bring me back to normal with Zyprexa Can you not go back on zyprexa? If it helped before and you're recognising that you're starting to cycle surely it would be best to speak with your psychiatrist again in the next day or so to discuss whether it'd be worth giving it a try?
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How do you know if your depressed, hormonal, peri meno., staring menoppause or just plain lazy and not letting the Holy Spirit take control????? Welll... it can be difficult...
Does your depression fall into any kind of regular pattern (like with your monthly cycle?) or is it all over the place? You need to look at your heart and pray to find out if you're being lazy and not letting the Holy Spirit take charge. Starting the menopause can be a trigger for many women ~ often because whether they wanted more children or not it marks the end of their fertile years. Are there any events that have occured in your life that can be causing you to have depression? Have you ruled out any medical reasons (anaemia, hypothyroidism) that could be causing your depression? How long has your depression gone on for?
Whatever the reasons, it's often worth talking with a doctor to look at what's going on in your life right now. Sometimes a short course of antidepressants can help, sometimes a short course of counselling can help, sometimes a combination.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/1/2008 7:38:36 PM
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Golden1
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LOL, honestly no but since u brought it up, i do see where there i a link, but i do live in a podunk town. I have been in chat a couple times but not for long. Which, maybe i should go try now. ty for responding. GBU Goldie
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/2/2008 1:41:41 AM
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DenimDiva
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I went to Celebrate Recovery tonight and went to the Substance Abuse group. I was way out of my comfort zone. However, facing the substance abuse issue is way out of my comfort zone too.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/2/2008 6:37:14 PM
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Hi everyone! Its been awhile. I am continuing to go to my counseling and taking the meds. I have my bad days but for the most part, I feel better and I am making better decisions. I haven't flown off the handle in months. Not since I got on this medication and started the counseling.
My husband and I are still separated. He filed for legal separation and I responded with a divorce. Looking back on that decision, I don't know if that was the correct way to respond or not. I go back and forth. Maybe I should have just responded with the separation. Who knows at this point. He tells me he wants to reconcile but he has taken no steps in that direction. Among many things I have learned, over the past few months is, this time around, he is going to need to step up to the plate and do some things (like make a counseling appointment) before we can ever get back together. My emotional issues have always overwhelmed and overshadowed any of his issues (which he has plenty of) and he needs to work on himself before we can reconcile. I am not sure at this point, whether he is up to that or not.
He seems to be having fun hanging out with his friends and trying to find other women to date. I know that doesn't seem possible if he wants to reconcile but its true.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/2/2008 6:41:25 PM
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And you survived both  You may not think so Roberta, but you are displaying a great deal of courage in facing up to things in your life.
Thanks. That's sweet of you to say.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/3/2008 2:43:41 AM
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My husband received the first demand for a payee report today. He knows he's being audited and he's NOT pleased. He's saying he wants to stay together and work on things but then there's days like today - he wants me to just sign the form. No, I won't. I do NOT *know* those things to be true. I CANNOT vouch that the money was correctly spent - in the year 2004 - and I will not so state under penalty of perjury, esp. not when I've had to go begging relatives to cash gift cards I've earned just to have necessities like socks and undergarments. Nor will I so state when about the only thing I DID know for that year was that he attached his paypal to the trustee account (something that should NEVER have happened). Then he turns around and says that if I think I can do better, he'll give it up but if I become my own payee HE wants to still sign ALL checks (huh?) AND still track MY bank account. Nope.
Meanwhile, he wants me to keep insurance on the car - in MY name - when I've been told by a neuro-opthlamalogist (or however you spell that) not to drive because my vision problem is ocular migraines and I'm having so many of them - at least not till the ocular migraines are controlled - and this so HE (who has no license and is thus specifically excluded from the policy's coverage) "can drive"...when he learned today his retinopathy has gotten quite a it worse (both retinas are twice as thick as they should be and it's the reason he has had and/or couldhave transient blindness and thus SHOULD NOT DRIVE). Thus I'm being TOLD to keep insurance in my name with my SSDI so HE - who should not drive and who is not covered - can pretend to have insurance.
And now you have an idea why I haven't been posting more. This is the sort of stuff I've got at home all the time.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/3/2008 10:53:43 AM
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DenimDiva
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womaninChrist- your husband sounds similar to my soon-to-be-ex husband. I'm sorry that you have to go through all of this!
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I went to Celebrate Recovery tonight and went to the Substance Abuse group. I was way out of my comfort zone. However, facing the substance abuse issue is way out of my comfort zone too.
Excellent! It's bound to feel uncomfortable, on a number of levels.
It's much easier to run away from this kind of discomfort, and return to the familiar self-medicating comfort, whatever that may be. But if you can stick with it, and face it, you will become the stronger for it.
You're doing great. 
Thank you, that's very sweet of you to say. I'm trying to learn not to argue with compliments and to let them sink in, instead of ignoring them and to stand up to the negative things or let them slide, depending on how important they are.
Unfortunately, I set myself up for a critism the other day that was unwarranted. At the advice of my therapist, I have not had contact with my mom since Easter morning when she told me that she wouldn't be able to come for Easter dinner. Before that, she was undecided.
I called her Tuesday night to find out if she could come down for Mother's Day or if I could go up there to visit her. She said no because she has plans with her mom. That was ok with me because due to religious reasons, she can't eat certain foods. I was grateful to have advance notice that she wouldn't be here so I could plan the menu. I told her that I was sorry she wouldn't be able to make it and that I'd see her in June for my neice's graduation and then again for my son's graduation.
She then got upset with me because I didn't try harder to talk her into coming! She said it hurt her to think of the fact that I didn't want to spend time with her and that she wouldn't be in the same place where all of her children would be. I reminded her that she had the choice, we could go up there, she could come down her and she chose none of the above.
I changed the topic to how well Liz is adjusting and how much she likes our two churches that we've been attending. One church is a non-denominational church and the other is an A/G. I got a slam about how I was leading Liz down the pathway to hell because we aren't attending the church that she attends. 
I told her that she was welcome to call back when she didn't feel the need to critize or have a doctrinal debate. She continued down that path anyway. She didn't like the fact that I then hung up the phone and that I let voicemail get the next three or four calls from her.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/3/2008 3:07:30 PM
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womaninchrist
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Roberta, you sure we're not related some how? Your family sure seems to operate a lot like mine does.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/4/2008 12:27:26 AM
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Am asking for prayers, my cousin is coming up from Fla and she is having SI and rather than go to the hospital shes coming here. And her therapist approved it. She will be staying with my parents til Friday and she will stay the weekend with me. I am asking for prayers that she will renew in mind, body and spirit. Ty all so much. I have a question about chat as well. Are there ever planned topic chats????? GBU all , , ty u all so... Peace.. Goldie
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/6/2008 12:32:22 PM
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DenimDiva
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Roberta, you sure we're not related some how? Your family sure seems to operate a lot like mine does.
LOL! It's hard to tell with Noah loosing all the records in the flood. 
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Am asking for prayers, my cousin is coming up from Fla and she is having SI and rather than go to the hospital shes coming here. And her therapist approved it. She will be staying with my parents til Friday and she will stay the weekend with me. I am asking for prayers that she will renew in mind, body and spirit. Ty all so much. I have a question about chat as well. Are there ever planned topic chats????? GBU all , , ty u all so... Peace.. Goldie
I will pray for her. How are you doing?
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/7/2008 9:59:42 AM
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womaninchrist
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Roberta, you might have a point there.
Goldie, I'll be praying for you and your friend.
Question/prayer request. I'm being pressured to give a six month pause to my plans. Good friends down south (mutual friends I know well who know now what's been up) want us to move down there (and will even help make it possible) so that we - esp. he - can be held accountible. But there's a part of me that just does't know of this is a good idea. That part wants to bolt and bolt like yesterday. I at least need prayer for guidance and wisdom.
I'm also going to call and make a psychologist appointment. The doctors' collection number called and I answered (I intercepted the phone) and I explained yet again the payee situation and said "if you'd like to speak to him, he's right here" - so of course they spoke to him (and no, he was not pleased). Turns out even THEY don't understand what DSHS did with my MSP status (made us two families of one despite being married so I only get help with my Medicare premiums) and sent chairty care papers because we "definitely qualify for help" (and yes, those were returned). They also explained that I'm not supposed to be getting so badly harrassed by appointment desks about the bills - so many desks in their systems will be getting some refreshers...
Oh, and no matter what, I'm requesting change of payee. He still wants me to sign off on his spending (nope, not with his paypal attached and cable before medical bills and other necessities). He may have to go take advantage of our bank's free notary services... If he does make me sign, I'll be reporting the forced signature to the SSA and anyone they suggest I report it to - along with details about his spending habits. Maybe THEY can get the points across.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/7/2008 3:18:49 PM
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Hi you guys!
It has been a while since my computer flipped out on me. Hi Allie, I am glad you are staying with your meds, and things are starting to roll with your husband. You really can't live in suspense for much longer. He may be looking for different people to date, but that just confirms to you that you are doing the right thing by the choice you have made. I don't even know why he filed for separation when he is already out and looking. That is what my ex wanted to do, but since he already had something, I filed for divorce before he even had a chance.
Roberta, I hate sleepy meds. I have been playing around with different meds to make me sleep, but so far all I have gotten from them is a migrane, or that hungover feeling in the morning eventhough they didn't help me fall asleep any faster.
agapetos HI to you! And to everyone else.
I have been in the middle of trying to sell my home and we just had our inspection on the home we offered on so once our home is sold, we are ready to go. I am so glad for that because I have been running on nervous energy for the past couple of weeks. I just need to move because my neighbors are a bunch of drunks and are having some legal issues at the moment and I don't want my kids anywhere near one of them because of the type of legal issues.
I am praying that the offer that was made on my home goes through so that we can just get out of here fast. We did meet the owners of the house we are buying and they were the sweetest people. We talked for about half an hour because they came home as we were leaving our inspection. It is a good house and I want to grow old in it just like they did. Now they are moving to something smaller with less upkeep like an apartment. So I am asking for prayers for all of us involved in this. It is stressful but in the end will be well worth it.
Tracy
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/8/2008 1:31:19 PM
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DenimDiva
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WomaninChrist- I'll be in prayer for you.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/8/2008 2:13:27 PM
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WIC, I can see that you've got some serious issues with your DH. I will keep you in my prayers. Whatever else you do, DONT SIGN THAT PAYEE REPORT! Instead, notify SSA about his pressuring you to sign it, so they can tell you what to do about it. He is accountable to them for the money he spends on your behalf. If he signs a false report, then I'm pretty sure that they'll come after HIM for it. Just make sure that your signature is not on it as well.
Denim, I'm glad you're taking steps to recover from your various issues. It's too bad about your DM, but unfortunately, some people are like that. All I can suggest is that you forgive her and not let it jeopardize your own recovery.
Agapetos and crimson, Hi, to both of you and I'm praying for you as well.
Allie, from what I undestand about your situation, it sounds like you've made the right decision. If you need to, get counseling. If he doesn't want to go to counseling, don't let that stop you from getting the help you need. I'll also pray for you.
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As for me, I'm doing somewhat okay. I'm feeling good about the things that are going well in my life, but I'm concerned about my DGF, who has medical problems and doesn't know Christ. What's bad is that someone has to stay with him all the time. This can get old, when I have things I want to do and I can't do them because I have to watch him to make sure he is okay. I love him, of course, but sometimes I get frustrated at having to stay home and not do certain household tasks in order to keep an eye on him. Also, he is a cranky person at times and it's hard to live with him. All I can do is pray for him and hope that he'll receive Christ soon. I just need to be thankful for being able to help my DGF and love him as Christ loves me.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/8/2008 7:35:47 PM
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Golden1
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She didnt come up after all and is thinking about waiting til next week after mothers day. I am doing pretty good ty.. am new here... are there any topic chats ever??? ty for the prayers.. Goldie
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/10/2008 11:03:38 AM
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DenimDiva
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She didn't come up after all and is thinking about waiting til next week after mothers day. I am doing pretty good ty.. am new here... are there any topic chats ever??? ty for the prayers.. Goldie
Not sure what you mean by "topic chats" but there are chat threads in some of the forums.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/12/2008 2:38:03 AM
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On the advice of some others, I formally - as in with my name attached - reported him for payee fraud/abuse and included mentions of his plans for the report (he's planning to "figure up about what was probably spent") and for forcing my cosign. They now know EVRYTHING. My finagling for laundry money, my borrowing from family to get my service dog to the vet (and buy glasses so I can see), my sending gift cards to family so they'd go buy necessities and ship them to me, how we have cable but he hasn't paid anything to any docs, etc. They know how he put all bills in my name then trashed my credit by not paying bills in anything remotely resembling a timely manner. Even about how he has his PayPal attached to the trustee account. This could get interesting.
In the works are a stop by the local SSA office to demand a change of payee and a call to those who want us to move down south (they're thinking we can delay or even stop divorce by keeping my husband accountable to some fellow men) to make sure all of them are fully aware of what he's been pulling.
So please, continue keeping me in prayer.
Hi to all. I hope the recent quiet means all are ok. I've been keeping all in my prayers.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/12/2008 3:25:05 PM
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DenimDiva
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Caffeine can, and often does, lead me to panic attacks.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/13/2008 12:53:56 AM
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womaninchrist
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Me too. On a basically no anxiety day it doesn't bother me, but if I'm having even a hint of anxiety issues, an extra cup of coffee at all will have me doing a good impression of that old poster where the kitten hangs from the ceiling from his claws.
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